He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 16 March 2011: That's good. Time heals all wounds eventually.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 24 August 2010: Honestly I wouldn't confront him cause if you really stop and think about it this is a waste of time it's not going to sink in with him. Write him a letter that you DONT send and tell him everything you want to say. Get it all off your chest and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 14 July 2010: You're welcome go forth and be happy. May the force be with you :-)... (read in full...)
Part 2: pondering my situation about marriage
Q. Q: For most people, when they decided they want to get married, is it OBVIOUS that they want to get married to this other person. Is there this strong inner voice going, "YES! YES! YES! Of course I want to marry this person!"? I'm 30 and in a rela...
A. 10 June 2010: Look as it's basic maths really, either you feel you can spend the rest of your life with this person or you don't end of dilema. Sorry to sound harsh here but you sound selfish. I said that she sounds like your ideal mate because you state that ... (read in full...)
Help! We've been fighting lots!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been fighting alot lately i love him and i want to be with him and he says he love me we've been together going on 4years what should I do...
A. 9 June 2010: Sometimes we need some outside perspective to help sort these kinds of things out. Could you get some couples therapy of even just therapy for yourself could help. And it doesn't necessarily need to be a paid therapist. Friends mothers can be ... (read in full...)
Part 2: pondering my situation about marriage
Q. Q: For most people, when they decided they want to get married, is it OBVIOUS that they want to get married to this other person. Is there this strong inner voice going, "YES! YES! YES! Of course I want to marry this person!"? I'm 30 and in a rela...
A. 9 June 2010: I think some people do get that very strong inner voice and for others it's that they can't imagine not being with this person anymore. Just because you get married doesn't mean you have to have kids straight away. You need to decide together when ... (read in full...)
Part 3: pondering marriage in regard to libido
Q. Q: Should I be concerned about my decline in labido? Am I "chasing the dragon" by looking for a female mate to whom I'm as sexually attracted as I was to my first girlfriend? I had a long-term girlfriend all through high school and college. I w...
A. 9 June 2010: Sex is like a drug. After that first hit you are going to spend the rest of your life trying the achieve the same euphoria again. Yes you are chasing the dragon trying to find someone like your first love. Instead on concentrating on the sex why ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with this guy?
Q. i ask my man to send naughty messages..wont. i ask him to go down on me since im always down on him, wont...whats wrong im 4'11'' and hes 6'3'' and doesnt wanna do it missionary... HELP...
A. 9 June 2010: Yep he's got a problem alright. Tell him to shape up in the bedroom or ship out!... (read in full...)
I know that no matter how much I love her she'll probably never love me the same way.
Q. Have you ever been in love with someone you know would never love you back. I've been in love with this girl for sometime now. About 2 or 3 years to be exact. I've know her my whole life and we hang out all the time and I can be 100% myself around ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yep a lot of us have been there. It's bloody hard! You either have to bite the bullet and tell her you would like to be more than friends with her or you'll have to let it go. I know that both those things are easier said than done but for the ... (read in full...)
My wife left me and I want her back
Q. I want my wife back even though she has had an affair for 5 months. We have a 4 year old daughter, and she says she is in love with the other guy. She told me she loves me, but she is not in love with me. She told me she misses the family aspect ...
A. 9 June 2010: This is a hard situation for all involved. I guess all you can do is keep telling her you love her and that you realise you've been a complete arse and that you want to change. Go and have counselling for yourself and start showing her you want to ... (read in full...)
Is this an indication he is thinking long-term?
Q. The guy I've been dating for the last 2 months has started asking me about what I'd like to be doing a few years from now... would you take that as an indication that he could be thinking about the idea of us being together long term?...
A. 8 June 2010: Could be or he could be just making conversation. Just relax and don't worry about the future it'll turn out the way it's supposed to. Just sit back and let it happen and enjoy the time you are spending right now.... (read in full...)
Dating my friend's crush? How do I let her know and not lose her??
Q. So I have had a few fights with my longtime best friend. Most of them about boys. But recently a boy who my friend likes started to txt me and I am now begining to have very strong feelings for this boy. I want to tell her that me and the boy just ...
A. 8 June 2010: Do you still want to be friends with this girl because I predict a real doozy of a fight if you pursue this. If you have had enough of her then by all means pursue him but if you want to stick the friendship out then forget the boy. Boys come and ... (read in full...)
Can I trust her or is she sneaking behind my back to meet her male friend?
Q. I've been dating this girl for two years and living with her for one. And ever sinced we moved in everything has kinda been going down hill. During the first week of the moving process she loan a friend her cell and that person came up to me and ...
A. 7 June 2010: Oooo sounds pretty suspicious to me! Do you think she's doing anything at your house? Because if so then you can set up something to catch her. Like go to work and then come home early or set up a hidden video camera.
