Am I reading the signs right re this guy who shows interest in me?
Q. This guy that I work with started flirting with me out of the blue one day. We have a very strong physical attraction. But he told me from start he doesn't want a relationship right now. But, lately he has given me gifts and we have been hanging out ...
A. 15 May 2009: You have to take him at his word.
If you are going to fall for him and get hurt then just tell him that you are getting these feelings and you know he doesn't want a girlfriend so you are going to have to stop seeing him.
He's just happy with ... (read in full...)
Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...
A. 15 May 2009: Wow, she really does have attention issues, which would explain why she's so desperate to keep you strung along.
Cut contact and when she does call you and invite you out STOP GOING!
You KEEP seeing her. Why????
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I am perceived as not a convential beauty - can guys still want me?
Q. Do guys prefer the more convential beauty to some one who isn't - like me. I am 32 year old which is old and who has a fat face and short teeth. Now will you please print my question since you printed every one else's but mine every time. I re...
A. 15 May 2009: Hi again.
I don't know what you want us to say.
You KNOW that men like different things.
You KNOW that you are only here asking because you need some kind of self confidence boost.
If you really feel bad about yourself then get mental h... (read in full...)
Legal boundaries for students/teachers
Q. Yes, yet again another student-teacher relationship question/s.................. I was just wondering what the exact boundaries are for students and teachers? Just for the purpose of this question, disregard the age gap issue even though I know th...
A. 15 May 2009: They are in a position of trust and you are a child.
It doesn't matter whether they teach you or not.
Anything that means that they have feelings for you is frowned upon and would be enough to lose them their job.
Any contact like text... (read in full...)
How much time is enough 'space' before I should try contacting him?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a fight and he basically moved out of my house, and won't talk or see me. He's a sulker, and is still fighting the ghosts of his last relationship, and has done this once before, but it wasn't this severe. The last time he did ...
A. 15 May 2009: Send him an email or a text, something he doesn't have to respond to straight away.
Just ask him... "Look I need to know if I need to move out of here because I can't afford it on my own. If I don't hear from you by the end of the weekend then I w... (read in full...)
My dad makes me feel ugly
Q. So i have albinism. I can not tan at all. One day about maybe two years ago i had this two piece bathingsuit and my dad got wicked mad. He said that i looked ugly in it because it showed to much whtie. That made me feel horrible. and i didn't lis...
A. 15 May 2009: I'm very pale and chose not to tan.
Next time he says anything to you just turn round and tell him not to call you ugly as he's not exactly brad pitt either. Then point out everything that he's wearing that makes him look fat and old and if his h... (read in full...)
Parents took his phone and now we can't talk
Q. So I met this boy over the internet. His name is John and I'm absolutely wild about him. the thing is that I know that it doesnt feel right to flirt with a guy who I've never even met but as we started talking we got close. We also texted. his ...
A. 15 May 2009: You have to let him go.
His parents obviously know that you could be anyone and that is fair enough.
Try and move on and find a guy in real life to chat to.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think he's two faced and not sure tht I can trust him
Q. Hi, I am in a very complicated situation and would like some advice. My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old and we have been dating for over a year, starting around winter 2008. When we first got together he was always there for me. He didn...
A. 15 May 2009: Well this has to be your choice.
You either: Forgive, and give him a chance and let this whole thing go.
Or: You realise you can't forgive and that means that no matter how nice he is now, the trust is gone and it has to end.
If you want to ... (read in full...)
Quiet and boring until I drink.
Q. When i'm sober i am really boring and find it hard to start conversations. At work i'm the quiet one with hardly anything to say. Talking to a girl i just get tongue tied and embarrased. When i have had a drink i'm the life and soul of the part...
A. 15 May 2009: Taste of India has it completely right.
You know that if you got friend to provide you with none alcoholic beer but told you it was real then you would have no problem being Mr Cool, this problem is in your head and pills are NOT the answer. ... (read in full...)
