He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 16 March 2011: That's good. Time heals all wounds eventually.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 24 August 2010: Honestly I wouldn't confront him cause if you really stop and think about it this is a waste of time it's not going to sink in with him. Write him a letter that you DONT send and tell him everything you want to say. Get it all off your chest and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 14 July 2010: You're welcome go forth and be happy. May the force be with you :-)... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 31 May 2010: See if I was you're mother I'd be mighty worried about you right now because if your experiencing all that you can not be acting normally. Most mothers will fight tooth and nail to help their kids when there is something wrong with them so I still ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 30 May 2010: I'm starting to wonder if you actually like wallowing in misery since you don't seem keen to follow any of the suggestions put to you by any posters. Your replies are starting to sound pretty whinny and whingey. Come on dude pull your head in and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: Exactly my point go to the doctor and ask them to refer you to a therapist. Tell your parents you are depressed and you don't really know why. (there are hundreds of people in this situation) You need to be able to talk to someone who is not ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: So lie to your parents. Make up something that is wrong with you that they wont want to verfiy like a discharge from your penis or a urinary infection. Then tell the doctor you have had to lie to your parents and he will have to help you. You ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 May 2010: Doctors can't discuss their sessions with anyone else even your parents so they need not find out why you are visiting the doctor.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Again I repeat keep away from him. He's confused and it's making him unsure how to react. May I suggest you make friends with some girls. Unlike males (not meaning to male bash here) we like to talk. We like to analyse situations from every ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Just back off from him completely and let him come back to you in his own time. Like it or not he feels uncomfortable now and he needs to deal with that in his own time and in his own way. You just need to carry on as per usual and wait ... (read in full...)
I text like there's no tomorrow, and my parents get really mad!
Q. So I've gone over my texting limit before, and my parents always get REALLY mad. I think last month I went over by 100 (not even) this time I went over by like 1,600. :( Is there a way to fix this issue?! I don't even wanna know how much it's gonna ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry sweetie but if I was your Parents I would swap your phone for a prepaid one that you have to pay for. Why don't you offer that as a solution?... (read in full...)
I can't figure this girl out. Did I do something wrong?
Q. hey guys, i have a problem. Theres this girl ive been talking to, for about 3 months now. previously, before me and her, she just ended a 2 yr relationship, and i got out of a bad one with no intentions on dating anyone at all (and still have ...
A. 20 April 2010: Mmmm I'm having trouble figuring her out too. Are you still not wanting a relationship? because if not I would just move on. Also I'm wondering if she's found that fact out and is unsure what this relationship is??
Otherwise I would throw the ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me, and that's making him jealous?
Q. Hi sorry to bore you with the story but the event of last night have left me seriously confused and quite upset. We went out, me 2 mates(a couple) and a guy that ive liked for ages. Thye have always said he likes me but is to shy, apprantly i...
A. 20 April 2010: Yes I do but I think it's all going wrong because you are both sending mixed signals. He does because he's shy and you do because you don't look at him when you talk to him.
Screw up your courage look him in the eye and say: "Listen I really like... (read in full...)
Help me out with my boyfriend... what should I do?
Q. hi there friends. I really need your guys help please. I am 17 years old female and I have a boyfriend i mean its being just like around 2 months n week more and i dunno he loves me a lot, he is from some other country and I am also but we stay in ...
A. 20 April 2010: Babe if you are scared of him at this early stage of your relationship I would get out before it gets worse! No partner should make you feel scared of them. ... (read in full...)
Where can I take her to hang out as friends?
Q. I really like this girl and i want to start hanging out with her before i ask her out, shes 17 and im 18 where could we go?? She's too young to go to a club and that's the only place i know....
A. 20 April 2010: Take her to the movies and out to dinner with a group of friends. ... (read in full...)
Am I still in with a chance getting back with her?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me recently for reasons unknown. I still have very strong feelings for her a month later and we still keep in touch and get on really well. So the other day I asked her to meet up with me and I asked her if we ...