I personally think that your... (read in full...)
Boys!! One day said he loved me, next day he's cold!
Q. I really like this guy called gav! we were together for a month,and then he finished with me, and to be quite honest im not sure why, we was talking the othere night and he said he loved me he just wasnt sure how much and so im a bit like okay what ...
A. 7 June 2010: The best thing you could do here is live life to the fullest without worrying what he's up to. If he sees you looking confident, having a great time with your mates and looking happy with yourself it'll make you irrestible to him. Don't ask me why ... (read in full...)
Help with getting rid of blackheads?
Q. Hi everyone, I have an issue with blackheads. Blackheads are the only type of acne I have, but they're horrible. I have them on my nose, cheeks, forehead, everywhere. They're not really noticeable except up close, but I'm sensitive about them. I've ...
A. 6 June 2010: I think they are a gene related thing because my Mum, sister and myself all have them. Honestly I don't think you can ever get rid of them completely but if you want to cover them mine dissappear under foundation. Regular facials can help but they ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm not good enough
Q. Okay, well... I have some problems. Me and this guy really, really like each other. He thinks I'm amazing... He loves my body he thinks I'm absolutely beautiful... But truthfully, I have soo many flaws covered up by clothes. I feel like I can't ge...
A. 6 June 2010: Hey doll please go see a doctor about the discharge cause it shouldn't smell. If it smells it usually indicates that there is something wrong. As for the hair part if a guy loves you enough the hair wont be an issue. Also you could talk to a ... (read in full...)
Hung up on a long distance girl
Q. How do I get over this girl? Alright sorry if this is a little lengthy but here it goes? I am an 18 year old guy and live in MN. Every time I travel down to Texas to see relatives I see one of my cousin's friends Jamie. The first time I met her w...
A. 6 June 2010: Long distance relationships work ONLY if both parties put the same amount of effort in. If you are the only one running about trying to keep it going move on because you will end up exhausted from all the giving you are doing. If however she is ... (read in full...)
I told him to leave me alone, so why is he doing this?
Q. here it goes.. about a month ago i told the guy i really like to leave me alone and that i'm done with him. Why? because he was all over his ex and still trying to hang out and kiss me.. all that good stuff. his friend put him on the phone and as ...
A. 6 June 2010: He's realised what he's missed out on and now he's deperately trying to impress you. You now have to decide to completely ignore him until he gives up or to give him another chance and date him.... (read in full...)
To let go completely? Or hold on somewhat?
Q. My highschool sweetheart/first love/best friend told me that he thinks it will be best if we never talk again. We have known each other for almost 7 years. We have a lot of history. Obstacles have been thrown right and left. First, my parents hated ...
A. 6 June 2010: Sweetie I think you should move on. As you said in your post you've put up with a lot in this relationship and now you are holding yourself back from other opportunties by waiting for something that you have no guarantee will work anyway.
Get your... (read in full...)
Help! How do you let go of someone you love?
Q. I can't let go of her. For some reason, against all logic and against everything I've tried to do for myself, to get my life in order, I can't let go of her. We were together for eight and half years and in the course of 24 hours everything in my...
A. 5 June 2010: Jonathan your answer to us all totally reassures me that you are gonna be ok. You are doing all the right things and to use a horrible cliche time heals all wounds.
Don't lose faith in love because I believe that our various relationships are tool... (read in full...)
I'm married but am attracted to my co-worker!
Q. I'm married and have been with my husband for nearly 7 years. I love him dearly and we have a great relationship. He really is my best friend and I can't imagine not having him in my life. However, I have found myself crushing on this guy at ...
A. 5 June 2010: Yes it's completely normal. Just because we are married doesn't mean we can't appreciate a good looking guy. My husband and I tell each other when we think someone is good looking but that's as far as it ever goes. Just enjoy looking at him ... (read in full...)
Is this girl worth pursuing at this point?
Q. This is a follow-up to my last question but since that was anonymous, that's kind of pointless to say but here it goes... When I was junior last year, there was a freshmen girl in my journalism class that I initially had no real interest in even...
A. 5 June 2010: Yes yes yes, go for it you only live once!
Good luck... (read in full...)
Advice please! How can I get my ex off my back???
Q. How can i get my ex off my back without hurting her too badly? We were together 7 months and i broke it off about a week and a half ago. Mostly she was becoming way too obsessive (one of the last emotional texts she sent me before we broke up w...
A. 5 June 2010: I would also tell her that you are struggling and need a break from her just before you get grounded and then she wont expect to get back with you when the grounding is over.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's ex!
Q. ok, well im in love with my best friends ex, i've always loved him even befor they went out i just dont understand why he chose her over me, she had a boyfriend when he asked her out and then she broke up with her boyfriend for him and the day she ...
