Before we marry he wants me to sign a prenuptial contract, my heart says yes but my pride says no!
Q. Im in my early twenties, my partner is in his thirties. basically we are getting married next year but before we do he wants me to sign a pre nup, i am quite offended by this as now i believe he doesnt trust me. his not a millionaire but has his own ...
A. 11 September 2008: Sign it - but only after you make sure that YOUR interests are covered... He has to know that you have stuff you want to protect too.
Pre-nups are not that common in the UK, and personally I would be quite insulted. I am not sure what I would do... (read in full...)
I fancy the boy who gets on my bus to school, how can I start a friendship so I can build on it?
Q. hello. ok im going to give you all the details because i really do need some advice. there is this lad who gets on my bus to school and i really like him. even though he is in the year below me. i reckon he knows my face type of thing. but i don...
A. 11 September 2008: I haven't heard the word Canny since I moved down south.
If he sits on his own then just take a breath, and go and ask if you can sit with him.
After that you can introduce yourself and start chatting. It'll be easy after you start.
Good L... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom that her boyfriend touches me? I know it's wrong...
Q. hello, right here is my problem recently my mum has started seeing this bloke. he is so lovely when he is around her, but what she doesnt no is when he stops over he comes into my room at night after she has gone to bed and does things that arnt...
A. 11 September 2008: If you do not have a lock on your door buy a door wedge and jam it under at night so he cannot get in.
You really have to trust that your mum will believe you when you tell her that he is doing this.
You are her child and she is always going ... (read in full...)
Is calling him 'too much' when he says he wants space because of my issues?
Q. Last week me and my boyfriend got into this huge,huge argument and he moved back home wednesday of last week in the beginning i kept bugging him because iwas really depressed then i went to a friends house to talk about the situation that weekend i ...
A. 11 September 2008: You you haven't spoken in what? 3 days?
I really think 3 days is not a long time.
Let him call you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Underwire bras have left brown marks under my breasts, any suggestions on how I can remove the marks?
Q. I am very slim and have very big breasts. I have always ensured I wore correct bras, even when sleeping at times to help with good posture and prevent sagging etc. My boobs are fine because of it and have no sagging, back problems etc. However, ...
A. 11 September 2008: Did you think I was saying you need to wash when I said to try a good scrub?
I wasn't, I just meant that a really good exfoliate might bring blood to the surface, get rid of any dead skin cells that are getting discoloured, and open up your por... (read in full...)
I can only get about a third of the way in. We've tried everything. Any advice?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years now, we are both virgins and have tried to have sex many times, but whenever we do try i can only get my penis in about a third of the way before it starts to hurt her, she says its like a sharp pain in ...
A. 11 September 2008: Well it it could be her hymen, as losing your virginity can be painful when it breaks.
I think since you have tried so many times and it hasn't helped then it might be good to get her to see a gynocologist just to check everything is ok.
G... (read in full...)
Did he cheat on me or am I going crazy?
Q. I’ve was dating my boyfriend for 4 months. He told me he loved me and I was the best thing that has ever happened to him. He took me away up to the lake when I was able to go and asked about what I wanted to do in my future, goals, dreams, and he ...
A. 11 September 2008: It might not have been a physical thing but he definately was too close to this girl.
It is over now and you are well shot of him. I think the fact hw was so keen to just end it rather than fight for you showed that his heart was else where ev... (read in full...)
How can I tell him about how I feel when I know he will either laugh or shout at me?
Q. My boyfriend asked me for a threesome about 2 months ago, he said I could choose the girl etc. I had always wanted a 3sum but had never said, so I agreed. We went on a website to look but he immediately started looking at all the skinny girls and ...
A. 11 September 2008: If he's demanding that you perform a sexual act, and degrading you then he doesn't see you as a girlfriend, just a route to a possible threesome.
Yes you might want one one day but why give it to this idiot.
Tell him you are sick of him nagg... (read in full...)
