A male virgin and a much younger and more experienced girl - potential humiliation or a great opportunity?
Q. Hello! This isn't the first time I've asked a question that is in some way related to this topic, but I hope it will be the last! First, some important background information. Somehow I have managed to get to the grand old age of 27 while re...
A. 7 February 2012: I honestly don't think you need to say you are a virgin to anyone even the person you choose to loose it with. Just get on and do it and don't worry about having to admit it to anyone. At the end of the day this is your business and no one else ... (read in full...)
She wants me to have sex with someone else before we get married. What should I do?
Q. I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. It all started with “what would you do if..” questions. A few questions in, it was my turn: Me: “What’s the first thing you’d do if we broke up?” Her: “Hmm.. More girl’s nights! What’s the first ...
A. 27 January 2012: Scythe, just for the benefit of people who may not understand our down under slang, "root a bird" means have sex with a girl :-)... (read in full...)
My best friend never seems to have time for me! Should I just forget her and move on with my life?
Q. OK me and my best friend haven't hung out since the summer I guess because we both have been busy. I am a full time college student and work part time and she is a mother and works full time. Even though we have been busy we have stayed in touch via ...
A. 24 January 2012: Something is going on here and I understand where you are coming from because I have been in a similar situation. My solution was to go and make new friends and start spending time with them. All the best I know how much this hurts.... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with different prostitutes! Is this sexual behavior normal?
Q. I wanted two know if my sexual behavior is normal i started two have sex with prostitutes since i was 19 then it was not a big deal because i was only going to a prostitute every 30 days or more. But since I get every time more frustrated of not f...
A. 24 January 2012: Unprotected sex with a prostitute is dumb! Way dumb!!!... (read in full...)
I have obsessive thoughts of him..fancying someone else. How do I stop doing this?
Q. Please help I am wrecking my relationship with these obsessive thoughts about him fancying someone else... It can sometimes make me start fights. If I know he works with someone pretty i imagine him thinking about her while we make love, and i...
A. 23 January 2012: You need to actively stop yourself thinking these thoughts. By this I mean every time a thought like this comes into your head tell yourself to stop being silly and make yourself think about something else. This will take practice but the more you ... (read in full...)
He flirts with me but loves another! Help!
Q. there is this boy, he is amazing and i think i'm in love with him but the only trouble is he's in love with his ex yet he still leads me on and flirts with me, i really don't know what to do......
A. 23 January 2012: Tell him you are not interested in him until he sorts out his feelings for his ex and gets over her.... (read in full...)
I want to have a second baby but where's the potential dad?
Q. Im nearly 30 and im desperate for another child! I have a 7 yr old daughter I was with her father 5 yrs! I met a man who I was totally madly inlove with and I would of loved for him to be the father of my child, but love is blind and this man was ...
A. 23 January 2012: I didn't have my first child until I was 30 and had the last one at 35 so don't stress you are not running out of time.... (read in full...)
She wants me to have sex with someone else before we get married. What should I do?
Q. I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. It all started with “what would you do if..” questions. A few questions in, it was my turn: Me: “What’s the first thing you’d do if we broke up?” Her: “Hmm.. More girl’s nights! What’s the first ...
A. 23 January 2012: I say don't do it. It's a very weird thing for her to ask of you even given the history. Two wrongs don't make a right.... (read in full...)
I'm soo confused, and I genuinely like this guy. So what am I to make of him for turning into a totally disrespectful drunk?
Q. Gonna try make this short but please someone help me here or give me some insight. I like this guy and we talk and text alot and always flirt...I stayed over at his flat on friday night (no sex) and we talked for hours and watched movies and we ha...
A. 8 January 2012: Drink has a lot to answer for with relationship problems! People are not themselves when they drink. Add drunk texting to the mix and it's a recipe for disaster! Both of you got drunk and did silly things. I suggest talking to him about it sober ... (read in full...)
Should I continue this relationship? he's very aggressive, easily angered!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 weeks and we've been through so much trouble already! A few days after we got together he was going on at me because I had cheated in my last relationship, well, it was a drunken snog that I s...
A. 8 January 2012: No No No! Move on there are plenty more fish in the sea.... (read in full...)
I've got 3 guys in my life! I'm confused any advice?
Q. I am in this love triangle thing if you could call it that.... Well i like this guy for the past 2 yrs but he just started dating my best friend and then there is this other guy that i have kinda started liking but he just stopped talking to me and ...
A. 8 January 2012: Guy number 1 is off the market now so forget about him. Ask guy number 2 why he's not talking to you. And if you really like guy number 3 then go slowly maybe he's heard you like the other two as well and is frightened of being hurt.... (read in full...)
He's touching me and he's my boss! what should I do?