A. 5 June 2010: That middle paragraph of your post is a bit confusing I can't figure out who is breaking up who there. Anyhow my sugestion is to tell your best friend that you really really like her ex and always have liked him even before she was with him and ask ... (read in full...)
How to be the one to be chased and not to become the chaser
Q. In relationships I'm always the one to make the moves and to get hooked by the girl, but I've met a girl now, and we get on and that, but I don't want to come across easy to get, I don't want to be the person to text her, and that. She called me ...
A. 5 June 2010: You're the guy it's your job to be the chaser. And being the chaser doesn't make you look easy to get it makes you look confident and in control. You go chase but do it on your terms :-)... (read in full...)
Help! How do you let go of someone you love?
Q. I can't let go of her. For some reason, against all logic and against everything I've tried to do for myself, to get my life in order, I can't let go of her. We were together for eight and half years and in the course of 24 hours everything in my...
A. 5 June 2010: I don't want to sound harsh here but why would you want someone back who cheated on you? You're well shot of her I think. In saying that though I understand where you are coming from, it's very hard work getting over a love especially when you ... (read in full...)
Advice please! How can I get my ex off my back???
Q. How can i get my ex off my back without hurting her too badly? We were together 7 months and i broke it off about a week and a half ago. Mostly she was becoming way too obsessive (one of the last emotional texts she sent me before we broke up w...
A. 5 June 2010: Oh dear I really do feel for you this is a tricky one. Unfortunately for her she is going to have to stand on her own two feet and deal with this and trying to make you feel guilty by threatening to kill herself is so selfish. You can't let that ... (read in full...)
How to go about kissing him?
Q. im the worst person to live ever, i have been going out with this guy for about a week, we havent actually held hands or hugged or anything yet but today he walked over to me and tried to kiss me. I completely freaked out and leant away, he said to ...
A. 4 June 2010: He'll get over it. Tell him to harden up there are worse things than that that will happen to him over time.... (read in full...)
Is my boss encouraging me to leave my job because he wants me?
Q. "OPs Own Title" Is my boss encouraging me to leave my job because he wants me? For months he has been looking at me in a way that is obvious attraction. He has grown on me too. I hear that he has children but see my family pictures in his office ...
A. 3 June 2010: Good luck doll hope it all works out for you :-)... (read in full...)
How to go about kissing him?
Q. im the worst person to live ever, i have been going out with this guy for about a week, we havent actually held hands or hugged or anything yet but today he walked over to me and tried to kiss me. I completely freaked out and leant away, he said to ...
A. 3 June 2010: If you are the worst person to live based on not wanting someone to kiss you then what do we call the people who rape, murder and hurt people??
When you are ready you will know and if your BF has any scruples he will understand this too.... (read in full...)
My ex is seeing a counsellor and I'm worried he will do something stupid. And it is all because of me!
Q. Hey. So i have a little problem. i recently broke up with my boyfriend we had been on and off for about a year, we have known each other since yr1. we broke up because we are both jealous people, i don like him talking to the chick that he che...
A. 3 June 2010: Together you two are a train wreak! Move on and don't give him another thought you will be better people apart from each other. You should try to work on your jealously before the next relationship comes along.... (read in full...)
It's been two years but I still miss him!
Q. I went out with a guy for a loooong time and we broke up three and a half years ago because it wasn't working out. this was mainly because we were quite young and at uni so living in different places. we stayed in touch and i guess i've never really ...
A. 3 June 2010: I'm not usually a fan of rekindled relationships because the reasons you broke up in the first place are usually still there, however in your case I believe I would make an exception. I think you should get back together with him for the following ... (read in full...)
I feel he isn't into me anymore, Please help!
Q. please help i am so confused and i really dont know what to do. i met this guy a few months ago at a club he spilled a drink on me and i danced with his best friend few days after that i saw that he was at my sisters house and i also found out that ...
A. 3 June 2010: Oops sorry didn't read your age before I suggested wine and cheese. Make some muffins after all the way to a man's heart is through his stomach... (read in full...)
I feel he isn't into me anymore, Please help!
Q. please help i am so confused and i really dont know what to do. i met this guy a few months ago at a club he spilled a drink on me and i danced with his best friend few days after that i saw that he was at my sisters house and i also found out that ...
A. 3 June 2010: I would think he bailed on you for that second date because you cancelled the first one and hurt his feelings. Go round to his house with a bottle of wine and some cheese and then go out to dinner together after that.... (read in full...)
Is my boss encouraging me to leave my job because he wants me?
Q. "OPs Own Title" Is my boss encouraging me to leave my job because he wants me? For months he has been looking at me in a way that is obvious attraction. He has grown on me too. I hear that he has children but see my family pictures in his office ...
A. 3 June 2010: From your post it's hard to work out if you are interested in him too. If you are interested in him then wait until you have left the job and see if he contacts you then suggest meeting for a coffee. If you are not intested in him then once you ... (read in full...)
