Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 15 May 2009: Excellent. You should go to the family planning clinic though and get on the injection or pill or something and they will also give you condoms which you should put on him as soon as he goes anywhere near you when you are naked.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 15 May 2009: You need to decide that you don't want to be with him, that it was never going to happen and you are ready to move on.
THEN you can start getting over him.
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worth more than him an... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 28 April 2009: Just put the name of your town in there and "family planning" it should be fairly easy to find.
They normally have drop in sessions on a Saturday morning at our one so you just turn up and talk to the nurse.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Broken love
Q. Me and my girlfriend were happy, she suffers with deep depression and i help her through a day at a time, some days worse than others but rare. This Friday we were happy and eating at a restaurant and had a wonderful time. We had a right laugh, ...
A. 27 April 2009: Put them on your local gumtree and ebay and use the cash to cheer yourself up. x... (read in full...)
Shunned by flat mates! How to make things better?
Q. Hi, I've been at university since September, where I moved into a student hall. I live with 5 other people, and are usually in the company of our neighbors. Over the course of the past several months, I feel like the connection I had with everyon...
A. 27 April 2009: There must be one person who you feel you can approach.
Next time you come out of your room and someone is alone then say hi. If they are sat down then ask them if you can join them.
Then you just have to ask if you've done something to ann... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 27 April 2009: Hit google and find the nearest family planning clinic in your area.
You say "the other night" if it was within 72 hours you can get the morning after pill.
If it was within 7 days ago then you can go and get the coil fitted and that will st... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to get pregnant at 15?
Q. I am 15 and my boyfriend wants me 2 get pregnet and I'm not ready what do i do???...
A. 27 April 2009: It's not hard.
You just have to say this:
"ARE YOU JOKING????? I'm FIFTEEN I'm not legally allowed to have sex till next year. Why would I want a baby? We aren't married, you can't support it, we have no where to live. Why don't you want m... (read in full...)
A YEAR and I'm still not over him. Please help me on new ways to try?
Q. Hi, i need help. I am so love sick. I pine for the man that i love. We were together for 6 years. My heart was his the moment i 1st saw him. For me i could never love another the way that i love him. It consumes me. He does love me but not in the ...
A. 27 April 2009: From the sounds of it you have gone through the motions of trying to get over him but you have missed out one vital thing:
You have to WANT to get over him.
You still call him the "Man I love." No.
He is the "Idiot who missed his chance wi... (read in full...)
Please help me save my marriage and show my wife I love her!
Q. I need some advice...I have been married for 9 years and have 2 kids. I love my family, but recently my wife and I have not been communicating well and I admit that I have not done what it takes on an emotional and loving (I am not talking about ...
A. 27 April 2009: Yes it will be obvious if you start buying her flowers... but if she is threatening to leave you then you need to be as obvious as you possibly can.
Buy her flowers TODAY.
We women don't need you to take us to Paris in a hot air balloon.
... (read in full...)
Is 14 really the average age people lose their virginity ?
Q. I went to see this topic and i saw this answer on its site http://www.dearcupid.org/question/15-year-old-virgin.html Is 14 really the average age people lose their virginity ? Is what he said true ? ...
A. 27 April 2009: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1168357.stm
That is from 2001 but I think it's still pretty accurate.
So although some people have sex at 15 and younger, the same number of people have it at 18 and older. That gives you an average age of 1... (read in full...)
She's really independent -- should I worry that she doesn't want to hang with me everyday?
Q. When dating a girl who is really independant and likes doing her own thing how do you go about dating her? She likes to hang with her friends and do things on her own. She is a freshman in college I'm a junior in college. Is this just what young ...
A. 27 April 2009: Haha, will she grow out of it?
Yes, she'll hit 23 and suddenly hate having a social life and have the desperate need to stay in the house and iron your socks.
Will you grow out of being clingy?
Stop worrying, just ask her when she's free ... (read in full...)
Fear of the rain. Anyone heard of this?
Q. I was wondering if anyone has ever heard of a fear of the rain before? It started a year ago, when I was walking to work. I had just walked down the road from my home when it poured down with rain. I was soaked in 5 seconds flat. The sky was blac...
