He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 16 December 2008: I'm sorry sweetie but I think I've given you all the help I can.
If it gets to the point where you can't cope any more then you may need to end the relationship as it's not very good for your mental health.
He'll be home for Christmas surely... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 27 September 2008: Sweetie, with everything you've said I really think you are just going to have to accept that yours is going to a long distance relationship for a while. If this relationship is for real and you really are planning to be in love with him for the... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 26 September 2008: If you join up then you will definitely be separated, for years at a time. The army chooses where you go to. You don't get a choice in the matter. Plus you'll be miserable if you aren't joining the army for yourself.
Imagine 6 months in Afghanis... (read in full...)
Why fret so much on appearance?
Q. Honestly...i dont get it...So many people fret about thier appearence, a lot. Understandable, but i mean the "Im not pretty enough for him" or "There are better looking guys" ect. ect. Why do looks matter. Cant we love each other as we are? Im a bit ...
A. 10 September 2008: Um, have you even see the world we live in?
Princess Diana dies - a bulemic mentally ill divorcee who used to be married to a royal. She was pretty so there was world wide mourning.
Mother Theresa dies the same week - she dedicated her li... (read in full...)
How do I start dating again if I don't know anyone in my area?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago and im ready to get back out there...But i just moved and i dont know anyone here. I'm really anxious to get back in the dating game but how do i do that if i dont know anyone here??? I ...
A. 10 September 2008: Concentrate on making friend and then go out and have fun with them. You'll be meeting loads of new guys all the time doing that and will find someone special.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Does he remember our date or is he trying to make the week go by faster by being with his buds?
Q. Alright, I don't know if I am digging to deep into this or am just over reacting...My boyfriend and I are supposed to get together this weekend and he knows it. Last week he left and (is still camping) with a friend. He didn't tell me what he was ...
A. 10 September 2008: I think you are really reading into this to much.
Send him a text saying "can't wait for our date this weekend" and then leave him to it.
So what if he's camping 3 DAYS before the weekend. It doesn't take 72 hours to shower and get ready for yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't told his family about me yet...what should I do?
Q. After 4 years together, my boyfriend still hasn't told his family about me. His family is just his sister and mum but still. His mum is coming to visit for Christmas and I think he should tell her before she gets here. His excuse at first was h...
A. 10 September 2008: Well if he is close to them, he must have a specific reason not to tell them about you.
In 4 years they must have asked about his love life once, so he's either lied about you or told them something.
I'd demand to know what his problem is. If t... (read in full...)
Any advice about going through my periods??
Q. hi, I started my periods a while ago and it was really hard telling my mum but i did eventually ive started again for the second time and i dont really wanna go though telling her again. I'm not close to my mum. She has stocked me up with thousand...
A. 9 September 2008: You don't have to check in with her every month to let her know. I am sure she is just going to let you get on with it now she knows to keep the pads stocked up.
If you are feeling unwell then take some ibuprophen, they are great for muscles ... (read in full...)
What can I do about this boy who likes me? I just see him as a friend!
Q. hi aunts and uncles! i have a really bad 'crush' issue!!! its a total mega cringeeee. right i used to fancy this boy but i found out he had a girlfriend and i got over him that was a while ago and recently ive started to like this other lad. but...
A. 9 September 2008: Well just act friendly to him. Talk about boys you like and don't flirt. Treat him as you would one of your girl friends.
Unless he confesses his love for you then you don't have to do anything.
Chill out and get on with life.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather be with his friends than me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, we're engaged to get married, anbd we live together. We both work FT jobs. We keep fighting about his friends. He would rather hang out with them then me. He has ditched me on several occasions for his ...
A. 9 September 2008: Give him the ring back and tell him that you see that you are not a high priority in his life. Tell him you want to marry a man who puts you first and that is not him.
Then walk away. He may come after you and fight to get you back and change..... (read in full...)
Is there any point in waiting for her?
Q. Okay, my ex broke up with me to get back with her ex because she said she was confused. She broke up with him recently, but now she tells me that she still cares a lot about me, but she just needs time to be by herself. Thing is, she still ...
A. 9 September 2008: I honestly wouldn't get your hopes up. If you hang on and carry on being her friend and being there for her then she is just going to stick with that because it's easier and you will get hurt.
If you continue to be her friend but try and move on ... (read in full...)
Am I just a sex buddy for him?
Q. Hi, Please help me understand what a fuck buddy is and to clarify if my "boyfriend" is actually a fuck buddy. I met him about three months ago and he's been so busy with his work and business. I see him twice a week and sometimes once. Becau...
A. 9 September 2008: Well if you don't do anything together except hang out and have sex then it's not a good relationship to be in.