What can we do to stop the itching?
Q. my sex life here lately is non existent .Because my girl is experiencing itching problems in and around her vagina .My question is what can we do to stop the itching .Doctors just don't seem to help her they keep saying all kinds of different things ...
A. 3 June 2010: I agree with chigirl go see a gynacologist about this. It needs to be sorted out once and for all.... (read in full...)
How do I live my own life without letting everyone elses opinions getting to me so much.
Q. i have been in an interracial relationship for 3 years. at first it was fun and wonderful when it was just him and i, but as we started getting serious , he wanted me to introduce him to my family and friends, who took our relationship very badly, ...
A. 31 May 2010: At the end of the day your life is your responsibility and as such you are the one who makes the ultimate decisions about what suits you. Stuff what everyone else thinks, what do YOU think?... (read in full...)
I'm really enjoying masturbation? is this normal?
Q. i have had great sex with my boyfriend in the past, i always reach orgasm with him, but recently i don't feel like having sex with him anymore, and im holding out on him but when i get home i masturbate. im really enjoying masturbation? is this ...
A. 31 May 2010: 100% normal. However don't shut him out for too long otherwise you might end up with relationship problems.... (read in full...)
Can this work?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles... looking for some feedback here! My current boyfriend and I have known each other since high school and have been together for about four months. We moved really fast once getting together, although neither of us were trying ...
A. 31 May 2010: I think it could work so long as he is willing to listen to you and try to understand where you are coming from with some of those annoying things (I'm right behind you on those issues by the way). I think you should say to him "Look I love being ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 31 May 2010: See if I was you're mother I'd be mighty worried about you right now because if your experiencing all that you can not be acting normally. Most mothers will fight tooth and nail to help their kids when there is something wrong with them so I still ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 30 May 2010: I'm starting to wonder if you actually like wallowing in misery since you don't seem keen to follow any of the suggestions put to you by any posters. Your replies are starting to sound pretty whinny and whingey. Come on dude pull your head in and ... (read in full...)
How do I forget this guy when I don't even know why he stopped talking to me..?
Q. Hello dear cupid well right now im feeling really sad and depressed because of a boy, so this boy and i met on myspace we hit it off well and i gave him my number we texted for like a month and then he came to visit me oh yeah he lived in LA while ...
A. 30 May 2010: Think of it this way. He obviously doesn't give you a second thought now so why would you waste your heart and head giving a dam about him? Make a conscious decision to move on from this guy, when you're down and depressed like this you are closed ... (read in full...)
Can being in a relationship, ever weigh more than the risk of getting their STD?
Q. Hey! It's me again. I have to see my GP in a few days time to arrange an HIV test. You see, I had it off with a prostitute once and I have to find out if I caught anything. Comprende? But my question is...Is it worth ever being in a relationship w...
A. 30 May 2010: Ever heard of condoms???... (read in full...)
I'm ready for our first kiss, but how do I get him to initiate it?
Q. i want to kiss my bf but im to scared i dont want to make the first move so how can i get my bf to kiss me?...
A. 30 May 2010: Stroke his face with your face quite close to his. It will all follow fairly naturally after that... (read in full...)
Do I pick the guy who I have the history with, or the guy who makes my heart skip a beat?
Q. i am torn between two guys. the first guy i have known him for 8 years, we have been friends with benefits on and off for about 6 years, i always felt like he was the love of my life. didn't matter who i was with i always ended back with him. but in ...
A. 30 May 2010: Yes I think you can be in love with two people at once. Lets face it we manage to love as many children as we produce and our partner at the same time. But hey lets be practical here unless you move to Cuba or he moves to your country you can't be ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: Exactly my point go to the doctor and ask them to refer you to a therapist. Tell your parents you are depressed and you don't really know why. (there are hundreds of people in this situation) You need to be able to talk to someone who is not ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: So lie to your parents. Make up something that is wrong with you that they wont want to verfiy like a discharge from your penis or a urinary infection. Then tell the doctor you have had to lie to your parents and he will have to help you. You ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 May 2010: Doctors can't discuss their sessions with anyone else even your parents so they need not find out why you are visiting the doctor.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Again I repeat keep away from him. He's confused and it's making him unsure how to react. May I suggest you make friends with some girls. Unlike males (not meaning to male bash here) we like to talk. We like to analyse situations from every ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Just back off from him completely and let him come back to you in his own time. Like it or not he feels uncomfortable now and he needs to deal with that in his own time and in his own way. You just need to carry on as per usual and wait ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry mate but your thinking is a little off here. You have no right to be angry at him. He said straight out at the beginning that he was not attracted to you and was straight. You need to put yourself in his shoes and realise that whether you ... (read in full...)
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