A. 27 April 2009: It's called Ombrophobia.
Put that into google and do some research.
The best way to get over it though is just to pull your socks up and go outside on a rainy day and tell yourself not to be stupid.
Face your fear.
Em x... (read in full...)
Suggestions for a school project?
Q. I'm 15 and part of my school work i was given a £10 note and am told to build a business by this, well me and my mate have paired up so we have £20's, i need a small but very good idea which will sell. Any suggestions will be good thanks. ...
A. 27 April 2009: Have a look round school. What is there and does well, what is NOT there and people say "oh I wish we had XXX here."
Do the same in your local community.
Can you buy fresh fruit in your school or is it all crisps?
Do a survey and find out ... (read in full...)
Was supposed to be moving right after surgery, but it's been four days ...
Q. i know i should be checking with my doctor but i just wanted to see if i could get any advice here first, make sure i'm not panicking too much, and you guys and gals seem to be fabulous at common sense and life experience...i had an operation on my ...
A. 27 April 2009: Sorry hun but I think this is something that would need to be prodded and Xrayed before you could get an answer.
Call your the hospital switchboard, explain the problem and they should be able to put you through to a doctor or tell you to come is ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, keeping the baby, and want to stay in school
Q. I'm 17 and pregnant (due to failure of the pill) and i've decided to keep the baby. However, I really REALLY want to continue with my education, i'm predicted 3 A's and a B this year at AS level and so I really want to do my A2's. Apparently at my ...
A. 27 April 2009: You can do anything you want with a baby... it's just going to be twice the work on half the sleep.
Talk to your school. I am sure they don't want a promising student like you to fall by the wayside and end up in a council flat on the dole for... (read in full...)
DID I MARRY A SERIAL CHEATER ?
Q. Dear Aunts My husband who is 49 had been having an affair with a younger women(28 years old)he said he was going though a mid life crises i belived him and gave him another chance,he is no longer seeing this women but i have found out that this was...
A. 27 April 2009: You have to go with your gut.
It's fine saying he'll never do it again, but the damage is already done.
I personally don't think I would be able to get over the hurt of what he had done, so it would be pointless staying with him.
If you t... (read in full...)
How do you get a girl to open up and get closer to you?
Q. How do you get a girl to open up and get closer to you? I have been seeing this girl for a couple of months. I really like her and when i ask her in private she says the same but im getting frustrated because she never seems to show that to me...
A. 27 April 2009: I'm really sorry hun but it doesn't sound like she wants a boyfriend.
You say she is younger so it could be that she is just a bit immature for her age and she wanted you to be her friend but she is too awkward and scared to handle a relation... (read in full...)
Broken love
Q. Me and my girlfriend were happy, she suffers with deep depression and i help her through a day at a time, some days worse than others but rare. This Friday we were happy and eating at a restaurant and had a wonderful time. We had a right laugh, ...
A. 27 April 2009: It could be that she is trying to protect you.
She is depressed and therefore she can only think about herself and how bad she is.
She is physically unable to understand that it's her that you want right now as her brain cannot accept that ... (read in full...)
Broken love
Q. Me and my girlfriend were happy, she suffers with deep depression and i help her through a day at a time, some days worse than others but rare. This Friday we were happy and eating at a restaurant and had a wonderful time. We had a right laugh, ...
A. 27 April 2009: Sorry this has happened to you hun.
I think the best advice I can give is to just move on.
Depression is a very selfish illness. I mean she has been content to let you care for her rather than actually getting help.
A boyfriend should no... (read in full...)
Cheating on fiance, feeling I don't want to get married anymore
Q. I've been dating my now fiance for three and a half years, we have been engaged for almost 9 months, and have a wedding date set for August 1, 2009. We currently live about 1 hour apart. I am a full time student and he works. I will be graduating ...
A. 27 April 2009: You have to tell your fiance what happened and cancel the wedding. You can't just let him wander blindly into a marriage with a girl who doesn't love him enough to stay loyal, and isn't sure she loves him at all.
If you take a bit of a break fr... (read in full...)
