Being a virgin is depressing
Q. Being a 22 year old virgin is so damn depressing sometimes.I just wish i knew how much longer this must go on.People always saying being a virgins a good thing but I myself have just become more bitter, sarcastic, and introverted as the years go by. ...
A. 14 April 2010: Ah well now you can hassle him about being under the thumb :-)
Yeah fate's a bitch isn't it! Lets hope she'll smile on you soon!!
I'll ask god to send you a real honey asap.
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Being a virgin is depressing
Q. Being a 22 year old virgin is so damn depressing sometimes.I just wish i knew how much longer this must go on.People always saying being a virgins a good thing but I myself have just become more bitter, sarcastic, and introverted as the years go by. ...
A. 12 April 2010: OMG I'm so sorry I called you a girl. That'll teach me to read posts more thoroughly before replying. I do still stand by my orginal post but I would like to add this. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 24. He was a virgin I wasn't. He ... (read in full...)
Should I just keep it to myself until I know for sure?
Q. Hi everyone... I am just looking for some advice with my current situation. I recently started sleeping with my ex boyfriend who I still have strong feelings for and he is not in a place where he can he give me the commitment that i want.....
A. 12 April 2010: Could be late due to stress I guess but I would go to the doctor and have a test. Sometimes the home ones don't detect pregnancy in the early days. Personally I wouldn't tell him until you have a definitive answer. Is there a close friend you ... (read in full...)
Feelings rekindled for my ex!
Q. I'm currently grieving over a recent breakup and I'm aware that in my current mindset, it's not the right time to make big decisions about my life. During the grieving period, you can't really follow your head OR your heart, because everything's so ...
A. 12 April 2010: Sorry I obviously miss read your post cause I thought you were back together. Normally I'm not a fan of rekindling broken relationships but in your case I would make an exception. Neither of you have cheated on each other in the traditional sense ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up having a baby with him?
Q. okay so this is basically a lot of questions about my relationship... one- last year my boyfriend asked me to marry him (without a ring), it was amazing, i thought we were close before but that has made us 'one'. we looked at rings and i pick...
A. 12 April 2010: It's hard to tell from your post whether you and your boyfriend are actually engaged it kind of reads like maybe it didn't happen. If he has in fact backed out on the engagement I wouldn't consider having a child with him. Having kids is bloody ... (read in full...)
Being a virgin is depressing
Q. Being a 22 year old virgin is so damn depressing sometimes.I just wish i knew how much longer this must go on.People always saying being a virgins a good thing but I myself have just become more bitter, sarcastic, and introverted as the years go by. ...
A. 12 April 2010: This may sound sacartistic but is not meant to be. If you are bitter angry and introverted who is going to want to sleep with you? Ramp up your social life and join some clubs or organisations in things that interest you e.g cooking class, book ... (read in full...)
Was he full of it from the beginning or was he just running away?
Q. Okay, so I know that I had my part in some pretty immoral things in this whole thing. I'm willing to admit that. But here goes: My friend started to date this guy that I'd known about three years ago (because I went to school w...
A. 11 April 2010: He's an idiot!!!! Put him out of your mind and move on. Don't even look at him or talk to him any more. He'll probably try to wheedle his way back in with you when you do this because again he is an idiot!!!
By the way have your ever talked t... (read in full...)
Feelings rekindled for my ex!
Q. I'm currently grieving over a recent breakup and I'm aware that in my current mindset, it's not the right time to make big decisions about my life. During the grieving period, you can't really follow your head OR your heart, because everything's so ...
A. 11 April 2010: I would imgaine he lied to you about this friendship with the other girl because he knew it would hurt your feelings since he kind of had the same relationship with her as he has with you. Maybe in his mind he felt as though he were cheating on you ... (read in full...)
How do we stop these arguments?
Q. i've lived with my boyfriend for 1 and a half year. things is goin very well at first. but now, Alot of things change. yes! we're Stil loving, the only problem is his temper. he has very hot temper. he always wants Me to listen to him. if i don't ...