Am I the ugliest fattest stupid cow in the world for trying to do it with him but for him only doing it when hes drunk? What would you do?
Q. Right .. Well I don't really know where to start this, basically my boyfriend of 2 and a bit years and I have been going through, well a very argumentative stage. All we ever seem to do is argue and to be honest I really hate it. When we are like ...
A. 11 September 2008: This relationship has eneded, you need to get out of it. He has no respect for you.
You say you've never felt this way before - well you are only young. Everything before this has been a teenaged crush, but that doesn't mean this is the only thi... (read in full...)
My husband prefers his video games to me, although he said this would change. He lies to me and about, we rarely have intimacy. Do I leave?
Q. My 2 year wedding anniversary is in a few days. Problem is that I don't know if I even love my husband. We weren't together very long before getting married. I was pregnant so we made the wedding be sooner than planned. So now we have 2 kids...
A. 11 September 2008: Tell him that it's the games or you. That you want a husband not another child.
Give a set time when he can play and when he has to stop and play with you.
If he breaks the rules cut the plug off his console.
Or just take the kids and disapp... (read in full...)
My mother doesn't appreciate my rap lyrics, how do I get her to accept them?
Q. I've been writing rap lyrics for a good while now and I made a few tracks with my friends and they say I'm really good. And it's not just them, I won a freestyle tournament where there were experienced people judging. My dad is indifferent but ...
A. 11 September 2008: Point out that most new films are made the porn and horror industry so she shouldn't go to the cinema.
Tell her that you apprieciate that a lot of rap has anti-women lyrics but you do not think that and will not be influenced. Same goes with vio... (read in full...)
I used to date this guy, we broke up, now he calls me a slut, which is very annoying, what should I do, is there a good verbal comeback?
Q. Well i know this boy named evan and he used to go out with me and then he broke up with me. but now he calls me a slut and it is so annoying and i have no comebacks so what should i say to him....
A. 11 September 2008: "You're pathetic and jealous and I wish you'd get over me and move on."
He's a childish little boy. People are going to see that so don't stoop down to his level.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
With a pending election, my girlfriend is totally involved in the political scene, and I am feeling neglected, as she has little time for me, how can I talk to her about what I feel, in a positive way?
Q. Hi everyone. With the election going on, my gf is obsessed with it. Participating online discussion, watching news all the time. I tried not to talk politics with her because that will only lead to more argument. However, now she to...
A. 11 September 2008: Ask her if she wants to do somthing this weekend. Set up a date and plan it in advance.
If she refuses then tell her you are sick of being ignored.
If she agrees then wait till you are on the way home and then say you'd like to do something lik... (read in full...)
I'm a little unsure about how I could strike up a conversation with him (and where)-Advice please?
Q. I'm a 14 year old female and am a sophomore in high school. Despite my age, please answer seriously. I moved to a town in California about a year ago, and just moved into a house more recently. I've found that I have a *ahem* attractive neighbor, ...
A. 11 September 2008: Go round to his house and say you lost the homework assignment from that class and does he have it?
After that you just have to start asking him about everything like how his football team is going, and the weather and the school dance and ever... (read in full...)
Isn't it hard enough being single? How do get through this embarassment?
Q. I'm knocking on 30 and have never been in a serious relationship. Honestly, I haven't been on many dates either. No one seems interested in me. More and more my single friends are getting married and the married ones are having children and I ...
A. 11 September 2008: What to say to your father's rude friends:
Them: "are you still single? You should have a partner by now."
You: "Well you are ugly, but I could get a boyfriend if I wanted."
Go and watch sex in the city and cheer up. You'll be there for all ... (read in full...)
I have been talking on-line to this girl and I would like to meet her, but I don't want to scare her off, how do I find out if she would agree to meet me?
Q. this girl i met through a friend, i been talking to her online a fair bit. She starts new conversations when one dies down so she enjoys talkin to me. We've only spoken for few days. I do like her, how do i find out if she would consider meetin me ...
