In a relationship, but can't stop thinking about my ex!
Q. I'm in a happy relationship of only 2 months, the guy i'm with i can't fault. Just one problem,, i can't stop thinking about my ex. I split up with him over a year ago because of drug use but i totally fell in love with him. We were together for ...
A. 15 August 2010: My husband is fond of saying "You have to look out for number one" I always thought it was a bit callous at times but he's right. That guy was looking out for number one now you have too.... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 13 August 2010: He asbsoutely has to go back to that dark place again to sort it out once and for all and put it behind him. He has buried it and that's why he can't remember it but it's lying there hiding, eating away at him and causing problems. No body wants ... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 12 August 2010: Sexual assault is such a cruel thing and most likely to be responsible for his problems. He should have some therapy to help him get over this. Pain like that buries itself very deeply.
Good luck to both of you with patience and love I know you ... (read in full...)
What does this non-serious ex keep contacting me a year and a half later?
Q. Hello, about a year and a half ago I dated a guy I was crazy about. We only dated for four months and only saw each other maybe ten times. We broke up on good terms, but basically because I wanted something more serious than him. He started con...
A. 12 August 2010: This is one of those occasions where you have to be brutally honest and say to him look I like you but I'm not interested in being friends. If you want to have a serious relationship then I'd love to too but if not I need to move on.
Good luck doll... (read in full...)
I'm the cheated wife!
Q. Hi I'm the cheated Wife. My Ex found his true love at work and they both conspired to Divorce their spouses. She has a kid and I've a little boy as well. My ex was not sure in the beginning but she pressured him to get the divorce first and she woul...
A. 12 August 2010: Oh my God he is the limit!!! He's certinally had a nice time having his exciting strong minded girlfriend and his so called plain wife on the side. What a tosser seriously get this guy out of your life he's treating you like a doormat and you DO ... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 12 August 2010: He really needs to talk to a Doctor about this. It's almost certinally fixable but the longer he leaves it the worse it will be.... (read in full...)
British women...
Q. Why are britsh women nearly always subtle... not like foreign women who dont beat around the bush (no pun intended) and get straight to the point.... would certainly make life a lot easier!!...
A. 12 August 2010: British humour is subtle when you compare it with American humour. Maybe it's just part of the culture?... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to be friends with me any more...
Q. Ok so i'm having some boy trouble. So this boy and I used to be good friends. I've always had a crush on him and he's always been there for me. On the last day of school he even kissed me, even though he reassured me that we're only friends. Well ...
A. 10 August 2010: I suggest apologising to him for the fight and telling him you are feeling so bad about all the problems with your family and not acting normally at the moment. Then you can ask him for another chance.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of being alone forever!
Q. I know im only 13, but im afraid of being alone forever. I havent had a father in my life since my parents got divorced when I was 6. I dont have any brothers, so I dont know whats it like to be around men. My mom says that all men are pigs and that ...
A. 10 August 2010: Oh Doll I feel for you the way you are feeling. Your Mum has obviously been badly hurt and she is giving you the wrong information because of it. Sure there are men out there who hurt women and there are just as many who love their woman with all ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating with my ex but I'm not! How can I convince him?
Q. Hey. I'm a 21 year old female. I have a boyfriend that I love a lot ! We've been together for 4 years now and he thinks I'm cheating on him with my ex!! He doesn't like when I talk to guys, and I don't like when he talks to girls either! He does it ...
A. 10 August 2010: First off what a bitchy thing your cousin did. Regardless of whether it was a joke it was in very bad taste. Second do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who questions your every move and becomes jealous when you talk to ... (read in full...)
What should I tell my brother?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago. We were together for a few years. I am in my mid twenties. My parents know because i was really upset. For some reason, rather than tell my brother who lives close by i have just pretended everything is the ...
A. 10 August 2010: I think you should just be honest and say you are not together but you don't want to talk about it. Your bro will be hurt if he finds out you've been lying to him.... (read in full...)
Help! Vaginal smell is too strong!
Q. Okay, here's my problem. Since I met my current partner sex has always been extremely... smelly. When she gets wet, it often, but not always, is accompanied by a strong sour or bad smell. Often it's not too bad (but still definitely worse...
A. 10 August 2010: Hello fellow NZer. Yep this is a tricky one. If she has got a yeast infection then it's probably itchy so you could begin the discussion by asking if she's itchy. You could tell her she looks a bit red and itchy. If you do this in a concerned ... (read in full...)
Why is my abusive Ex not abusive to the new girl?