You can have a boyfriend who is only interested in sex, a "fuck buddy" is someone you are up front with and you both agree that it'... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: That's good point. If you don't want to get married straight away then you could find someone to rent a room from.
I'm sure there are other private soldiers who are married and could have a spare room. It might be a bit awkward if you were liv... (read in full...)
How can I aproach my wife so that we make love at lease once a week?
Q. Hi... I'm 32 and she's 37.We've been together for 5 years.Every year we have less sex(1-2 times/ month) but the quality of our sex is phenomenal. My desire for her is very intense but she refuses to have sex more than 1-3 times/ month and it's ...
A. 9 September 2008: It sounds like she has some kind of problem if she is actively avoiding even kissing.
I think you need to talk to her and find out if she sees you as a boyfriend or a companion.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: I think you need parental permission to get married under 18, but that shouldn't be a problem.
When he gets deployed you can always come home and move back in with your parents so you are not alone.
I would just say to be very very careful bef... (read in full...)
How can I tease my boyfriend?
Q. i need your help on this one, how can i tease my bf, i am new at this...and at this, he always finds a way to tease me by pulling my hair or pinching me slightly, but i can never seem to do so myself, i mean i return a pinch,, but what more else can ...
A. 9 September 2008: My favourite thing to do is just to walk up and kiss his face off.
Kissing always works.
Either that or just smack his bum.
Men are all about the visual - which is why they love porn so much. So just give him sexy looks, or point out that... (read in full...)
Hubby complains that I am not active during sex! What can I do?
Q. My husband of 5 years and I have a good sex life. BUT, he complains that i don't ever do anything during sex. He just gives me my oral and he gets on top then we're done. Honestly, I feel like I put some motion in it, but, he says "i love it, I just ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well do some foreplay for him, give him and hand job, blow job, lick his neck and kiss his face off.
Get on top and do some other positions. Wrap your legs around him and run your hands round his body and grab his arse.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Not bleeding after first time sex, is this normal?
Q. Having sex for the first time and not bleeding is that normal????...
A. 9 September 2008: I didn't bleed after my first time.
Back in the day when girls did nothing but sip tea and embroider clothes all day then they would all bleed.
Now that girls climb trees and fall out of them, ride horses, do dancing and gymnastics, ride... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to help her enjoy intercourse? And stop it from hurting her?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and we have been intimate for over half of that. Things are going wonderfully in all aspects except one. Whenever we have intercourse it hurts her, a lot. The last time we did it, by the time I ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well you could start by stopping as soon as she feels pain. It's no wonder she can't relax if she knows you are going to carry on no matter how bad it gets.
If you stop sex for a while and begin to work up to it and assure her that as soon as ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about our future sex life, my penis and her vagina are not a great fit!
Q. My girlfriend states she is very satisfied with our sex life, and I am too, but I am worried about the future as we are considering a long-term relationship. I have a modest penis, nothing I'm ashamed of but definitely on the smaller end of normal, ...
A. 9 September 2008: How is it that it's so simple to believe that all men come in different sizes, but women are all supposed to be really tight.
It could be just her natural size.
Trust me when I say I have been with guys that are bigger than others and it RE... (read in full...)
I'm in love but wondering if it's a right choice to be with this man
Q. I met this guy when I was 17 and he was 17 also. We had already graduated we started living together and after a year I got pregnany. We both cared about each other alot and were both ready to take on the responsibility of a child. One night when...
A. 9 September 2008: If it came down to her word against his in court then there is really no way to tell, but why on earth would she make something like that up?
He may not be like that with you, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have a dark side. Many serial k... (read in full...)
Triangle of love... I've become involved with my stepdaughter after her mother left, saying she could not live with me and my 12 year old daughter...
Q. This is the picture.I am 56 my partner 53 My 4 year relationship with my partner has suffered a major set back after over 1 year of arguments and disputes regarding the attitude between my 12year old child and my partner so much so that my partner ...
A. 9 September 2008: I think if you really loved your partner you would have found it a lot harder to sleep with someone else.
There is a big difference between a kiss in a moment of emotional pain, and then foreplay and full sex. You could have stopped but you didn... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just wants to be friends now. How do I get her back?
Q. i had a girlfreind who just wants to be freinds now. i wana be more then that what should i do ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well you can be romantic and amazing and keep telling her that you want to be her boyfriend.
Or you can just be friends. You are only 11, it's not like you'd be doing anything more than kissing so being just friends isn't going to be the end of t... (read in full...)
Do you think he means what he says? Do you think I'm going to lose him??? Help!