A. 11 September 2008: Work up to it. Say nice things about how you like chatting to her.
Then move up to swapping photos, and chatting on webcam if you can.
Once she knows you are who you say you are and not an axe murderer she might be more happy to meet you.
... (read in full...)
I like this guy I know and want to talk to him, and maybe let him know, but I have no idea how to approach him, any ideas?
Q. Ok, so this guy and I know I like him but I don't know how to confront him. Its awkard because we have not talked in like a really long time.( a year at the most) His friends look at me and all that. + I cant find a reason to approach him without ...
A. 11 September 2008: Smile and make eyes at him, and hope he approaches you.
Or get someone who is a mutual friend to pass on your email adress so you can chat online.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He seems to be spending less time and energy on me. Should I just give him his space?
Q. Me and my fince have been together for 2half years. Im still at college which is my fourth year. He has just started full time working in a gym! we used to see each other everyday because we were on the same college course together and that...
A. 11 September 2008: Well if he's just started in his job then there will be a period of adjustment.
Give it a few weeks to see if it calms down. If he decided he wanted to marry you then he probably shouldn't be able to change this much this fast.
If he doesn't... (read in full...)
Is this 15 year age gap a problem or not?
Q. hello right i have started seeing a man who is 15 years younger than me i am in my 40s and he is in his 20s. we work closly together and have a fantastic relationship, he is sweet and kind and gets on great with my children, he is just perfect all ...
A. 11 September 2008: He's not a teenager who's going to grow up and change dramatically.
If he's in his 20's then he will know his own mind and make his own decisions.
It might not last for ever for lots of reasons, not just age, but that is no reason not to gi... (read in full...)
My LD boyfriend yelled at me and cursed me when I said I would delete the pictures of his ex'es from his camera. We haven't talked since. Is it over?
Q. My boyfriend and I have not talked for two nights so far and we are in a long distance relationship that's been going on for a year and two months. I am so confused and lost I do not know what I did wrong or where I stand with him anymore.I been down...
A. 11 September 2008: So you just announced that you were going to delete them, and then he blew up and you sat in silence. I wonder what you were saying to him that he would accuse you of not listening and tell you not to speak to him.
There is another side to this ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of deformity??
Q. well i am in love with my moms cousins youngest son.. is that wrong and can we be and what are the chances of deformity?? STORY i know what you guys think your too young to know what love is but one of my fa...
A. 11 September 2008: Well you can be in love with him without having babies.
You are at least 15 years off having kids and anything could happen in that time, so just enjoy being a teen in love and don't worry about things that far in the future.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
I want to stop imagining us together in 10 years time with a little baby.
Q. I went on holiday to Turkey last summer and met the most gorgeous guy. He was working there as one of the entertainment team. I was 12 and he was 20. He was really sweet and we talked a lot in German as I didn't want anyone to be able to butt int...
A. 10 September 2008: PS. In 10 years time you'll be 22. That is WAY too young to have a baby, that is when you are only just starting out on your career!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want to stop imagining us together in 10 years time with a little baby.
Q. I went on holiday to Turkey last summer and met the most gorgeous guy. He was working there as one of the entertainment team. I was 12 and he was 20. He was really sweet and we talked a lot in German as I didn't want anyone to be able to butt int...
A. 10 September 2008: Well if you don't want to cut contact then you just need to get tough with yourself.
You have to physically make effort to stop every time you think about it. Give yourself a slap round the wrist and then make effort to think about somethin... (read in full...)
Is it true LDRs never last?
Q. Is what they say about long distance relationships true? That they never last? I ask this because I really like this guy. He's sweet and caring and very romantic. We are good together. The only problem is that he's in the military and stationed ...
A. 10 September 2008: Well it depends a lot on the circumstances. If it's going to permanently be an online thing, where you will never get together then it really has no future.
However, if you are going to see eachother some times and he will get a posting nearer y... (read in full...)
My girlfriend insulted me!
