Why won't she tell me?
Q. I am confused about why I cannot get an answer from the girl I like about whether or nor she would go out on a "proper date" with me. We have met many times, she has been to my place and vice versa (she cooked for me) and she has said things that...
A. 22 May 2009: Woo!... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to go back home with him....could this mean he is still with the mother of his children?
Q. Ive met this guy hes 29 im 22, we have been on 4 dates and email and text everyday, they were great dates and were so attracted to each other lots of kissing...he lives about a hour away from me ive now asked twice to go back home with him, hes said ...
A. 21 May 2009: Dashing into sex is probably how he ended up with 2 kids in the first place.
What you have on your hands is a gentleman who wants this to go right.
Just because you haven't sniffed round all the corners of his home for other women doesn't me... (read in full...)
Condom broke during sex....where do I go from here?
Q. i had sex and he finished inside me however when he pulled out the condom had a big hole in the middle. This happened two days after my period had ended and im expecting my period the 8th of june. Are my chances really high im very worried and ...
A. 21 May 2009: Did you not go and get the morning after pill?
You don't say when this happened. But if it was within 72 hours you can still go and get the pill and save yourself all that worry.
If it's too late then you have to wait and see if you get your ... (read in full...)
After pressuring her to tell me what was wrong she broke up with me because I suffocate her!
Q. Here goes, i'm currently almost week five into a "break" with my gf. Shes currently going through a stressful time as her parents are on the verge of seperating. Anyway she was acting a little bit off for a while and anytime i asked what was wrong ...
A. 21 May 2009: Well as long as she is getting help then she should be ok.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Asked by my lover to visit him in Turkey....is it safe to go?
Q. I am American Black female who is in Love with a Turkish Man. We meet while working together, he was on a visa working in the States for a year. He has invited me to come and visit Turkey. I have never left home and would like to know if it is safe ...
A. 21 May 2009: If you met him in the US and you know him and trust him then there is no problem.
If he pushes for marriage or asks for cash then run home.
But other than that it's all good.
Make sure you stay in a hotel rather than at his place so you have... (read in full...)
How do you find out what causes impotence?
Q. How can you find out what causes impotence? How do you know ,if its psychological? Is there a good way to do that? thank you...
A. 21 May 2009: You go to the doctor with him and the doctor rules out all the physical possibilities.
If there is no physical reason for it then it must be psychological.
Doctors are good at finding out why you have medical problems. The internet is not ... (read in full...)
Just by looking, can you detect virginity?
Q. Hi all, I'm not sure whether this is the right place to post but, I have been wondering can people tell who is a 'virgin' or not? if so, how? (e.g. the eyes, the way they dress, act?) ...
A. 21 May 2009: Yes all virgins wear blue. They can't help it. It's the law. Look at every girl under 15 and you will see they are all wearing blue.
No of course you can't tell.
Your mum may be able to spot the signs that you have a boyfriend, spend lot... (read in full...)
Does he still love me now that we live together?
Q. I was wondering if you could please help me. I dont know if my boyfriend loves me anymore! We have been together 2 and a half years and moved in together with each other last weekend. I expected it to be really romantic - cuddling up on the couch ...
A. 21 May 2009: Why are you asking us?
The fact you aren't able to ask him shows to me that you have communication issues and that is probably the problem. He feels he can't talk to you about it either.
Just ask him what is going on and if he is ok.
Good L... (read in full...)
What would be the reason(s) for husband not wanting sex with wife?
Q. What is usually the reson for a man, for not wanting sex at all with their wife? All opinions are great help for me right now. Thanks...
A. 21 May 2009: Hi again. Did you not ask this yesterday?
Stress is the biggest reason. Followed by depression.
Ask him and find out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I told her secrets to another and now she doesn't trust me!
Q. about 4-5 months ago I told one of my girlfriends secrets to a friend of mine. She found out about it by reading one of my IM chats with that friend, she was furious about it. But now 4 months later she is still angry about it, she doesnt trust...
A. 21 May 2009: She can't continue to go out with you and stay mad.
Either she forgives and moves on and you rebuild the trust slowly.... Or she stays angry and splits up with you.
I know it's hard but you can't go on like this.
Tell her she has to m... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that if I wait to long then we will never be together!
Q. My heart says that I fancy this guy, yet my head says that nothing will happen between us. I'm 16 and there is a three yr gap between us. He makes me laugh and I enjoy being around him, and he does tease me - sometimes I retort back, sometimes ...
A. 21 May 2009: There is no way of telling. It could be that he just sees you as a little sister and nothing more.
All you can do is put it in the hands of fate. Enjoy your crush, live your life and if it is going to happen then it will. If it's not then it won't... (read in full...)
Need advice - Is my husband gay? Desperate for answers.