A. 20 April 2010: Personally I don't think rekindled relationships work. You need to find out why she broke it off with you. If you do get back together how can you improve if you don't know what went wrong in the first place?... (read in full...)
Is he a sexual deviant or is this a hint that he wants me or what?
Q. I have to ask. This guy is kinda shy in the bedroom but SAYS he wants me. Then the other day he wanted to watch porn and he kept stealing glances at me while we watched it. Then he started to masturbate in front of me! And wanted me to also. Is he a ...
A. 20 April 2010: It's possible he wanted to see how you do it so he can please you properly when you do get it on.
Just keep your eyes wide open... (read in full...)
We're both female but I love her so much!
Q. I've fallen completely in love with a girl and she said she likes me too and we've kissed but she said she doesnt want to be a lesbian and doesnt want to be in a relationship with a girl. she said she doesnt want to be the subject of gossip or ...
A. 20 April 2010: Can you not just love her as a friend. Eliminate the sexual part of it and you have a normal girlfriend relationship. Most of us love our friends a lot but sex doesn't come into it. Appreciate her for her not as a potential mate.... (read in full...)
He deletes computer history and lies about it!
Q. The past month or two, my boyfriend has been using my computer because his has a virus on it. He has been deleting the history. But then he lies about deleting the history and says that there must be a comptuer "glitch"! I know he is doing this ...
A. 20 April 2010: Babe when your relationship has got to the stage where you are constantly having to check up on him it's time to call it quits. He's obviously doing something dodgey and you obviously don't trust him. You don't want to spend your life feeling like ... (read in full...)
I think he has intentions for her...
Q. A former co-worker of my boyfiend named Roy slept with my boyfriends ex-fiance shortly after they broke up two years ago. My boyfriend found out last year after he and his ex-fiance got back together briefly and she told him about it. He was ...
A. 20 April 2010: The fact that he is still pissed about the ex fiance worries me. It means he hasn't really moved on. If I were in your shoes I'd talk to him about your worries and see what he says.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry mate but your thinking is a little off here. You have no right to be angry at him. He said straight out at the beginning that he was not attracted to you and was straight. You need to put yourself in his shoes and realise that whether you ... (read in full...)
How get over your friend who doesn't have the same feelings for you?
Q. How can you get over your friend who doesn't have the same feelings for you? ...
A. 17 April 2010: You need to have no contact with the friend for a while and spend lots of time doing things that fill your mind. Surround youself with other friends.
good luck this is hard but you will get there.... (read in full...)
Is being a martyr to the man you love worth it?
Q. I am in a very complicated situation of a relationship...we already have one baby and he is being responsible with him.But we are not leaving in same house he just paying where the place i stay.He never said he loves me but he just say he likes ...
A. 16 April 2010: He is in a relationship of convenience. I would move on from him if I were in your position it seems like he just comes to you when it suits him and it would make me feel used in that position. By all means involve him in your son's life but not ... (read in full...)
Is it vain or arrogant to believe he loved me too?
Q. Please help me. I'm 39. When I was at Uni, I met a lovely man who was my friend. We were both devout catholics and had a lot in common. He eventually told me he loved me and wanted to go out with me. I was shocked as I hadn't seen it coming - he had ...
A. 16 April 2010: Well good luck to you doll on your journey to put the dork out of your head once and for all.
Any time you want some more reassurance that you did nothing wrong here feel free to PM me.
Lots of love and strength to you.... (read in full...)
My ex and I agreed to be friends, ..so how often should I text ot talk to him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend split up because we go to different schools and it makes it very difficult for us to be in a relationship right now, although we managed on and off for about a year, so we've agreed to be friends and keep our options open. How ...
A. 16 April 2010: Does he have the same expectation that you will get back together? Because if so then I would txt him as much as you would txt any close girlfriend.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was trying to hook up with my friend and now I'm pregnant by him!
Q. wanted to share my experience I'm going through right now.....Well I was with my bf for bout 3 years and onetime brought a friend around him he told me she looked familar and probably a while back tried to get with her so I left it alone.....me and ...