Q. Hey, this is the situation. My girlfriend had plans with her friends last night and so she saw them and we planned to see each other tommorow evening. While she was with her friend I planned to see my friend during the day time before I saw her...
A. 10 September 2008: Have you considered that she might have been planning a surprise party and wanted you to be done up?
It was an insestive comment though - I think I'd be pissed off with a guy who told me to "wear a skirt when you come round."
However, dema... (read in full...)
Why does he call me 'kiddy fiddler'?
Q. hello right here is my problem i have started seeing this lad he is a year and 37 days younger than me. ever since we have started seeing eachother he take the mick and calls me a kiddy fiddler do you think he actually believes that and do you t...
A. 10 September 2008: He's taking the mick because he's an immature little boy.
Of course 37 days doesn't make a difference!! That is rediculous!
Next time he says it just say "You know I think you are right, I shouldn't take advantage of you like this. Don't call... (read in full...)
What does 'I lost her a long time ago' mean?
Q. i go through my boyfriends phone every so often just to see he's behaving himself, he hasn't done anything to warrant me not trusting him but im afraid of getting hurt. I sorta cheated on him twice, no sex. so im going through his texts and he's ...
A. 10 September 2008: I'm not going to help you interpret something that is private and you have no business going through.
You have no idea what the context is.
In my mind though he was talking about his cat that ran off and was chatting to an old friend who asked... (read in full...)
Should I go to a movie with him?
Q. I like a guy in my college. We went on a trip together with friends. that's when i got to know him. he's really good looking and surprisingly very very sweet. i have just started talking to him and got him to ask me out for a movie. Rumer has it ...
A. 10 September 2008: It's only a date. Go for it!
Don't listen to rumours, judge him on his character.
Get to know him well by dating and then you can decide whether to be with him after that.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Does his difficult upbringing make it hard for him to express feelings?
Q. hi, i need advice on whether a guy i like feels the same. we've been sleeping together sporadically for 4 years (cos i was at uni) then i didnt see him for a while and he got back in touch about 6 months ago. i'd never seen him as boyfriend material ...
A. 10 September 2008: Well his upbringing may have been nasty but his dad isn't there preventing him from returning phone calls.
He can change if he wants and if he's blowing you out and behaving badly then his upbringing is just a bad excuse.
Don't let him get away... (read in full...)
It's happened again. I'm lost and alone, no hope and no money, how do I cope?
Q. Hello. I have just moved back in with my ex again (a couple of months ago). As ever to get me back he said he wanted babies and a home together. Instead I have ended up spending my savings while sitting in his bachelor place waiting for him to join ...
A. 10 September 2008: I'm sorry you have no money - but it seems this man lied to you about his intentions.
Try and get some money together and go somewhere, anywhere. Does he not provide anything? Has he never bought you anything nice?
If so then sell it and use ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like something that's beyond hormonal problems?
Q. I'm on the birth control pill Desogen and have been taking it every month for 18 months now. For the first like 17 months I had virtually zero adverse symptoms, but this past month was a nightmare. I felt nauseous pretty much every single day, had ...
A. 10 September 2008: Well if you have been taking it for 17 months and having no problems then it's unlikely that you would suddenly get a reaction this severe.
What else has changed in your life?
You could have got a bug, or something worse.
See a doctor!
... (read in full...)
We differ on how to bring up children, now I'm sleeping with her daughter. What should I do?
Q. This is the picture. I am 56 my partner 53 My 4 year relationship with my partner has suffered a major set back after over 1 year of continued arguments and disputes regarding the attitude between my partner and my 12year old daughter so much so ...
A. 10 September 2008: I answered this yesterday.
I think you need to split up from both mother and daughter.
You are going to cause huge problems which ever one you choose.
Accept that you blew it and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I about to start my periods?
Q. I am 10 yrs old, I have got a white discharge, pubic hair, even I get sweat in my armpits. Does that mean I am going to start my period?...