A. 11 April 2010: ooops should be both not bith :-)... (read in full...)
How do we stop these arguments?
Q. i've lived with my boyfriend for 1 and a half year. things is goin very well at first. but now, Alot of things change. yes! we're Stil loving, the only problem is his temper. he has very hot temper. he always wants Me to listen to him. if i don't ...
A. 11 April 2010: Does he hate the way you bith fight too? If he does get some books out of the library on conflict management and effective arguing. Learn how to argue constructively.... (read in full...)
He says one thing and does another
Q. Since september, ive liked this guy, B. and for awhile we were soooo close. like for example, he would sing to me and hold me and stuff like that. We were so close it seemed like we were dating. He is a really nice and romantic person. then one day ...
A. 11 April 2010: We woman always make the fatal mistake of chasing the guys. Make him chase you. Fill your life up with friends and hobbies and make him compete for your attention. If he's really into you he will make the effort and go the extra mile to be with ... (read in full...)
Grown man still obeying his parents
Q. He tells me he loves me and wants us to be together even if he has to wait forever since his family won't allow us to be together. He doesn't want to risk loosing them and wants me to wait for them to accept us. He is 23 and still listens to his ...
A. 11 April 2010: Yes he will be a Daddy's boy forever.... (read in full...)
Could it be a yeast infection?
Q. Hey im 17 almost 18. Well I was wondering if this sounds like a yeast infection, one side is swollen and it hurts somes times and it a littel red? Iv never had one before and i looked it up it said uslly there will be itching and burning and white ...
A. 11 April 2010: It doesn't sound like a yeast infection sounds more like an irritation of some sort. In NZ we have a cream called Bepanthene cream which would help sooth it but you probably should go see your doctor to make sure everything is AOK.... (read in full...)
Serious question about sex!
Q. I am kinda scared i might have came inside my girlfriend today. we were having sex without a condom and then i felt i was gunna cum so i pulled out quick and came on her but it wasnt a lot but i know i didnt cum in her, well im pretty sure i didnt ...
A. 8 April 2010: Did you know that you actually leak stuff called pre cum before you actually cum? The pre cum is completely clear and also contains sperm which is why withdrawal is not a great method of birth control. I would get a pregnancy test if I were you ... (read in full...)
I can't stand his "been there, done that" attitude!
Q. I've been with my bf for over 3 years and we are living together almost 2. a couple of weeks ago i casually brought up the topic of kids , i said that this was something that i was starting to think about as i have just turned 35. he was horrified ...
A. 8 April 2010: I would move on from this man if I were in that situation. If he is giving you no hope that the future you want is not what he's prepared to give you then why waste your time on him. Time moves so fast and if you stick with him hoping he'll change ... (read in full...)
Is he lurking in the shadows??????
Q. Dear cupid, I recently have gotten out of a bad relationship with my ex after he caused me physical and mental abuse. We have been separated for almost 6 months now and were together for almost a year. He became very close with my best frinds h...
A. 8 April 2010: Oh boy I would distance yourself from this couple if I were you. I just don't think any good can come of this friendship. Tell your girlfriend that you will always be there for her if she chooses to leave this man but that you can not remain ... (read in full...)
Am I mid-life crazy or is it truly time to make a break?
Q. I'm a 39 year old guy, married 18 years with 2 kids 15 and 10 boy and girl. My wife has had a lot of health problems over the years. About 6 or 7 years ago our sex life became virtually non-existant. Finally 3 years ago I had an affair for about 4 ...
A. 8 April 2010: 7 years without sex is a pretty long time and my personal opinion is that a marriage without sex is just a friendship.
Hey if you do leave I think it should be to be by yourself for a while. Don't leave to jump into the arms of someone else stra... (read in full...)
5 dollars for a 2 dollar coffee???
Q. There's a girl I work with, whom I get along with pretty well. She knows I really have a thing for her, but she's older than me. The other day I went to get coffee but she didn't have any money on her, so I bought her one. She said she'd pay me back ...