Q. well i left my abusive bf(the father of my 5 year old twins)about a year ago and i am lonely and misserable i live at my moms cause i cant afford my own place.my ex has a live in girlfriend and his own apt and he appears to be happy and not abusive ...
A. 10 August 2010: He will abuse her! I bet it started slowly with you too. Abusers can not start off abusing or they would never have a relationship they have to draw their victims in first and make them feel powerless before they start. He will be in the ... (read in full...)
Why do these guys abuse???
Q. Why do men abuse little girls? what makes a man abuse someone? i was sexually molested from the ages of 5-8 and then again from 12-16. why did these people abuse me in each case and why would this have happened during both time periods? i blame ...
A. 10 August 2010: Often abusers are abuse victims themselves. They were damamged and then repeat the cycle. It's sooooo important that you NOT blame yourself for this. The people who do this to children are sick and need help. You really need to seek some therapy ... (read in full...)
Engaged... but I don't love her!
Q. Hello, We're engaged for nearly a year now, I like her but I don't think that I love her. We're sexually attracted to each other but other than that we have nothing in common. I told her once that I am not sure where our relationship is headin...
A. 10 August 2010: Definately it's better the break up before you get married. Engagement is much easier to break off than having to go through a divorce. The other option is to put the wedding off for longer and see if you grow to love her more.
Good luck dude don'... (read in full...)
Can I see a doctor without my parents knowing?
Q. I'm 18 and live in Canada (Alberta, if it makes a difference). Making the appointment and getting to the clinic isn't a problem; the only thing I'm not sure of is if my parents will receive some type of notification in the mail, like an insurance ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hey doll I live in New Zealand and here that would not happen. I'm sure it will be the same for your country. Doctors vists are confidential so just request that they will not send anything to your house. ... (read in full...)
I didn't realize how much time he spent on pornography until just recently
Q. My boyfriend and I have a healthy relationship of almost 4 years. I have never been the type of girl to complain about pornography, I in fact enjoy watching it myself and have encouraged the openness and sharing of it in our relationship. He has ...
A. 10 August 2010: To quote Dr. Phil if an activity in your life (e.g washing your hands or in your case watching porn) takes over your life then it's a problem.
I think you will have to be blunt with him and say "Hey dude I'm all for a bit od porn for ente... (read in full...)
We're teenagers and we really want to have a baby!
Q. Hi :) My boyfriend and I realllyyyyy want a baby!! We've been trying for about 2 months and it doesn't seem to work. Everyone says I'm too young for a baby, but I know this is what we want. I love my boyfriend to death, and we want a baby and ...
A. 10 August 2010: I'm going to answer this two ways one you wont want to hear and one with advice in it :-)
1. Honestly I really wish you would both live together before you have a child together. Then you will really see whether or not you are compatible and will... (read in full...)
Want to have sex, but don't want to tell him I'm a virgin!
Q. I am a 29 year old virgin. This is not something I planned on, it just sort of happened. I am not religious at all, I simply have not found the right guy for me. I dated a guy for awhile when I was a teenager and he really took away my ...
A. 7 August 2010: Yay you. ... (read in full...)
I was too controlling and she left me. Now what can I do?
Q. Well I can't really ask what to do without first explaining my situation. My ex-girlfriend was with me for almost 2 years. One month in our relationship she left me for my best friend. A week after THAT, he broke up with her and she begged to ha...
A. 6 August 2010: Yep I agree with Phoebe your GF sounds a bit flighty. Move on and find another girl to love but remember not to be controlling.... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but can't stop thinking about my ex!
Q. I'm in a happy relationship of only 2 months, the guy i'm with i can't fault. Just one problem,, i can't stop thinking about my ex. I split up with him over a year ago because of drug use but i totally fell in love with him. We were together for ...
A. 6 August 2010: I wouldn't try to be friends with him it never works. Make a complete break from him. If you are mean't to be with him he will come back to you when you both are in better places.... (read in full...)
Want to have sex, but don't want to tell him I'm a virgin!
Q. I am a 29 year old virgin. This is not something I planned on, it just sort of happened. I am not religious at all, I simply have not found the right guy for me. I dated a guy for awhile when I was a teenager and he really took away my ...
A. 6 August 2010: I don't understand why society is so against virginity. Everyone is a virgin at some time and good on you for keeping it for someone you felt deserved it. Don't feel ashamed it's a great and wonderful thing now days.
Have great sex!!!... (read in full...)
How do I behave when I see my ex who hurt me?
Q. "OP Own Title" Hello all, My boyfriend has gone back to his ex, Im devastated, I truly believed him when he told me he loved me. We were together for 5 months. He hasn't even had to balls to tell me. Its been 6 weeks now and I haven't contacted ...