Q. I am posting this personal information in hopes of getting different perspectives on my current situation. I am a 39 year old married woman. I have been married to my husband for almost a year, with him for 3 years. I found out 6 months into...
A. 21 May 2009: Ok, you have several separate issues here all rolled into one problem.
1. The cross dressing / sexuality
2. The lack of sex life with you
3. The fact he looks at porn
We shall go in reverse order....
3. He looks at porn: We'll igno... (read in full...)
How soon into a relationship is it acceptable to stay the night?
Q. Hi all I am in a bit of a quandry. I am 25 years old, and have recently got back into dating after a long spell of being in a LTR and then single getting over it. I have met a lovely man, someone who shares many many of my ideas, loves, ha...
A. 21 May 2009: I think you can stay as soon as you want but stay on the sofa.
After a few more dates and a bit more sexual stuff (remember you don't have to do full sex all in one go, you can always do some foreplay and then curl up together and go to sleep) y... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I've had enough?
Q. I am really confused as to what I should do? Me and my partner met 3 years ago and were dating for about 1 and a half years then became exclusive. We have been living together for just over a year. It has been difficult at times as he has been away ...
A. 21 May 2009: You have to tell him that if he carries on like this then you are taking the baby and going.
But the thing is that you have to mean it.
He's cheated on you and treated you badly and you'd just sat there and taken it. Why should he believe that ... (read in full...)
A year and 1/2 and still no sex?
Q. Sooo me and my gf have been dating for a year and a half so a decent amount of time. We havent had sex nor have i tried. Our year n a half was a week ago n we were making out. Both our top layers came off n the moment just seemed right, so i tried ...
A. 20 May 2009: Well you don't go from kissing to full sex.
You need to do fingering and hand jobs for a while, then progress to oral and THEN think about sex.
Start with small stuff.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He was naked, I had on jeans..wondering if I'm pregnant
Q. Hello, I'm a virgin and I haven't had intercourse. However, my boyfriend and I were doing sexual stuff like oral sex and such. The one thing that has me scared is that I was really wet, but I had my jeans on. They're not heavy denim jeans more like ...
A. 20 May 2009: You are fine.
Even if there was precum, there is no way that it would have got through your jeans and to your vagina.
You are probably just stressed and this is what is causing the symptoms.
If you are worried then make sure that the condo... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me?
Q. I am confused about why I cannot get an answer from the girl I like about whether or nor she would go out on a "proper date" with me. We have met many times, she has been to my place and vice versa (she cooked for me) and she has said things that...
A. 20 May 2009: Well if you say "I would like to take you out on a date. Would you like that? Or do you want to just stay as friends?"
If she answers anything other then yes then just say "I'll take that as a no and leave you alone for a while till I am ready to... (read in full...)
Is there a word for the male version of pretty?
Q. i have been dating this guy and hes so nice and when we're together he calls me pretty. the thing is i dont know how reciprocate to that. he is a very good looking guy and i want to say he is but i dont know how to say that. when he says you're ...
A. 20 May 2009: There is gorgeous / cute / hot / sexy and lots of others.
The best way is just to smile, blush, look down and back up at him and give him the full eyes and a kiss.
I tend to mess it up though, panic, punch them in the arm and tell them to shu... (read in full...)
How do we get our daughter to realise her boyfriend's a loser?
Q. Ok... here's my problem... my daughter is 19, and has been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years. We've always had our reservations about him, but to keep her happy, we've welcomed into our house, treating him like one of the family. He's repeatedly hurt ...
A. 20 May 2009: If you bad mouth him and say he's crap then she is going to defend him.
What you have to do is realise how it's stupid of her to stay with a guy like that and how it will all get so much better if she got rid of him.
When she tells you about ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to a professor about a failed exam?
Q. I'm at the end of my program. I fulfilled all my obligations and as luck would have it, I failed one exam in my last semester. I'm mortified. This is horrible! I'm meeting my prof and he's a very blunt, hard nosed man. I've never been in this ...
A. 20 May 2009: You don't give an age but I am guessing you are talking about the end of school / college / uni here.
Remember that you are not a child any more. You are here to get your qualification. He is there to help you achieve that.
So just act profess... (read in full...)
Do girls hate guys who are vain?
Q. do girls hate guys that are vain? i dont walk around thinking im gods gift to every girl but i work out alot, always try and look my best, and look in the mirror loads. do girls find this a turn off?...
A. 20 May 2009: Some girls do and some girls don't.
as long as you spend more time on her than on yourself you should be fine.
I used to live opposite a couple... always super trendy clothes, she was blonde extensions, spray tan. He was toned and skinny with ... (read in full...)
After pressuring her to tell me what was wrong she broke up with me because I suffocate her!