Still bleeding after smear test!
Q. hiii im 20 today i had my smear test. i was really worried about it. i'm still bleeding down there is that normal? i am starting to worry about it. someone please help and give me advice i am really worried. Thanks :)...
A. 26 April 2009: Hey hun,
If you have an eating disorder that can really mess with your periods etc.
I am pretty sure this will be a period and nothing to worry about but I think you need to see a doctor about this problem. If you are skipping periods then you... (read in full...)
How do I handle this guy?
Q. i met a guy... we lived in same apartment... first... he acted very very nice to me...i have never been treated that nice before... we became friends... he talked to me everyday... it was fun. but things went out of control... he started making me ...
A. 26 April 2009: You continue to ignore him.
He's getting desperate to keep you around because a girl who will let herself be used as a doormat and cheap sextoy is hard to find.
Keep ignoring him. You KNOW he's going to use you again if you let him.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with the 360!!
Q. Help! My fiance of 6 months is obsessed with the 360 that's all he ever seems intrested in and its starting to make me question the relationship what should I do?...
A. 26 April 2009: Yey! x... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 26 April 2009: Well this is like pulling a wax strip off.
Only you can do it, and you just have to get on with it.
Go and put all his stuff in a bin bag, and put it in a cupboard.
Then you just have to make a call or whatever and tell him.
Call your g... (read in full...)
My girlfriend isn't going to me for her problems
Q. Hey all, i've been with my girlfriend for almost 5 months now and everything has been pretty much smooth sailing. a little rough patch here or there but everything else has been great! the only problem i have though is that whenever somethin...
A. 25 April 2009: Maybe she doesn't want to have a boyfriend who is a thug who goes round being violent.
She's going out with you probably because you are sweet and lovely.
She has these guys because they look after her but she is just not interested in th... (read in full...)
He jumps around like a flea
Q. Hellppp me please!! Well i really dont no what to do about my boyfriend. All my mates think i should dump him. well i better tell you whats happend. He broke up with his ex girl friend because she did'nt treat him well and he said he liked me, so ...
A. 25 April 2009: He does sound like he's messing you around.
With all this crap going round then I really don't think you should trust him. You know this is never going to get better. It's going to carry on with more and more rumours.
I would dump him if I we... (read in full...)
What should I do next to my girlfriend?
Q. hey I am 13. Well, u see i have this girlfriend and i've kissed her, held her hand, ect. I was wondering what i should do next without seeming like a pervert. I really love her and don't want to lose her. She has touched a place in my heart I di...
A. 25 April 2009: Kissing is plenty for now.
You can really kiss and get really hot and steamy just doing that.
I sometimes spend an hour on the sofa just kissing my husband because it's great.
If you want to go further then put your hands on her and feel he... (read in full...)
We have a baby; he keeps doing drugs. Help!
Q. my man keeps doing drugs he says he will stop. Than 3 months later he dose it again we have a baby together i really want to make this work. What can i do to try and help him i love him. And i hate him. He breaks my heart. I dont know. Should ...
A. 25 April 2009: If he says he'll change and then he doesn't and then you forgive him... then why the hell would he think "Oh gosh, I REALLY need to change!"???
You keep taking him back so he knows it's not that big a deal.
If you don't want to live with a drug... (read in full...)
Should I stay quiet as he does his own thing?
Q. i dont understand, should i shut my mouthand stop talking about him going out and ido think he is talking to other girls. last month i been talking about it and hes tired of hearing it. are there guys that do there own thing and say anything to ...
A. 25 April 2009: So he leaves the house and has conversations with other women and you want to be informed of all of this....
But he says he shouldn't have to keep a diary....
Is that right?
You don't give any details of what kind of "talking" he's doing and... (read in full...)
Is there a correct way to flirt with guys?
Q. im keeping this short and simple is there a correct way to flirt with guys?...
A. 25 April 2009: Wow! I was going to say that there is no way to get the whole flirting thing across here as you can write a book on it....
But Molly has written it up great!
The only think I will add is to sit and watch other people. I was the ugly duckling in... (read in full...)