My wife pregnant by lover from open relationship I encouraged
Q. my wife is pregnant by her lover I encouraged an open relationship, she now wants to move in with him, H e is black and big I am white and 5'5 inches tall....
A. 15 May 2009: Well sucks to be you.
You might want to think about divorce, and next time to marry, pick a woman who actually wants to be with you.
Or don't marry if you want to shag about, then this won't happen.
Not sure why you mention your height. She... (read in full...)
I want a saucy romantic military kind of book to read!
Q. hey girls, this is a question for you. i'm not much of a book worm so i don't know where to look but i'm looking for a book, not one in particular, but a romantic erotic love story that involves the man being in the military. my guy used to be in ...
A. 15 May 2009: I don't read that kind of book but you could try searching for free fiction on the internet.
Also, just be careful that you don't make your poor guy feel inadequate as he USED to be in the army and he could easily feel like he USED to be sexy to ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 15 May 2009: Excellent. You should go to the family planning clinic though and get on the injection or pill or something and they will also give you condoms which you should put on him as soon as he goes anywhere near you when you are naked.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 15 May 2009: You need to decide that you don't want to be with him, that it was never going to happen and you are ready to move on.
THEN you can start getting over him.
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worth more than him an... (read in full...)
Fat joke that wasnt funny!
Q. my boyfriend I have been dating for 3 months told me he doesnt want me to lose weight as other men might fancy me, after seeing my hurt reaction he laughed it off saying he was joking but at the time did not seem that way...
A. 14 May 2009: Yeah men are stupid some times and they say stupid things. He probably didn't realise that it would sound so hurtful.
It's your body and if you want to be a bit healthier then lose some weight. If you are happy as you are then make sure you go o... (read in full...)
How do I tell b/f I'm through making mistakes?
Q. how do i let my boyfriend know that im done with making my mistakes and want to take the relationship furthur?...
A. 14 May 2009: you say:
"I'm done making mistakes. I know I won't do [insert mistake here] again because [insert reason that you know it won't happen again] and I want to get married."
However, if you have made mistakes, you might want to sort the relatio... (read in full...)
I need a boyfriend!
Q. i need help.i know im kid but i know what im talking about.i need a boyfriend.my boyfriend that i absolutely loved dumped me when i moved cn anyone help.can you tell me if i need to go to the skating rink and meet one there please help....
A. 14 May 2009: Why do you need a boyfriend?
Why can't you be single and have great fun with your girlfriends?
You have discovered how much boys can hurt you so why dash out and find another one? Get strong as a single girl.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm really confused as to who he had an affair with..it just really surprises me!
Q. Dear cupid, I have asked for advice before but need your help once again. My husband was caught cheating and he confessed he had cheated 3 times altogether(married for 21 years),he said how wrong he had been and it will never happen again,we ...
A. 14 May 2009: Well you need to get an STI test. The fact that he said a woman MADE him wear a condom for religious reasons (or because she is not an idiot) means that he's been not wearing condoms all the other times. He's lied for so long so who's to say that ... (read in full...)
I started dancing but don't know how to get out of it or how to tell my family/friends
Q. I started being a dancer like 2 months ago at first it was so much fun, i loved attention and the pay was worth it, now im getting tired of it already and it really messes with my mind with the fact that it affected my dating life and it totally ...
A. 14 May 2009: If you aren't enjoying it and it's just about the money then just get another job.
You don't need to tell your family about it if you find another way to make cash.
There has to be some job out there and even if it's not as well paid you wo... (read in full...)
How do you know if the hymen is nonexistent?
Q. simple question okay so how do you know if your hymen is nonexistent? i mean i haven't had sex before but i've experimented with my vibrator and i can go up to 6in without any pain or anything. does this mean im not a virgin anymore? i don't...
A. 14 May 2009: If you've shoved a fake penis in there then you are no longer a virgin in the technical sense.
Most girls aren't nowadays because we do things like ride bikes and climb trees and dance and play sports.