A. 6 August 2010: You know the saying revenge is the best medicine? I don't agree with nasty revenge but symbolic revenge is great. In this case you doll yourself up and look as hot as you possibly can. Arrange a fake smile on your face and face him with every ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to talk to me and not be mad at me?
Q. heres a good one for you guys. to make a long story short, my ex said she loved me when we broke up, now she hates my guts and calls me an ass and all this stuff and shes ignoring me. i tried to friend her new guy on facebook, not knowing he was the ...
A. 6 August 2010: Hate is the flip side of love so if she's saying she hates you and putting that much effort and venom into making you the bad guy then she still has unresolved feelings about you. If she was truly over you she wouldn't care who you spoke to or what ... (read in full...)
Internship people are asking me quit my job! I need advice fast! Please help.
Q. Hi there, I have a bit of a big dilemma. This is more about a career thing, but i've came here for a lot of problems before and have received so much help. I'm not sure where else to go in such short notice. I hope you can help me! I am currently ...
A. 1 August 2010: Yes you have done the right thing. You have nothing to worry about since you have your parents support if everything goes pear shaped.
Good luck doll.... (read in full...)
Help! My mum's boyfriend is molesting me.
Q. ok, so ive asked a few questions on this topic before but i could really use your help on this one! until about 3 months ago my mom's boyfriend has been molesting me (this had been happening for about 3 years and no-one knws about this. i was also ...
A. 1 August 2010: I totally agree with the last poster. If you can't tell a family member for some reason please tell a teacher or a friends mother or father someone you can trust. You do not deserve this and it MUST be stopped.... (read in full...)
Opinions. If he wanted to break up he'd tell me, ignore me or be slightly rude right?
Q. I've posted before.. but i cant seem to relax.. im constantly thinking. I realized when guys are sick theyre big babies (well some). I'm used to being needed when a bf is sick but because my bf has his mom nearby/her friends to get him things.. he ...
A. 1 August 2010: I hate having to look after sick people! I can't understand why anyone would want to be a nurse (God bless you, you wonderful people) when my hubby is sick I get grumpy at him for being such a wuss. If I were you I'd be glad that his mother is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pothead!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 and a half years since 8th grade. he was a major pot head and last year he was sent to a boot camp for almost ten months, he made it seem like he was so changed and he wouldnt smoke again i waited for him. ...
A. 1 August 2010: Ditch him... (read in full...)
Since moving in together he is not the same person I fell in love with...
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for some time now and we've been living together for about 2 months. It was nice in the beginning when i first moved in, but now i feel horrible. He is not the same person i fell in love with. He calls me name and ...
A. 1 August 2010: Sweetheart why do you want to stay with this person???? When someone is making you feel that bad you need to get away as quickly as you can. Don't tell him you are moving out. Just move out when he's not there get your family to help you to make ... (read in full...)
Why did she just diss my feelings that I still love her and want her back?
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for about 5-6 months already. We were in a long distance relationship for that time. We had an amazing bond together best friends, lovers we just got along so perfectly. Now during this break up I have ...
A. 1 August 2010: Do what you said you would do. move closer to her and ignite this relationship.... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy's respect after sleeping with him straight away?
Q. Hey guys! Right, well i slept with this guy that i like, and have done for a while, were not in any sort of relationship though, me sleeping with him probably wasn't the best thing to do. How do i get this guy's respect after this? I'm hoping to b...
A. 1 August 2010: Tell him you want a relationship not just sex. ... (read in full...)
Why oh why did this happen to me?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years, we've had sex a couple of times, not regularly though. Yesteday we were fooling around and things got heated up, i was hard, and we were about to have sex. But when we were about to, i lost my ...
A. 1 August 2010: Try again and if the same thing happens see a doctor.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend ashamed of me?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and he has not introduced me to anyone and I feel like he is hiding me. We work together and he says he doesn't want to tell people about us, because he doesn't know how they will react to us dating a...
A. 1 August 2010: I flatted with a guy who did this to his GF. They did not last.
I suggest you come right out and ask him what the hell is going on. I agree jmc930 you need someone who's proud to have you by his side.... (read in full...)
How loyal are we to the memory of an old love?
Q. A generic question - you fall in love or develop a rather major crush on someone, and for whatever reason your feelings are never openly declared to the other person. How long do they hold a special place in your heart for? In my experience, and ...
A. 1 August 2010: I do have a special place in my heart for my first love but not crushes. They are long gone in the memory banks.... (read in full...)