A. 8 April 2010: I would think that she appreciated your gesture so much that she was eager to pay you back and more. Maybe she's hoping you will invite her out for another coffee. Why don't you try asking her out then you will know one way or the other.... (read in full...)
I made a deal with my husband's dad to marry his son, what if my husband finds out???
Q. I am a 24 year old married woman. I have a husband who will insist on getting up at 2:00 in the morning to go to Walgreen's because I have the sniffles. I get love letters and flowers, and get so much sex that you wouldn't believe me if I told you ...
A. 8 April 2010: Ooo Angzw's anwer is way better than mine. Do that that is brilliant!! Well done Angzw that's fantastic and very sound advice.... (read in full...)
I made a deal with my husband's dad to marry his son, what if my husband finds out???
Q. I am a 24 year old married woman. I have a husband who will insist on getting up at 2:00 in the morning to go to Walgreen's because I have the sniffles. I get love letters and flowers, and get so much sex that you wouldn't believe me if I told you ...
A. 8 April 2010: I'm presuming only you and the father knows about this deal? If he says anything he is the most twisted individual on the planet and you can make a case out of that so that your husband wouldn't believe a word he says anyway.... (read in full...)
How do I stop the jealousy?!
Q. Hey guys. Straight to the point. I'm way too jelous. Not like, most women are about their boyfriends, but i'm jelous to the point where, if me and my boyfriend are walking somewhere and he sees some girl he knows, i get so jelous and go in a mood. I ...
A. 8 April 2010: A lot of your jealousy is due to your age. As you get older and more secure of your feelings you become less worried about those kinds of things. The fact that you are aware you are like this and want to do something about it is awesome. Think to ... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian, but don't want a relationship with my roommate.
Q. hey everyone I have a problem I am a Lesbian and I have a roommate who is my bestie friend of thirty five years and the god mother of my children... my problem is she always seen to undress in front of me when she get out of the shower which is next ...
A. 8 April 2010: I would imgaine she just does that because she feels so comfortable around you and is not threatened to be naked in front of you... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and pregnant
Q. I am 15 and pregnant with my boyfriend of 3 years. Yes I know I'm silly please don't bring that up, all I'm asking is for help. Anyway, I have been to the clinic as it is half term, I am getting an abortion, both me and my boyfriend are 50/50 about ...
A. 7 April 2010: Aha! Thanks for that Anon. Will store that new info away in the memory banks.... (read in full...)
Smelly genitalia!
Q. This is so weird to be writing about this as i can't tell anyone... im 15 and have a new boy friend, im worried i smell around the genital area, i shower a lot and make sure the hair is kept short but i can smell some sort of smell.. im not sure if ...
A. 7 April 2010: A normal vagina smells sort of musty so if that's what you can smell then it's completely normal. If it's a fishy smell then you could have thrush. A natural way to get rid of thrush is to eat yoghurt that has Acidophilus and bifidus in it. Your ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and pregnant
Q. I am 15 and pregnant with my boyfriend of 3 years. Yes I know I'm silly please don't bring that up, all I'm asking is for help. Anyway, I have been to the clinic as it is half term, I am getting an abortion, both me and my boyfriend are 50/50 about ...
A. 7 April 2010: I'm a wee bit confused with how pregnant you are. You say half term and if by that you mean 20 weeks or over I don't think you can get an abortion at this stage. I'm pretty sure you need to be under 12 weeks to get one. I would definately talk to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my homphobic family?
Q. I think i may be lesbian or bisexual. Though I don't know if i should tell my mom because she doesn't like her family to be gay she wants family to be a 100% straight. My sisters idk if they mind. My rest of the family thinks gays are really bad so ...
A. 7 April 2010: I agree with Marieclaire. Your family don't really need know yet. just carry on as you are and deal with telling them only when it becomes completely necessary.
Best wishes god bless... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and its literally killing me!