It's only girls back in the olden days w... (read in full...)
FWB: should I pick a guy who I don't really like or who I do?
Q. So there is this guy I like. But I don't like him enough right now to date him. I'm kind of more looking for a FWB. What should I do ?? If I tell this guy I like him but just want to be FWB maybe he will just see me as that and then later on not ...
A. 14 May 2009: Why do you want a FWB?
At your age you can't be THAT desperate to have someone to snog when drunk!
Yes find a guy you won't like, but trust. A friend who doesn't mean that much to you.
You CANNOT have feelings for him because the whole po... (read in full...)
Update: He is overly protective of his email and workplace
Q. Hi I was on here before about my boyfriend being over protective of his email and Blackberry. He viciously protects his office and the vicinity and wants me nowhere close. This is an update. He found that question here on DC, plus your a...
A. 12 May 2009: Well if you have decided to be a pathetic door mat than that is your choice.
When he starts smacking you about just try saying thankyou as well as sorry... that always helps things.
Good Luck with that.
Or you could stop acting like a pathe... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker as she says I am?
Q. Would anyone here consider it like stalking if the person your with says they're somewhere and you drive by to really see if there are where they say? Especially if they've lied before? it blew up today with the girl i was seeing she said she was at ...
A. 12 May 2009: Yes that is stalking.
If she is lying and cheating then you BREAK UP WITH HER, you don't try and become some kind of prison guard and catch her in the act.
Don't become that psycho boyfriend.
Keep your dignity instead and walk away.
... (read in full...)
Having doubts and want to end the relationship
Q. I have been going out with a guy for over a month now, but for the past 3 weeks I've been having doubts about the relationship and decided I want to end it. We started going out 5days before half term, and during the half term break I had no c...
A. 12 May 2009: Just walk up to him and say "we need to talk" then MAKE him walk somewhere alone with you.
Just tell him that since he doesn't make any effort to speak to you then you don't want to be with him.
Give him a hug and tell him no hard feelings th... (read in full...)
How can I move on if my ex keeps on contacting me?
Q. Hi I was dumped by my ex gf almost a month ago, I've been trying to move on. I've tried not to talk to her at least not try to initiate a conversation for the whole time, but there's a problem, she won't stop talking to me. everytime I'm online, she ...
A. 12 May 2009: Just re-add her and block her.
Have you told her that you are being hurt by the fact she won't give you space?
Just block her.
It's easier and since she dumped you then you don't exactly owe her anything.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why do blokes ask for your number after one night stand then never get in touch?
Q. Why do blokes ask for your number after one night stand then never get in touch? I meet this lovely bloke the other night and i ended up going back to his (i was quite drunk). We got on really well and the sex was great during the night but not so g...
A. 12 May 2009: Ah, that makes much more sense.
This is your rebound guy.
It's easy to go out and have great sex and you are remaining completely detatched by it.
But this is the first guy who's been nice to you and since you are EMOTIONALLY a bit vulner... (read in full...)
How can I make myself prettier??? I want to WOW him.
Q. im looking for advice on how i can make myself prettier. please not i am NOT looking for answers of people telling me beauty is on the inside, or its about confidence or anything like that. i want advice about physical thing i can do. My boyfr...
A. 12 May 2009: I didn't assume you were talking about sex, I was just explaining that you shouldn't get your hopes up about that on the first night because I know how let down I felt the first time I went though this.
I also know that he will be wowed by you a... (read in full...)
How can we stay safe?
Q. Right, me and my mate and her friend (all of us 15) are going to a gig next weekend. The problem is its abour 200 miles away and we'd have to stay overnight on the street. We really want to go and we've planned the train journey and we have the ...
A. 12 May 2009: I think you should talk to your mates and tell them that you really really don't want to go but don't want to let them go alone.
They might be as scared as you but not willing to speak up because they think you will go anyway. Find out more abo... (read in full...)