A. 10 September 2008: Yes you will start some time soon, in the next year or so.
Welcome to womanhood!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Pregnant or paranoid?
Q. Over the past few days I have been worried that I may be pregnant, but I am hoping it's just my paranoia. On Monday early morning I woke up puking with a lot of diahrrea and felt like I was coming down with that stomach flu that has been going ...
A. 10 September 2008: You were just ill, first time could have been an infection that you fought off by throwing up and pooing it out.
Next day was because you ate nothing but crap the night before.
Eat right and chill out.
Take a test if you want to put your min... (read in full...)
She kissed another, while drunk, at the beginning of our relationship. Do I take her back?
Q. I have been going out with a girl for 2 months now, but i have recently found out that at the very beginning of our relationship, she kissed another guy. She was very drunk and couldn't even remember it, her friend had to tell her. Should i ever ...
A. 10 September 2008: This got asked yesterday so my advice is to follow the advice you were given then.
As long as she promises not to drink that much again then you can take her back.
It was only a kiss.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a compulsive liar, he said he cannot stop lying so I broke up with him. Good decision?
Q. Hi I really need some advice. Me and my boyfriend were going out for 8 months, but he was a compulsive liar. We have sat down and he has admitted the lying but says he cant stop it. He has told me every lie hes told. But he admitted to texting a ...
A. 10 September 2008: It was the right decision. If he's a compulsive liar then he needs to get help, it's like OCD... you can't help him if he won't help himself.
If he realises he's lost you because of it then he might go and get that help.
He needs this so do... (read in full...)
Underwire bras have left brown marks under my breasts, any suggestions on how I can remove the marks?
Q. I am very slim and have very big breasts. I have always ensured I wore correct bras, even when sleeping at times to help with good posture and prevent sagging etc. My boobs are fine because of it and have no sagging, back problems etc. However, ...
A. 10 September 2008: Having read your follow up I think you have been given some good advice, but since you say you haven't tried anything yet, then perhaps just a really good exfoliate / scrub might help?
The other answers are good so try them too.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
Would most girls like my fantasy and how do I approach a girl about it?
Q. I'd like to get a girlfriend that I connect with, but I'm not sure how she would react about something. I want a girl who would be willing for her and me to rub our bare feet against each other while laying next to each other. Absolutely no shoes or ...
A. 10 September 2008: Just wait till you are together and lying down and start doing it. You might be in socks to start with but if your relationship goes further I am sure those socks will come off and you'll plenty of chance to just try it.
I think some girls wi... (read in full...)
Trouble getting over a summer fling - are some people meant to come into your life only to leave you just as fast?
Q. i am having a hard time getting over a summer fling. i know we have to go our separate ways, but i miss him so much. I wonder if anyone ever had a fling that they lost touch with, only to reunite later in life. And has it lasted..or some ...
A. 10 September 2008: It was perfect as it was, if it had caried on it would have broken down eventually.
Accept that you will always have this incredibly happy summer to look back on and move on.
As for whether you might meet up again one day, anything is poss... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my husband? He always wanted to take control of things in out lives?
Q. Should I stay with my husband? He always wanted to take control of things in out lives but over the last few years it has got much worse. He also has difficulty showing respect for other people. He uses other people's things (even when they are ...
A. 10 September 2008: He's had chance after chance - if he didn't change when his own daughter was self harming then what do you think is going to be different now.
I think there is only so many chances a man can have. You've threatened to leave and he still hasn't c... (read in full...)
Why fret so much on appearance?
Q. Honestly...i dont get it...So many people fret about thier appearence, a lot. Understandable, but i mean the "Im not pretty enough for him" or "There are better looking guys" ect. ect. Why do looks matter. Cant we love each other as we are? Im a bit ...
A. 10 September 2008: Um, have you even see the world we live in?
Princess Diana dies - a bulemic mentally ill divorcee who used to be married to a royal. She was pretty so there was world wide mourning.
Mother Theresa dies the same week - she dedicated her li... (read in full...)
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