Q. i am 52 and dont know how to get him from under my skin. I was seeing a man for three years and then found out six months ago he was still in love with his ex and had been telling her he wanted to get back with her, i broke down when i found out and ...
A. 7 April 2010: OMG don't go to the coast with him. You are just adding acid to the cut doing that. Enlist the support of everyone you know and literally cry on their shoulders until you get this man out of your system. Make a complete and clean break from him. ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask my handyman boyfriend to paint for free?
Q. My boyfiend of 5 years is a handy man on the side I have asked him to paint my kitchen and he said he would give me an estimate Is it unfair to ask him to do it for free or what is a reasonable labor cost? I dont mind paying but.... ...
A. 7 April 2010: An interesting person your boyfriend he's given me some ideas. I'm a hairdresser and I always have to cut my families hair for free. Mmmm maybe I'll start charging now. Seriously though I would have thought if you were willing to help him with ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's 15, LDR and he proposed to me but I know my parents won't like it!
Q. Well ummm, my internet boyfriend and me have been going out for two years now, we met on imvu, he lives in south grafton, nsw, and i live in adelaide, sa. While we were on facebook one day, he proposed to me (he's 15 turning 16 and i'm 14 by the w...
A. 6 April 2010: Ignoring the fact that this person is probably not who he says he is (have you heard of internet groomers?) 15 is way way way too young to be married. I got married at 28 and I still feel as though I missed out on some things. I know you feel as ... (read in full...)
How can I track down a police officer I fancy with only his first name?
Q. I am very interested in a neighborhood police officer. He is also interested but is always on duty when we see each other and can't ask me out. I would like to get in touch with him but only have his first name. When we introduced ourselves we ...
A. 6 April 2010: Ooo this is a lovely post. You go girl hope you get your man!... (read in full...)
Stalked by a friend. Why did he do this? It's scaring me!
Q. Im on my home from the store right i feel like im being followed then when im about to turn around i get a txt ok it said "i see you!" so i look around and i see my friend ( its the stalker boy) so i talk to him for a couple minutes then i start to ...
A. 4 April 2010: I agree with Brunel I think he needs to be reported to the police. He is not acting normally and I can tell you I would be bloody scared by this too. Is it possible to arrange your life so that you don't walk home by yourself for a wee while?... (read in full...)
My 'goldenchild' sister can do no wrong!
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. My sister has, for many years, liked to stir up trouble between my parents and I by trying to play me off against them and then putting on this ‘saint’ act towards my parents which they fall for every time. The ...
A. 4 April 2010: Think about it this way if you weren't related to this girl would you want to have anything to do with her? Just because you are bonded by blood doesn't mean you have to be close or even like her. Try to take your mother and sister as they come ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends mother excludes me from family events.
Q. Please help me out on this! My potential mother-in-law leaves me out of family gatherings such as Easter, inviting instead someone my bf used to go out with, whom she prefers, and whom she has a close relationship with and adores. Every holiday I am ...
A. 4 April 2010: I agree with the other aunts and uncles, your future mother-in-law is being a total cow. Would you be brave enough to confront her about it and point out to her that she is hurting your boyfriend by insulting the woman he loves? If you couldn't do ... (read in full...)
How can I change my promiscuous ways?
Q. 3 April 2010: I feel like such a slut. I am only 16, 17 in 2 weeks and I have slept with 14 boys over 2 years I think. I dont know why I do, I just watnt to feel wanted. I get used and it hurts me like mad and i get really really down because I ...
A. 4 April 2010: Buy yourself a vibrator and use that instead of sex and then join some clubs or groups in things that interest you e.g a book club. Spend your time stimulating your mind instead of your body and life will change for you.... (read in full...)
Marriage falling apart because of sexual problems!
Q. My marriage is falling apart, because of sexual problems. My husband does not enjoy having sex with me. He says it's because I'm to big and feels nothing when we are making love. We've been together for 5 years and maybe have sex 4 or 5 times a ...