Keep it casual or a long term thing
Q. I'm in a casual dating relationship with a guy. He recently asked me if I wanted to "keep it casual or make it a long term thing". If he asked that, does it mean he wants more or is he just curious to know what I think?...
A. 12 May 2009: He probably just wants to check that you know where you stand and he's not using you.
We get HUNDREDS of questions on here saying "I'm in a casual relationship but I love him and I'm hoping that if I have sex with him a lot he's love me too...."... (read in full...)
Grown children still making mistakes
Q. Hi, my children are very stubborn and it’s very difficult to make them change their mind when they are up to something. How can I teach them other way? I always pay the price for their mistakes, because ,they never want to follow my advice. ...
A. 12 May 2009: Why do you always pay the price?
If it's their mistake then it's their problem.
Leave them alone and let them deal with it. If they are all grown then you should be out having fun again rather than chasing them round.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I make myself prettier??? I want to WOW him.
Q. im looking for advice on how i can make myself prettier. please not i am NOT looking for answers of people telling me beauty is on the inside, or its about confidence or anything like that. i want advice about physical thing i can do. My boyfr...
A. 11 May 2009: As an army wife then I can tell you that if you just wear your nicest heels and a little-ish skirt and something a little bit low cut with wonder bra, plus hair up and nice makeup and then he will be happy.
He's been away for so long that he will ... (read in full...)
Why do men suddenly stop contact, why cant they just be honest?
Q. Hi, maybe a guy could answer my question or problem. To cut a long story short, my best friend (male) left his partner and children 8 months ago. We have been more than friends now for 4 years. When he left he disappeared off my radar for 2 ...
A. 11 May 2009: He clearly thinks you are just friends.
Perhaps if you are something more than you should be with a married man then he now sees you as part of the problem rather than part of the solution.
If he is in a mess then he may just need an uncompli... (read in full...)
On my period, how do I tell him?
Q. my boyfriend and i slept together for the first time on saturday, and im seeing him tomorrow and think he wants to do it again. i want to again, but not tomorrow as ive just come on my period. however im quite shy about things like this and hes my ...
A. 11 May 2009: If he's dating a girl over the age of 11 then he is going to realise at some point that she's started her periods and has them monthly.
Just don't let him get that intimate and have a fun date night instead. If he says anything then just tell him... (read in full...)
Why do blokes ask for your number after one night stand then never get in touch?
Q. Why do blokes ask for your number after one night stand then never get in touch? I meet this lovely bloke the other night and i ended up going back to his (i was quite drunk). We got on really well and the sex was great during the night but not so g...
A. 11 May 2009: Because
a) he was not used to one night stands and therefore was acting a bit more like a boyfriend then normal one night stands
b) he took your number then met someone who wanted a boyfriend rather than a quick shag so deleted your number
c)... (read in full...)
Should I wait till after them to start the medication or not?
Q. Hello everyone, this question isn't a relationship one but a health one. I've just been put on citalopram for moderate/severe depression and I was wondering before I go on them if any of you have been on it and if it has actually made a differen...
A. 11 May 2009: They would not have given you a very expensive drug for free if there was not evidence that it works.
If you have exams then you need to be your best and you don't want your illness to affect you.
If you are worried about side effects and ever... (read in full...)
He hasn't texted me like he usually does! What's happening here?
Q. I know this might sound slightly petty but here goes... Ive been with my boyfriend for eight months. He has a full time job and I'm in six form. He's up early most days for work, and he always gives me a morning text and to see how i am, then h...
A. 11 May 2009: I think he's not bored of you but probably bored of the fact you make no effort.
Text him.
The poor lad probably has a migraine or the flu and is feeling rather hurt that you can't even be bothered to say "hi, how was your day?"
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Why do men suddenly stop contact, why cant they just be honest?