I might not manage to go to the prom but she said she'd just go herself! This bugs me.
Q. hey me again, me and my girl where discussing when her senior prom will be, and I brought up the question of what if I couldn't come? (since I'm in job corps like 3 hours away from her, there is a distinct possibility I wont be able to) And she...
A. 1 August 2010: I understand you feeling nervous about this given what happened with the last GF but don't let what happened with her ruin what you have with this new girl. You don't want to become a weirdo control freak because some tramp abused your trust in the ... (read in full...)
I feel like everyone hates me and that I just don't matter.
Q. Hi All, My life feels so weird lately, I have friends on Facebook that take their friendship away without giving a reason, I get ignored on Facebook, anything I post doesnt even get a response! I feel like I dont exist, at a works party recently...
A. 1 August 2010: I agree with Serena get to the bottom of this and ask people what you have done wrong. ... (read in full...)
Lonely and really need a man in my life again...
Q. I'm so lonely. I'm not that much of an outgoing person i find it difficult to socialize in big groups of people and can come across quite shy. About 2 years ago i got together with a guy who i could be completely myself with,i fell for him. That ...
A. 1 August 2010: Join some special interest groups in stuff you love, e.g book club, cooking class, pottery class etc. This way you will meet new people and even if you don't meet a man you will have lots of new friends to include in your social events calendar.... (read in full...)
Eating disorder thoughts are slowly becoming worse.. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 years old and I'm terrified about the thoughts that have been entering my mind lately. When I was 6, my parents got a divorce. My dad dated off and on, then finally got 'serious' with a woman when I was 13. She was a complete psycho; sadly, ...
A. 1 August 2010: I'm not suprised her actions still haunt you it's one of the cruelest things you can say to a child. She obviously had her own battles with weight too.
Try to remember that famous people look perfect because they have teams of people round them... (read in full...)
Tiny bright red spots on his penis?
Q. My boyfriend realized he has tiny bright red spots on his penis head. They don't hurt or itch. He said it actually intensified the sex. But I'm curious if anyone would know what caused it? ...
A. 1 August 2010: If you are both worried about them I would see a doctor.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but I don't want to get back with him. How can I make him understand that?
Q. okay my boyfriend and i were going out years and we broke up and then i found out i was pregant and told him he cried saying he wasn't ready for this but he'll be there, I told him i'm not a bitch i have no problem with him seeing the child and ...
A. 1 August 2010: Be blunt. e.g. "I KNOW IT MEANS WE ARE NOT GETTING BACK TOGETHER YA TOSSER I WOULDN'T WANT YOU BACK ANYWAY EVEN IF YOU WERE THE LAST MAN ON EARTH!" Then follow that up with: "But I do want you in this baby's life so I will tell you when scan appts ... (read in full...)
Where are the best places to go to find a girlfriend?
Q. After a few bad relationships, I've decided to start going out again. I'm a single dude, age 24. I'm going out to clubs and bars to get myself out there. I see a few single girls there, but people advised me to stay away from those girls (STDS). ...
A. 1 August 2010: My favourite places to meet people are at clubs. E.g. you like books join a book club. You like cooking, take a cooking class etc. It's a slow way to start but you are guaranteed to meet someone you have something in common with.... (read in full...)
No matter what we try, I just can't have an orgasm
Q. my boyfriend and i who have been together for over a year and regularly have protected sex. but ever since we have been together, he has never given me an orgasm! i usually have to fake it because it makes him feel bad when he asks and i tell him, ...
A. 1 August 2010: I can't experience vaginal orgasms. Try clitorial stimulation during sex most guys love watching you stimulate yourself during sex. Fun for all :-)... (read in full...)
Fighting over our kids!
Q. My husband and I are constantly fighting over the kids. I have a 14 year old from a previous relationship and he has a daughter, 6 1/2, from a previous relationship. His daughter gets away with everything and my son gets pushed aside. What do I ...
A. 1 August 2010: Make your son your prioity. Spend time wth him alone and do stuff with him that he likes. Make dates to do stuff and write it on the calendar so that nothing interferes with this time. He's at a really vulnerable age and if you can be his main ... (read in full...)
I think I just maybe losing my mind in this whole situtaion please help?
Q. What do you do in a situation when you have a boyfriend at home that is older than you and you started out as best friends, eventually moved into a deeper relationship, have a hansome child together and are still good friends, but due to past issues ...
A. 31 July 2010: Why do you have to look after your child's father? Since you are not married to him you have no obligation to do this. There are other options for him to get help rather than relying on you. Can you move out? I suggest you move out and be your ... (read in full...)
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