A. 4 April 2010: I find it really hard to believe that you would be too big especially since you have never had children. Are you able to keep tampons in? If so you are fine and just unfortunately got two silly thoughtless men in a row. Sending you lots of love ... (read in full...)
Choosing between guys AND whether to abort or not!
Q. Well guys I'm stilled confused. My husband left me about eight mths ago and now I"m pregnant with another guy's baby. My husband recently contacted me with the hopes of us getting back together. When i went to see him he ask if I was pregnant and I ...
A. 4 April 2010: Goodness me your boyfriend has been a busy little bee hasn't he just. If you really love him money shouldn't matter because you can always make do as long as there's love. Personally I'm not a fan of trying to rekindle old relationships because it ... (read in full...)
Why am I sleeping with my boyfriend's Dad?
Q. Hi. I really need some advice here. I've gotten myself into a bad situation. I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile (we are both 18), and when I first met his parents there was a spark between his father and I. Now here we are six months later, ...
A. 4 April 2010: What's your relationship like with your own father? If it's not good maybe you are just looking for a father figure?? You probably should break it off with both these men and distance yourself from them both and sort your feelings out before ... (read in full...)
The sex is too intense!
Q. I have an INTENSE attraction for someone, and he has the same feelings for me. When we kiss it feels like my whole body is vibrating and I have literally had an orgasm just "dry humping." We do have sex sometimes but it's almost too much, the ...
A. 4 April 2010: Just start over again as soon as you both cum.... (read in full...)
Is there any chance that he wants to get back with me, or is he just using me?
Q. hi, im new to dearcupid, and right now i really need advice. back in january, my boyfriend broke up with me for somebody else, we dated for about a year and a half and we went through so much together. when we broke up, he told me that he wanted me ...
A. 4 April 2010: I think the major question here is do you really want to get back together with him? Rekindled relationships can work but 9 times out of 10 they don't and the participants end up being even more heartbroken than before. Remember the reasons he ... (read in full...)
Left ex to shield child, now new hubby is 10 times worse???
Q. This is the first and only time I think I'll post anything about this situation. I'll just lay it all out and pray I get needful responses! Bare with me, theres so much to say!!! Back, 4 years ago I began dating this charming man I met at work. W...
A. 3 April 2010: Natasia and DrPsych both make excellent suggestions. Follow these and I think your life will take a turn for the better.
Neither your nor your son deserve to live the kind of life you are being subjected to now.
Good luck doll.... (read in full...)
Why won't he communicate with me but he does with others that he claims to not even like?
Q. Ok answer me this. Believe it or not :) Why is it that someone you like never comments on your statuses, activities or clicks "like" on them on your facebook and other netowrking sites on your profile. However on other peoples, people which he ...
A. 3 April 2010: Have you been together for a while? Sounds like he's gotten very comfortable with you and has given up trying to impress you. Relationships are hard work and require constant effort to work if it's not working for you move on.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me pay for hotel rooms to see him and I'm tired of it. What can I do about it?
Q. My boyfriend and i go to hotet rooms to spend time alone. Neither he nor I are working right now. I am a college student and he so is he. We both hate having to ask our parents for money for anything. But my dad gives me everything so he expects me ...
A. 3 April 2010: Oh dear he sounds like a bit of a plonker! I wouldn't be worrying about keeping this relationship if I were you. If he's like that now about money imagine what he'll be like if you got married. I've wave goodbye to him if I were you because he's ... (read in full...)
Controlling/abusive boyfriend!
Q. hey there i don't know what to do i have been with my boyfriend a while now and i lost everything because of him my friends don't want to know me and my family don't want anything to do with me anymore. my boyfriend tells me what to do and what to ...
A. 3 April 2010: Oooo sweetie run away from this man as fast as you can. He is not the kind of person you want to spend your life with. Your parents and family will understand and not hestiate to welcome you back with open arms. Being a parent myself I would ... (read in full...)
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