A. 16 April 2010: Trust me a baby wont make your relationship better it will make it harder. You don't want to live your life unhappy and worrying about what he's up to all the time. This is your body and your baby and at the end of the day it's your decision. ... (read in full...)
Is it vain or arrogant to believe he loved me too?
Q. Please help me. I'm 39. When I was at Uni, I met a lovely man who was my friend. We were both devout catholics and had a lot in common. He eventually told me he loved me and wanted to go out with me. I was shocked as I hadn't seen it coming - he had ...
A. 16 April 2010: This guy is DELUDED and it's unfortunate that you were one of the people he drew into his strange little world. I'm not a catholic so don't understand the religion completely but I'm sure his elders (not sure if that's the right term) would have ... (read in full...)
Atracted to my best friend's cousin
Q. I like my best friend's cousin. When i first saw him, i was like... oh it's kinda weird, but then i started to hang out with him and my bff and we used to talk everyday, by msn, but i don't know what happened, when suddenly he stop talking to me and ...
A. 16 April 2010: I think you need to ask him if he's interested in you. Then you will know whether to keep dreaming about him or move on.... (read in full...)
Why do I keep cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I keep cheating on my boyfriend. It's as simple as that. I feel like crap, it's happened twice and i've told him twice. The real problem is that I keep flirting and looking for more outside attention. Me and him don't spend very much time together ...
A. 16 April 2010: Hey look the fact that you are aware of this behaviour and want to do something about it says to me that you are a mostly decent human being. My advice is for you not to make friends with any more guys until you have this sorted. Bring out your ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I keep cheating on my boyfriend. It's as simple as that. I feel like crap, it's happened twice and i've told him twice. The real problem is that I keep flirting and looking for more outside attention. Me and him don't spend very much time together ...
A. 15 April 2010: What I'm wondering is why your boyfriend has stayed with you to this point? You need to examine this behaviour in therapy. Something has happened to you in the past that has made you needy for any attention you can get. Trying to get attention in ... (read in full...)
Am I the bad guy for not wanting these people as guests?
Q. Hello. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years and living together for almost one year. Today she asked me if it is OK for her son and her X brother n law to come stay the weekend with us. I was totally shocked she aske...
A. 15 April 2010: You should definately be OK with her son coming to stay that's her flesh and blood and she deserves to have a relationship with him as does he. The brother-in-law I can understand your feelings about. Is it your house you are living in or hers? ... (read in full...)
Am I silly because I want him to wear a condom?
Q. Hello everyone, I am thinking about having sex with my partner for the first time. I am a virgin and he is not- I am in my mid twenties and he is nearly forty years old. I am already on birth control and condoms and lube are at the beds...
A. 15 April 2010: No you are not being silly you are being safe and smart. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise... (read in full...)
How long before doctor can give you pregnancy results?
Q. Hi I took a pregnancy test today and it came up positive. I have a doctors appoitment tomorrow to confirm it. I was just wondering when you get a test at the doctors how long have you got to wait until you get the results? Thanks...
A. 15 April 2010: With all of my pregnancies they tested me there and were able to confirm it in less than 10 mins.
Congratulations to you exciting times are ahead.... (read in full...)
LDR problems--boyfriend says he was happy until he met me!
Q. Hi all, I need some serious advice on how to deal with my boyfriend. We have been in a long-distance relationship since last July. I love my boyfriend dearly and ended a 6-year relationship with someone who loved me very much and treated me like ...
A. 15 April 2010: OMG why did you leave the guy who treated you like a queen for this plonker? AND OMG why are you staying with this new guy? If a man grabbed me by the neck and threw me down plus called me fat and then sulked when I didn't feel like sex I'd be ... (read in full...)
Can I have the baby blues even though the baby is not born yet?
Q. I am five months pregnant and i am terrified of being a parent (single parent at that). I love the little one but at the same time i don't want it - i want to run to the hills screaming my head off a way from the responcibilities and hardships and ...