Q. Here goes, i'm currently almost week five into a "break" with my gf. Shes currently going through a stressful time as her parents are on the verge of seperating. Anyway she was acting a little bit off for a while and anytime i asked what was wrong ...
A. 20 May 2009: You can give her space and still be in a relationship with her though.
It's not like you have to see her all the time and be in touch ever second OR not speak at all. Surely you can find somewhere between the 2 options?
Keep telling her you ... (read in full...)
I really want her back. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I broke up with my ex gf a month ago. We had a 2 years relationship. We were both serious even though we knew that we had to break up someday because I wanted to have a "normal" family. She's a bi but I'm straight. I just fell for her, but not...
A. 19 May 2009: It's not fair of you want to want her back when you plan to break her heart at some point and swan off to marry some boy.
You won't even say you are anything but straight!
How is she supposed to feel when you have these as the basis for your r... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want to really hurt your partner?
Q. is it normal to wana really hurt your partner? i have no idea what to do i keep thinking of the relief i would feel just to slap him across the face or sex every man on the plannet just to hurt him and something is screaming out at me leave him ...
A. 19 May 2009: No it's not normal.
It shows that you have stuck around far too long.
You sound a little inexperienced so I will give you the number 1 rule to live by.
When you stop being happy with a guy, you leave him. You don't let him drag you through... (read in full...)
Recently married and wondering if it was a big mistake
Q. Hello all, please please can anyone advise me on this. My husband and i have been together for about 5 and half years. we got married about 6 months ago. And to be honest i just think i have made a huge mistake. The months leading up to the...
A. 19 May 2009: It only stops when you are married if you don't marry a jerk.
It's not like you are in your 50's and just found this out.
You can do it, you just have to stop messing about and make a big to do list of HOW to do it.
Don't waste your time... (read in full...)
After pressuring her to tell me what was wrong she broke up with me because I suffocate her!
Q. Here goes, i'm currently almost week five into a "break" with my gf. Shes currently going through a stressful time as her parents are on the verge of seperating. Anyway she was acting a little bit off for a while and anytime i asked what was wrong ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well I think when she asked for space, rather than storming off and cutting contact you could have been a little more supportive.
This was CLEARLY about her parent's splitting up and you did not help the situation at all.
Be there for her. L... (read in full...)
Girlfriends depression is bringing me down!
Q. Hey I have a girlfriend who is extremely depressed.... Basically since college got over she did not get any job and has been jus sitting at home .. Her parents aint supportive either and they jus keep on taunting her.. I have been with her for 2 y...
A. 19 May 2009: This is a really tough one.
I think you have to talk to her and tell her that you love her and will stay with her but you are having trouble coping with it.
She is not well at the moment and she needs to understand this too.
Your best bet i... (read in full...)
Why does he call me? He said he doesn't love me
Q. Me and my bf broke up 3 months ago we haven't talked since then but two weeks ago he start calling me and i asked him if he still loves me he said no, an i hung up because i couldn't listen any more, 20 minutes later he called me again, i answer and ...
A. 19 May 2009: Sounds like he wants to be friends.
He's teasing you because that is what boys do to their friends.
If you are not over him then tell him you are not ready to be friends and stop taking his calls.
Cut contact and try hard to get over him. Yo... (read in full...)
Wife goes back on promises to help fulfill sexual fantasies
Q. My wife of almost 12 years has made thousands of empty promises over the time we have been together I have wanted to let me give her a facial but it is nothing more than empty promises. We have discussed many fantasies of mine many of which are ...
A. 19 May 2009: Then tell her you are not having it any more and you are going to leave if something doesn't change.
Stop acting like a maid and stop cooking and cleaning and ask her to do some stuff.
You can't just say "Oh it's crap" unless you are willing ... (read in full...)
Recently married and wondering if it was a big mistake
Q. Hello all, please please can anyone advise me on this. My husband and i have been together for about 5 and half years. we got married about 6 months ago. And to be honest i just think i have made a huge mistake. The months leading up to the...
A. 19 May 2009: If you want kids then you have to be pretty decisive.
If we set a deadline of 35 to get pregnant by (for fertility reasons) then you have 7 years to either:
a) stay with him, stay miserable in what you know is an abusive relationship, ge... (read in full...)
I feel like I've died inside now I've found out my friend has a boyfriend
Q. My friend (female) is now going out with a guy. Why do I feel like i've died inside ?...
A. 19 May 2009: Well you know you are going to spend a lot less time with her and you know your relationship is going to have to be far more respectable and respectful to him.
EG. I would happily cuddle up and share a bed with my male friends when I was single. ... (read in full...)
Any advice on moving in with my boyfriend?
Q. So I'm moving in with my boyfriend of over a year. I'm moving away from home for college..the one he's going to. So we've decided that we're going to be moving in together. He's got a 2 bedroom apartment so it's not like if we have an argument I ...