Still bleeding after smear test!
Q. hiii im 20 today i had my smear test. i was really worried about it. i'm still bleeding down there is that normal? i am starting to worry about it. someone please help and give me advice i am really worried. Thanks :)...
A. 25 April 2009: No problem, hope you are all ok with it.
Em x... (read in full...)
Can Ibuprofen stop your period for a few hours?
Q. I have a question.. Im on my period.. and my parents are traveling for the weekend.. so I guess you all by now have guessed where this is going for.. I have heard that Ibuprofen can stop your period for a few hours. is this true? if so how doe...
A. 25 April 2009: If you take the combined pill then you can manipulate your periods but then you aren't taking it right... and nearly all the pregnancies that happen while on the pill are because you aren't taking it right.
If you go on the progesterone only pil... (read in full...)
A book about lesbians, but I am clueless
Q. I'm a writer and I want to write a book about lesbians, but I'm not one, so I need a little help. What are they like? What do they do? Are they anything like we see in movies? Help, please. ...
A. 24 April 2009: This is like asking "what is France like?"
It's too big an issue to describe over the internet.
Go and find and LGBT group, talk to people, spend time with some actual real lesbians. Read some lesbian fiction, get involved with some forums and ... (read in full...)
Still bleeding after smear test!
Q. hiii im 20 today i had my smear test. i was really worried about it. i'm still bleeding down there is that normal? i am starting to worry about it. someone please help and give me advice i am really worried. Thanks :)...
A. 24 April 2009: It's probably nothing to worry about.
But if you are bleeding in the morning then call up the doctors where you had it done and talk to them and see if they want you to come back in.
Smears are not nice but pretty important to get done. She ma... (read in full...)
Most women want what they can't have, is that true?
Q. Hi I'm a 28 Y.O man and I've noticed ( and a lot of men notice it too) when I'm in a relationship, some women wanna come and talk to you, even flirt, I see their eyes and they're stripping me naked. When I'm single, I have a hard time for them to...
A. 24 April 2009: No you are reading it wrong.
When you are single girls will not give off signals and be too afraid to relax and have fun because they think you'll think they are interested.
When you have a girlfriend, the girls will see you as "safe" so they'l... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or what? I'm 20 and she's 14 but it's online only.
Q. Ok, long story short. I'm 20 and met a girl online 3 months ago. She told me she was 16 and we got along great! We laughed with each other, flirted, you know, things like that. Eventually I developed feelings for her. I couldn't help it because she ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well flirting is very fun, so if this is the first time for you then it's no wonder you are enjoying it.
But remember that you are wasting time here and it's not helping you.
Leave this girl alone and go out and talk to some actual women, no... (read in full...)
Can Ibuprofen stop your period for a few hours?
Q. I have a question.. Im on my period.. and my parents are traveling for the weekend.. so I guess you all by now have guessed where this is going for.. I have heard that Ibuprofen can stop your period for a few hours. is this true? if so how doe...
A. 24 April 2009: I have never heard that before.
However I do get headaches and take a lot of painkillers and I've never found that it's done that.
Please don't over dose. Read the label.
You could just have sex in the shower instead.
USE CONDOMS!... (read in full...)
I'm worried about what others think and I don't have strong feelings for him
Q. Hi Around 2 months ago i got in touch with an old friend from university. When we were younger i knew that he had a massive crush on me, but i never felt the same way about him so we stayed friends. At first we would just text message each oth...
A. 24 April 2009: It's really nice to have a male friend. Especially when they make you feel good about yourself because you know they like you and want you.
Just having him around is like one big permanent compliment, and I KNOW how good that feels, so don't te... (read in full...)
She said she feels trapped..and now I'm worried about her making poor decisions!
Q. Alright so I've been with my girlfriend for a year now. We live together and love each other. I have a 11 month old son and she doesn't have any kids. The problem is that I get him twice a week. Once during the week and once during the weekend. The ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well if you are being controlling then she should have stood up to you and told you to back of and grow up or lose her.
She shouldn't go off and rebel against you like a naughty teenager.
She obviously feels very trapped and this is her way ... (read in full...)