Q. Hi, maybe a guy could answer my question or problem. To cut a long story short, my best friend (male) left his partner and children 8 months ago. We have been more than friends now for 4 years. When he left he disappeared off my radar for 2 ...
A. 11 May 2009: He's TOLD you that when he gets down, he cuts off from everyone.
This is not about YOU!
Why are you so angry that this man who is at his lowest point ever is not being considerate of YOUR feelings.
Leave him to it and be there for him when... (read in full...)
How tall is too tall?
Q. So, uh, ladies... what height do you prefer on guys? What's gotta be the bare minimum height you like on a guy? And if there's such a thing as too tall, beyond what height would that be?...
A. 11 May 2009: To go out with me a guy must be taller then me so at least 5'10''
Since I am so tall there is no maximum height, but I can understand that if a girl is 5'0 then a 7' 10 guy might be a bit much.
Basically, since girls come in all heights, the... (read in full...)
Parents made me split up with my boyfriend
Q. Hey. Need some help... well a few months ago my parents made me split up with my boyfriend. I've never been so hurt. I'm not allowed to talk to him, see him, or talk to anyone he knows... which really sucks. anyways thats not what I need help...
A. 11 May 2009: Wow you must have done something pretty bad with him to lose that much trust.
Have you apologised to them for what ever it was you did?
Have you talked to them about it, and listened and talked to them about how you are not going to do it a... (read in full...)
How can we stay safe?
Q. Right, me and my mate and her friend (all of us 15) are going to a gig next weekend. The problem is its abour 200 miles away and we'd have to stay overnight on the street. We really want to go and we've planned the train journey and we have the ...
A. 11 May 2009: There is no way to stay safe.
If you wander about you could get attacked. Most big venues are in the middle of no where.
If the police see you they will pick you up and call your parents.
If you are going to do stupid things like this ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered an abusive relationship?
Q. I already posted a question, but it's getting worse.. This clingy, attatched boyfriend is getting rediculous... My phone was messed up and basically unusable. And so I got an old one a friend had given me. It was tmobile, I have att, my boyfriend ...
A. 11 May 2009: Why is your mum cutting back the time you see him?
Why aren't you dumping him for being an arse?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...
A. 11 May 2009: She is not doing it on purpose, and I'm she doesn't want to hurt you but she wants your company and friendship and will lead you on in order to spend time with you.
Stay strong and don't see her unless she tells you over the phone in advance ... (read in full...)
Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...
A. 7 May 2009: No, she is being a little immature about this.
If you dump someone then you cannot be the one to decide that it's fine to be just friends.
You can't expect someone to
a) stop their feelings
and
b) get over you while you are still there.
... (read in full...)
Would this be considered an abusive relationship?
Q. I already posted a question, but it's getting worse.. This clingy, attatched boyfriend is getting rediculous... My phone was messed up and basically unusable. And so I got an old one a friend had given me. It was tmobile, I have att, my boyfriend ...
A. 7 May 2009: Yes, your boyfriend should commucate with you like an adult.
He should not tell you that you have been naughty and need to sit on the naughty step and take away your phone.
He is not your dad and you are not 5.
Tell him you want your phone ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 28 April 2009: Just put the name of your town in there and "family planning" it should be fairly easy to find.
They normally have drop in sessions on a Saturday morning at our one so you just turn up and talk to the nurse.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 27 April 2009: Hit google and find the nearest family planning clinic in your area.
You say "the other night" if it was within 72 hours you can get the morning after pill.
If it was within 7 days ago then you can go and get the coil fitted and that will st... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 26 April 2009: Well this is like pulling a wax strip off.
Only you can do it, and you just have to get on with it.
Go and put all his stuff in a bin bag, and put it in a cupboard.
Then you just have to make a call or whatever and tell him.
Call your g... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 23 April 2009: The first or second time is enough. If you let it go on for years then you end up in love with them and tortured about the fact that he will NEVER change because he knows he can do what he likes, then say "he wants to be with me and me only" and ... (read in full...)
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