A. 19 May 2009: I did this when I went to uni.
The relationship went ok, although we lost some of the romance due to the fact he'd see me when I was ill and wearing baggy jumpers all the time and no make up.
It also meant that I spent all my time with him. S... (read in full...)
Wife goes back on promises to help fulfill sexual fantasies
Q. My wife of almost 12 years has made thousands of empty promises over the time we have been together I have wanted to let me give her a facial but it is nothing more than empty promises. We have discussed many fantasies of mine many of which are ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well if there is one thing we have learned from all the unhappy relationships on here it is this:
FIRST you try being nicer, talking to them, de-stressing them, helping them out.
IF they STILL treat you badly after that then you stop putting... (read in full...)
I don't want to continue living with my mother-in-law
Q. Hi every body, I am tired of living with my mother in law at the same house ,and i don't know how to convince my husband to move and live alone. We just got married a few months ago and i moved from another country to usa,befor i come here he ask...
A. 19 May 2009: I think you have to tell him.
"I am not happy living here. I want to leave."
If he won't then tell him you will and go and rent a place of your own. I assume you work? If not then get a job.
Find a place of your own and I bet he'll suddenly... (read in full...)
My girlfriend always has to know WHY!!!!
Q. My girlfriend always has to know why. It seems like I can't ask her to do anything without her knowing why I want her to do it. For instance, we'll be walking along and I'll say stop (because I want the people behind us to pass us) and she'll k...
A. 19 May 2009: I agree with baby duck.
If you say "hang on a sec" and pull her to one side and say "I don't like having people behind me" then she's not going to ask why.
If you just say "STOP!" then she is going to ask why.
I had a boyfriend who used to ... (read in full...)
Married woman who loves two men. Should I leave my husband?
Q. I have been married to my husband for three years now during the course of our relationship he has cheated on me several times, some I can prove and some I just have a strong feeling about. Example after being married for three months I found out ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well if your husband has cheated then leave him. But do it for you, don't do it so you can go off with some other guy.
Leave and set yourself up somewhere as a single girl. Move to a place where you can follow your career better.
Then once you... (read in full...)
Wife goes back on promises to help fulfill sexual fantasies
Q. My wife of almost 12 years has made thousands of empty promises over the time we have been together I have wanted to let me give her a facial but it is nothing more than empty promises. We have discussed many fantasies of mine many of which are ...
A. 19 May 2009: By facial... do you mean ejaculating onto her face?
If so then no, no young guy takes that for granted and you have been watching too much porn. Some women are just never going to do that because it's horrible.
But as for heels and the other th... (read in full...)
I want to try a threesome with another girl. How to get my husband onside?
Q. Ok, so this will probably answer itself, but I need advice. I love my husband with all my heart-never loved another man like him in my life. But I've been wondering what being with a woman would be like. I'm not the most "in shape" woman in the ...
A. 19 May 2009: Sounds like he's as shy as you about this stuff.
So why not wait till you are having sex or just after and talk about how you want to make him really turned on, and say something along the lines of "imagine me with another woman and we'd be doing... (read in full...)
My fiancee broke it off and I want her back. Maybe send a birthday card?
Q. Hello, My fiancee broke up with me a few weeks ago for reasons i have no clue. Her birthday is next week and i was wondering if i should send her a card? I still love her and care about her and i really do want her back, everyone is telling me...
A. 19 May 2009: I wouldn't wait till then.
Call her and say you don't want to fight you just want to know what went wrong.
She can't just disappear for no reason.
If she won't talk to you then do you know any of her friends that you can ask why?
You need... (read in full...)
Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: If she believes in no sex before marriage then fair enough.
You can either wait around or not. Your choice.
If she means no sex ever then she does not want you to be her boyfriend, she just wants to be friends.
Ask her if she means there w... (read in full...)
What is the best chat up line?
Q. I need some advice please.. I came out of a long term relationship last august and its all most been a year and i think i am now ready to go and meet some one new so me and some friends are going out on the weekend (first time i have been out pr...
A. 18 May 2009: "Are you having a good night?" is a good one as it's not creepy and pervy.
Then you can ask her name, give her yours, ask if she's here with her boyfriend, if she says she's single then act suprised as a girl as gorgeous as her can't possibly... (read in full...)
Sports Car or SUV?
Q. I'm a few days late on my period. I've been putting off taking a pregnancy test. I keep hoping it's just stress related. My boyfriend is thinking of buying a 'classic' car. He's very excited..having a mechanic check-out the car. And us test-driv...
A. 18 May 2009: Well now is better than in a couple of months when he notices you can't get in the car because of a large bump.
Find out asap and then have a serious chat about the future with him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
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