Q. My boss' boss and I have had this weird thing going and I need help! We've already told each other our attraction but he wrote to me that he likes me but can't do anything because of marriage, job, etc. I'm married as well and he started touching ...
A. 8 January 2012: Don't go there! It will be a disaster!!!! Tell him that you want to work on your marriage and you don't want him to touch you anymore. If he continues, threaten to report him for sexual harrassement. If he threatens to fire you, laugh in his ... (read in full...)
Not really a relationship question, but is anyone else downright disgusted by feet?
Q. Really weird question, but I was wondering if there was anyone else out there like me. I guess you could say it is sort of a relationship question if you tilt your head sideways and squint... But I have a horrible aversion to feet. I don't wa...
A. 8 January 2012: I don't find my feet the most attractive part of my body but I don't feel about them the way you do. I'm really glad they are there really. When you think of what your feet do for you they are pretty amazing things really. This does sound like ... (read in full...)
Ex has anger issues that has gone from me towards her children.What should I do?
Q. My Ex was very physical with me at times. Her anger got the better of her and she couldn't manage it that well. She bottled things up until it exploded. I was okay with it as long as it was towards me and not the kids, at least this way she could ...
A. 8 January 2012: Ooo I'm sorry I just realised that you do not live with her. However my answer that she needs help still stands. Call in the cavalry! Take the kids away and demand that she get some help.... (read in full...)
Ex has anger issues that has gone from me towards her children.What should I do?
Q. My Ex was very physical with me at times. Her anger got the better of her and she couldn't manage it that well. She bottled things up until it exploded. I was okay with it as long as it was towards me and not the kids, at least this way she could ...
A. 8 January 2012: Yes I would be worried this is not good. She really needs some therapy for this. No one should have to live with violence in their home. If necessary you should take the kids and move out if she wont do something about it. She needs help and so ... (read in full...)
14 and pregnant
Q. Hello, im 14 and i think im pregnant, what do i do?...
A. 8 January 2012: Oh sweetheart you really need to go to a doctor and if you can please please please tell your Mum. She will probably be shocked and even maybe a little dissapointed but she will stick by you and help you through this I guarantee it. You really ... (read in full...)
A male virgin and a much younger and more experienced girl - potential humiliation or a great opportunity?
Q. Hello! This isn't the first time I've asked a question that is in some way related to this topic, but I hope it will be the last! First, some important background information. Somehow I have managed to get to the grand old age of 27 while re...
A. 8 January 2012: I don't understand people who hassle virgins! Yay you well done for sticking to your guns and waiting for the right girl. My suggestion is to go to the library and get "The Joy of Sex" and some other such books and read up a storm. When the night ... (read in full...)
We had anal sex after vaginal sex...should I worry?
Q. Hi, i could really do with some advice... The other night I had unprotected anal sex with my partner and then vaginal straight afterwards. I know that is a no no but it was the heat of the moment; now I am worried that I could get an infection. I...
A. 8 January 2012: You are right this is a big no-no. Honestly if I were you I'd go to the doctor and get checked out. Then you can stop worrying.... (read in full...)
We had sex and now his texting is spotty. I'm always left feeling insecure and ignored, should I pursue this guy?
Q. Ok so before I start this is a lot of back forth history before the real problem starts. This guy I just started dating suddenly has a communication failure. We had sex for the first time, I stayed the night he made breakfast nothing wierd. That ...
A. 8 January 2012: He's a guy! He got what he wanted and now he doesn't have to try so hard with you. Back off and make him do the running.... (read in full...)
I am not overly expressive... Is this something to be concerned about in my relationship with my guy? It does concern him.
Q. I have been with my partner for over three (3) years. We are building a house together, and our lives are moving forward. He's 25, and sometimes he does feel a bit confused about his direction, career... But we talk about it. Last night, while maki...
A. 8 January 2012: The main thing that concerns me about your post is the fact that sex is painful for you sometimes. It shouldn't be painful. This is definately something for you to investigate why. As for the non overly expressive bit that's life. Some people l... (read in full...)
Guys only like me as a friend!
Q. I have had one real boyfriend and he had brain prblems and i was thinking is there something wrong with me? am i the friend type? am i ugly or is there something wrong with me? cause every guy i have like has liked me as a friend :/ ...
A. 7 January 2012: Trust me in the long run you will be the girl who has everyone hanging around you. Girls who are friends with lots of people are way more popular than girls who get in deep with people. When the time is right you will meet someone and have a ... (read in full...)
Why does he talk about his ex all time????
Q. I have been dating a guy for 4 months... were both in our 40's and have adult children from our previous marriages. His 24 old daughter is very demanding... he runs every time she wines about something... which is daily... she doesnt get along with ...