A. 15 April 2010: Yes you definately can get pre natal depression and I strongly urge you to talk to your midwife or doctor about this. You are not abnormal! Heaps of other people suffer these kinds of feelings too even those of us who are pregnant in happy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't trust himself with my best friend and is talking about breaking up!
Q. hi guys im gonna try and keep this short but it's kind of a long story.im turning 16 in 2 months and i have been going out with a guy since i was 12.my best friend use to go out with him wen she was 11 i wouldint relly call that dating but it is ...
A. 15 April 2010: Oh sweetie I wish you could come and live with me but I live in another country.
I'm glad you are not friends with this girl anymore because she is not a loyal person and does not deserve your friendship.
If your boyfriend does leave you for her ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I are in love
Q. Moderator note: I suspect your age is not what you claim. yes that is my real age people. it may not look like it but I am. sorry. then what can I do to make it better then? hello my name is as it shows at this time. I got a real problem here ...
A. 15 April 2010: I think your research may be a little off because it is not illegal to marry your cousin no matter how close in blood you are. e.g. first second third etc makes no difference it's all cool. But the issue I see here is your have become too ... (read in full...)
Irregular cycles and now a pregnancy scare!
Q. hi there......... i don't know how to put this without making it sound confusing, bu here it goes... I'm irregular in my cycles.and the doctor told me that with contraceptives my cycles would be regular. but i had to wait until my first day of perio...
A. 15 April 2010: Given that you used a condom and he didn't cum in you the chances of you being pregnant are extremely small. If you were pregnant you wouldn't bleed (although some people do have some spotting whilst pregnant) I would suggest taking a pregnancy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he loves me but he doesn't act like it
Q. Okay. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and he claims he loves me very much. Up until the last month he has been the greatest boyfriend. He would talk to me everyday and every second and compliment me and tell me how much he ...
A. 14 April 2010: Oh doll this is quite a situation. I don't want to advise you one way or the other because I think if this relationship is meant to be it will be. Just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea and if he is not treating you the way you ... (read in full...)
How much time should I give my girlfriend to sort herself out?
Q. My ex-girlfriend basically is feeling guilty for treating me so badly in our relationship. She says I've never done anything to hurt her intentionally but said she has hurt me constantly and doesn't know why she does it. She never cheated on me bu...
A. 14 April 2010: If her behaviour hasn't bothered you then I would take her out on a date and tell her that you want her back and that you are not prepared to wait for her. Reassure her that if she oversteps the line you will let her know.... (read in full...)
Being a virgin is depressing
Q. Being a 22 year old virgin is so damn depressing sometimes.I just wish i knew how much longer this must go on.People always saying being a virgins a good thing but I myself have just become more bitter, sarcastic, and introverted as the years go by. ...
A. 14 April 2010: Ah well now you can hassle him about being under the thumb :-)
Yeah fate's a bitch isn't it! Lets hope she'll smile on you soon!!
I'll ask god to send you a real honey asap.
... (read in full...)
Yesterday he wanted to get married, now he doesn't. Am I over-reacting?
Q. so weve been together for a yr in may. we have a baby girl together shes only 2 months old. we have been talking about getting married for about that long! recently we have been talking about it more his little sister asked us when we were getting ...
A. 14 April 2010: Your Mum obviously has different ideas and values to you in this area so I would just brush her comments off from on and carry on with your plans and thoughts.... (read in full...)
I really enjoyed what he did, but still I don't feel ready
Q. So I've started giving my boyfriend (who has been in my life for quite a while now) hand-jobs a little while ago and when I did start I very expressly said that I wasn't ready for him to put his hands in my pants. And he respected that and left well ...
A. 13 April 2010: Since you've been honest with each other in the past I would definately tell him that you liked it but you are still unsure. Yes he will be wanting to reciprocate your actions because him having all the fun will make him feel selfish. Just keep ... (read in full...)
Yesterday he wanted to get married, now he doesn't. Am I over-reacting?
Q. so weve been together for a yr in may. we have a baby girl together shes only 2 months old. we have been talking about getting married for about that long! recently we have been talking about it more his little sister asked us when we were getting ...