He said he was "flat out"..why are guys so confusing?
Q. I liked this guy not long ago and i finally told him, i couldnt believe how rude he was with the response " im flat out" its not like i said i wanna be with you. I just said you might know this already or you might not but im gonna tell u I like ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well if someone says they like you then it would be rather odd to just say "ok, thanks for letting me know!" He's going to have thought you wanted a relationship.
And "flat out" means very busy, rushed off your feet. To go flat out is like tra... (read in full...)
He's just talking the "tall talk" isn't he?
Q. I do not get this situation someone give me some advice its driving me mad! I was with my boyfriend two years on/off we broke up mainly cos he cant give me the commitment dont live in the same town he put his mates first is selfish and he dont ...
A. 24 April 2009: Yep, he's found you are the best door mat around.
While all these other women are spotting him for what he is and telling him to get lost, you just lie down and believe everything he says.
As soon as you tell this guy to get out of your life... (read in full...)
He says he loves only himself??
Q. I have this friend we are very close if there is a problem he would call me. i started haveing feelings for him but i did not tell him for a while after a period of time i could not take it any more so i told him, he then informed me that he has ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well the best way to handle a guy who can't make a decision is to simply tell him it's not good enough for you.
Tell him you want a boyfriend who loves you and you are going to get hurt if you stay with him.
Then cut contact with him.
If ... (read in full...)
We watched sister & boyfriend having sex!
Q. last week my girlfriend and i returned home after a night of heavy drinking to walk in on my sister and her husband having sex in the living room ( i live with my sister). because of the awkwardness my girlfriend made a little joke about joini...
A. 24 April 2009: Well it's up to you!
As long as you aren't planning on having sex with your sister then do what you want.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Relationship truth opens up world of upset.
Q. This problem is so hard for me right now, but it doesn't just effect myself. I have been with my partner for nearly 5 years, engadged for 1.25 years and love her so very much. It is a long distance relationship that goes from UK to the US so we dont ...
A. 24 April 2009: This is a tough one. She has clearly been cheating on you. She then BLAMES you for not reacting with sweetness and light when you found out.
I know this news that she cannot have kids is tough, but I think you have to treat this as two separate... (read in full...)
Alone too long...
Q. I am a middle aged man who has let his sexual life become none existent. It has been ten years since I even considered getting close to someone. How long is too long without any personal physical contact or a relationship?...
A. 24 April 2009: Some people would say that a week is too long. Some people are content never to have someone.
If you want a lady in your life then go and find one.
If you don't then be happy and have great friends.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I handle this guy?
Q. i met a guy... we lived in same apartment... first... he acted very very nice to me...i have never been treated that nice before... we became friends... he talked to me everyday... it was fun. but things went out of control... he started making me ...
A. 24 April 2009: Honeygirl is right.
He uses you when he's in the mood and then dumps you.
He doesn't like you, he just knows that you'll give him what he wants.
Get him out of your life. You deserve better!
No woman should allow herself to be used ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or what? I'm 20 and she's 14 but it's online only.
Q. Ok, long story short. I'm 20 and met a girl online 3 months ago. She told me she was 16 and we got along great! We laughed with each other, flirted, you know, things like that. Eventually I developed feelings for her. I couldn't help it because she ...
A. 24 April 2009: The chatting and being friends is not really wrong... the flirting and thinking about her all the time is.
What I suggest you do it find a picture of a really really horrible young girl. I don't know what you find attractive in a woman but find... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 23 April 2009: The first or second time is enough. If you let it go on for years then you end up in love with them and tortured about the fact that he will NEVER change because he knows he can do what he likes, then say "he wants to be with me and me only" and ... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with the 360!!
Q. Help! My fiance of 6 months is obsessed with the 360 that's all he ever seems intrested in and its starting to make me question the relationship what should I do?...
A. 2 November 2008: Xbox 360?
I wasn't sure if you meant some bizzare sexual thing.
Well the easiest thing to do is to not go round his house any more. Make him come out and away from it.
Meet in town, meet in the cinema, meet at your house.
If he has no a... (read in full...)
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