A. 7 January 2012: He doesn't sound like a keeper to me. He's clearly not over her if shes on his mind all the time.... (read in full...)
Partner left a week ago says if we get together it will just happen all over again...I want him back!
Q. Me and my partner have been together for 7 years and we have 2 young children together we are from diffarent places hes from england and i from scotland, we are both living in scotland with our kids, thing is for the past couple of months weve not ...
A. 7 January 2012: I would go and have a bit of therapy for yourself. Talking about things with someone helps a lot to sort things out in your head.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but am still ridiculously in love with a guy from my past.
Q. hey guys, little war between my brain and my heart at the moment, so would appreciate outside opinions. I'm in a relationship right now and he's amazing to me. The thing is, I'm still in love with one of my best guy friends that I had a thing wi...
A. 4 January 2012: Makes total sense. Why did the fling not work out? Maybe if that didn't work then it wasn't meant to be? Can you imagine washing fling guy's undies and socks and living with him and his habits? Think about all these aspects and if you could do ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is going to a drunk sleepover where her ex will be
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now. She loves me very much from everything I can see. We've made plans do take trips together far into the future. She gets excited every-time she comes over and seems to miss me a lot when we're ...
A. 4 January 2012: I can totally understand where you are coming from and I don't imagine many people would be cool about this situation. Are there other girls going? You could get one of them to be your eyes and ears?... (read in full...)
What was he after and why did he pursue me for so long?
Q. I met with this guy about 4 times. We also kept in touch by phoning and texting each other. He agreed to taking things slow with me and insisted that he wasn't after me for just sex. After our date he invited me to his place. We were both drunk and ...
A. 4 January 2012: I find it creepy that he insisted on watching you in the shower! It does sound like he was after sex but none of us can truly know what was in his head. The bottom line is: Do you like him? Do you find him attractive? Do you want to spend time ... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't want to get rid of pictures of her ex. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. We're only married 6 months and already we have an 'issue'. When my wife and I got serious and started talking about getting engaged, we both deleted 'exs' from our facebook accounts, deleted them from our contacts in our phones. I even threw out ...
A. 4 January 2012: Mmm Trickey. I do see where you are coming from here. But on the other hand I personally hate to throw photo's away as they are a record of your history. Maybe she's just like me?? I'm sure it's not to piss you off.... (read in full...)
I'm married to an old miser!
Q. Well, shortly, i'm 30years old, married to a 65year old miser! I have no source of income whatsoever. I and our 6 month old started living with him 2months ago. We had dated for an adequate duration. We have a bad situation concerning our finances. ...
A. 1 January 2012: Leave him. Life is too short to be this unhappy... (read in full...)
Real deal or is he blowing me off???
Q. Hello, I am talking to a guy who is 11 yrs oldcer than me who has been divorced and has kids. He is 36 and I am 25. He seems to be a really nice guy, and has a job in law enforcement which requires him to be on-call at all times. When we first ...
A. 1 January 2012: This could be his way of slowing down. Give it some more time and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
My BF will flip out over this. But was unacceptable for my coworker to give me, and the others, a quick hug?
Q. Ok. So heres my question, please give me your opinions/advice whatever it may be! So today everyone in the office bought a gift we all contributed to for a male coworker. He gave everyone a quick hug, male and female. I know my boyfriend wouldn...
A. 1 January 2012: Your partner has problems if he would flip over this. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what your co-worker did. ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain why people talk so positively? I think it inappropriate and don't believe it.
Q. Why are people always telling me ,that things are going to be all right, when it is not really posible in. my case. I feel deaf ears are listening my story. And they think, I m guilty. if I don t want to believe positive ideas. False hope is not ...
A. 1 January 2012: I think positivity is a way for people to cope with life. Life is hard and wading through it with a negative attitude just makes it harder. When you force yourself to look on the positive side of things problems seem surmountable. Yes there are a ... (read in full...)
He's trying to cheat on her. What should I do? Cutting contact seems difficult.
Q. This isn't usually the type of thing I'd think about let alone do believe me. This guy and I were sort of FWB a while ago when we were both single. We've kept in touch since then and met up but just as friends because he's back with his ex girl...
A. 1 January 2012: I'm trying to read between the lines here and I'm picking up that you really want him to be your guy. My answer is don't go there. He has proven to you that he's not a one girl kinda guy which is what I suspect you are wanting. His current ... (read in full...)
Should I see him? He's 28 and I really like him. I just don't want to ask him why he wasn't trusted with his own daughter
Q. Last summer, the summer of 2011, I went on a trip to Norway. It was only three days after the shootings in Utoya, and the explosion. I went there to meet my friends who moved there three years ago. I met a lot of interesting people, but it was all ...