A. 13 April 2010: I don't want this to sound anti male but guys seem to have a wire in their brain that programs to be afraid of the "M" word. My husband took 7 years to decide he did want to marry me and spent the entire 11 months of our engagement worrying about ... (read in full...)
He can't seem to have sex with me and it's killing my self-esteem
Q. Why is my husband not having sex with me? He says he's turned on by me, but he doesn't stay hard. When it comes to penetration, him touching me, BJ's, or me touching him...he loses it. We haven't had sex in 3 years, but we try... with failed ...
A. 13 April 2010: Hmmm Since the doctor has found nothing amiss here I would strongly advise some therapy. There is something happening in his brain that he is possibly not aware of himself. E.g. some guys find sex with new mothers hard because they feel awkward ... (read in full...)
Second choice really hurts
Q. Okay well I'm 14 and for like 4 years now I have always been second choice. I no a lot of people have this problem and I am sort of like whining but oh well. Okay I have friends but I am always second choice like of someones not there or no one to ...
A. 13 April 2010: I know what you are saying I'm 37 and I have the same problem with one friend in particular. What I did that helped me was make other friends that this girl didn't know. Now I don't care about being second choice to her cause I have lots of other ... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't recognise my voice when I call him from a different line.
Q. I knw it might sound crazy but is a big problem to me. .my bf does not recognise my voice when i call from a different line. .its so confusing and suspicious considering the fact that i talk with him 3 to 4 times a day nd he stil don't recognise my ...
A. 13 April 2010: Usually it doesn't matter how many dozens of people call you you are able to distinguish each and every voice. Perhaps he has some kind of ear problem that prevents him from doing this. I'm a bit confused about the different line bit. Is he able ... (read in full...)
I cant stay erect when I penetrate him, and we never use condoms
Q. Hey Guys and Girls I am a relationship with this guy and everything is going really well and I love him to bits. The problem is when it comes to penitrating him I cant seem to stay erect, even tho I am really horny.So he always has to do it ...
A. 13 April 2010: I would definately see a doctor about this. Being a female and non medical person I don't feel qualified to offer any other advice. Well done you on finding such a great mate.... (read in full...)
Being a virgin is depressing
Q. Being a 22 year old virgin is so damn depressing sometimes.I just wish i knew how much longer this must go on.People always saying being a virgins a good thing but I myself have just become more bitter, sarcastic, and introverted as the years go by. ...
A. 12 April 2010: OMG I'm so sorry I called you a girl. That'll teach me to read posts more thoroughly before replying. I do still stand by my orginal post but I would like to add this. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 24. He was a virgin I wasn't. He ... (read in full...)
Could Iget pregnant like that?
Q. did i lose my virginity? his penis went in sort of, like it hurt like hell, but only like a quarter of it went in, does that count? could i get pregnant like that? we used a condom jus wanna know for definate , coz i dont think my hymen broke th...
A. 12 April 2010: Yes that counts and yes you could get pregnant like that however since you used a condom you will most likely be OK. Your hymen probably did break and that's what caused the pain. Next time have lots of foreplay and make sure you are really turned ... (read in full...)
Should I just keep it to myself until I know for sure?
Q. Hi everyone... I am just looking for some advice with my current situation. I recently started sleeping with my ex boyfriend who I still have strong feelings for and he is not in a place where he can he give me the commitment that i want.....
A. 12 April 2010: Could be late due to stress I guess but I would go to the doctor and have a test. Sometimes the home ones don't detect pregnancy in the early days. Personally I wouldn't tell him until you have a definitive answer. Is there a close friend you ... (read in full...)
Being a virgin is depressing
Q. Being a 22 year old virgin is so damn depressing sometimes.I just wish i knew how much longer this must go on.People always saying being a virgins a good thing but I myself have just become more bitter, sarcastic, and introverted as the years go by. ...
A. 12 April 2010: This may sound sacartistic but is not meant to be. If you are bitter angry and introverted who is going to want to sleep with you? Ramp up your social life and join some clubs or organisations in things that interest you e.g cooking class, book ... (read in full...)
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