A. 1 January 2012: I would be very very careful here. Can you verify things he has told you. e.g. does he really have a daughter? did he really lose someone on the island? etc. You are right to be suspicious and that little voice inside you is often right so ... (read in full...)
Husband (also doctor) addicted to teen porn...just told me he hates me for asking him
Q. My husband has admitted to being addicted to porn years ago but it was never a real issue because he hid it. I recently borrowed his laptop and he had over 89 bookmarks of 'teen' porn and he used the name like 'morgage payments' to hid the sites. On ...
A. 30 December 2011: I would be leaving asap. I wouldn't want to stay with someone who told me to "get it through my thick head that I hate you" let alone the porn factor. If the teen porn involves looking at underage girls then I would report him to the medical board ... (read in full...)
Partner doesn't support my change of eating habits!
Q. I've decided to change my eating habits for health reasons and my partner is not helping because he does a lot of the cooking and won't prepare the healthier meals I want, and when I say I'll do my own food he gets offended. We also used to drink ...
A. 30 December 2011: There's nothing wrong with him he just hasn't made the decision to change therefore doesn't embrace it like you do. He's happy with the way he lives and can't see the point in changing that yet. You can't force him into seeing it your way. He ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to change the taste of my "downstairs" to a little more sweeter?
Q. Hi everyone ! My question is : Is it possible to change the taste of my "downstairs" to a little more sweeter? Dont get me wrong , I dont have a horrible smell or taste , It's just that it is slightly more salty than Sweet. ...
A. 30 December 2011: Pineapples are said to make it taste different. Try eating lots of pineapples and see if it works.... (read in full...)
He ends his messages with "love (his name)"
Q. When a man you dont know that well writes "love" and then his name at the end of a message, does that mean he is interested ?.We met last week and he bought me drinks and danced with me and he also said in the message that he would like to go out ...
A. 29 December 2011: Some people have grown up in a family where they say I love you a lot so it's natural for them to use the word a lot. Could be that this guy is one of these people.... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is really sweet and caring but I am in love with his best friend.
Q. I've just begun dating a new guy. I'm 17 (18 in 1.5 months) and he's 22. I haven't known him that long, we've only been together for 3 months. He's a really sweet and caring guy and he makes me really happy. The only problem is that I think he is in ...
A. 29 December 2011: I agree with IAmHereToHelpYou. Tell him how you feel and don't leave it too long it's a waste of your time to stay with him if he's not going to completely invest himself in the relationship.... (read in full...)
I want to leave but I have nowhere to go.
Q. How do i get my boyfriend (soon to be ex) to stop eating his boogers, every time i see him hes diggin in his nose and putting it in his nose.. i am so grossed out.. i dont even kiss him anymore, and he gets really really made and throws temper ...
A. 29 December 2011: Can you not go and stay with a friend or relative until you sort yourself out?... (read in full...)
I don't understand how the gym manager knows my name and address
Q. I joined a local gym a few months ago and generally work out there a couple times a week. Today one of the managers came up while I was changing my shoes and made some comment about how I was really getting it this week. (I had been there the ...
A. 29 December 2011: He knows your details because he is the gym manager. Being the gym manager means ensuring details are correct, checking people's membership status, checking what more could be offered to people etc. It is not weird that he knows your name and ... (read in full...)
I want to know how to get my wife to change her mind
Q. My wife used to hesitantly perform fellatio. A few years ago she quit. There is no discussion. Just to bring it up pisses her off. I feel like I am worthless because she will not do this for me. I am not a kid, I am over fifty. How do I cha...
A. 29 December 2011: Does she do other stuff with you? If so then get over feeling you are worthless just because she wont do this one thing with you. If she's doing nothing with you at all then you need to tell her how sad you feel.... (read in full...)
I don't like my husband's female friend!
Q. Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...
A. 22 December 2011: That's good maybe he's not as attached to her as it seems... (read in full...)
Why cant my ex just forgive me for cheating on him? I regret my actions yet he's stubborn as hell
Q. I know it's long, hope someone wants to read it though.. I really want to get back with my ex boyfriend who I had 5 years ago (at this time i was 15 and he was 19). He was my first love and I was his, we had a wonderful relationship and...
A. 21 December 2011: I'm so sorry but he still doesn't trust you so he can't give himself completely to any type of relationship with you at this stage. You will have to accept whatever crumbs of friendship/contact he offers as you are in no position to demand ... (read in full...)
I don't like my husband's female friend!
Q. Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...
A. 17 December 2011: Yep I'd be feeling like you are about her too! I'm not sure what to advise you to do here. Can you talk to her about it? Ask her what the deal is with her friendship with your hubby. She might be more honest about it than him.... (read in full...)
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