Q. I have known this lad for 5 months.. it doesnt seem that long but it feels like it's been forever .. the other night we was sat in his house and we was having a drink and just talking and having a little kiss and that .. but he stopped and i was sat ...
A. 9 September 2008: He might love you but asking for sex by text is not exactly romantic and loving.
You should never feel that you HAVE to do something or risk losing them. If he loved you at all then he would never leave you just because you want to wait to give ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of the cliches and find life pretty dire.
Q. I am going to be honest, life is something I've never been a fan of. I'm nearly 20 now and so far my life has been pretty dire. I was never the popular person at school, the truth was it took me a bit more effort than most people to get passing ...
A. 9 September 2008: Will you listen to yourself? "my life is crap because someone cheated on me at 14." She was 14!! A child! Which kind of gives her an excuse for acting immaturely and cheating.
The reason girls probably keep turning you down is because you get your... (read in full...)
He has so many pictures of him and this other girl - what should I do?
Q. Hi all, So I've been dating my present boyfriend for almost one year, I'd say maybe just around a month off from it. I'm 19, hes 20. Anyways, I recently stumbled upon pictures of him and this other girl, its not any inappropriate picture, but its ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well if he is acting weird go to the girl and say you just want to know what is going on.
You don't have to accuse her of anything, just tell her that he is being all strange about it and refusing to speak to you so you want to know if you are ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him?
Q. I'm 15.I asked out a guy in my year 6 weeks ago. he said he probly would go out with me, but he doesn't feel ready to go out with someone yet. I'm sorta stuck now. I still want to go out with him, but asking him out again would be weird. I see him...
A. 9 September 2008: I'd try and move on.
It'll be torture to wait around forever for him to grow up.
If he decides he wants you then he can come and ask you out, in the mean time just get on with your life and school work and stop worrying about him.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
How can I stop gagging when giving Blow Jobs?
Q. My husband and I have been married for over a year now. He REALLY likes it when I give him a blow job...my only problem is I gag. I cant help it, it's not the fact that his cock is in my mouth, it's the fluids...even just pre-cum. For some reason ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well you could start using flavoured condoms... or you could do what the other people suggest, get something tasty on it and then use it as foreplay only.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Caught up in lies and deceit.....how do I come clean??
Q. I am bordering on desperation, I have read the articles on your site, my situation is at this stage hopeless, I am so caught up in deceit, lies and cheating I don’t know how to come clean. I’m 46 married to my hubby for 28 years he is 60 years ol...
A. 9 September 2008: So what you are doing at the moment is:
Cheating on your husband with your girl friend
And supporting a man who you are friends with
And planning to cheat on your husband with a new man.
Well you have a choice. You can
a) Save your ... (read in full...)
What should I do if my family finds out that I still love the guy who broke my heart?
Q. ive been dating this guy and he cheated on me, and my family knows and they hate him...but i still love him with all my heart no matter what anybody says. im not desparate or pathetic i just know who i really love. but my question is if my family ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well they aren't going to punish you if they find out... they are just going to try and help you get over him.
And to be honest that is what you need right now.
It doesn't matter if you love him - he's an arse hole so you need to not love him ... (read in full...)
He suddenly cut me off from his life! I thought we had something special and I'm deeply hurt!
Q. How do you deal when a friend w/benefits breaks-up with u via email and gives no reason. I'm in a world of hurt? Is it normal for me to feel depressed, suicidal, and devastated being dumped over email with no explanation? I dont date a lot. I...
A. 9 September 2008: Well if you were only friend with benefits then he owes you nothing.
You weren't in a relationship with him yet you let yourself fall in love with this guy.
All you can do is learn from this and move on and if someone tells you that they only w... (read in full...)
I love him so much and he tells me the same but him always leaving me for his ex keeps me frustrated!
Q. i think i have found my soulmate. he has all the signs of a soulmate, but he says he is in love with someone else, but he keeps running back to me....i feel his thoughts..i have confront him by telling him i know he thinks of me every morning and ...
A. 9 September 2008: If you were truely soul mates then you would be together full time. He wouldn't be torn between 2 women if he was truely in love.
Just because you have a connection doesn't mean he is worth this pain.
Give him a deadline to pick one of you ... (read in full...)
How do you know when they love you and mean it?
Q. If a lad tells you he loves you .. how do you know that he means it ?? x...
A. 9 September 2008: I just want to disagree with volteroo - any lad will go to great lengths in order to get into your pants.
Saying I Love You is not hard when you don't mean it.
So take it to mean that he loves you but that it may not mean he's in love with you... (read in full...)
How can I keep my long distance relationship alive?
Q. I met my boyfriend on holiday and it was amazing. i thought that it would just be a holiday romance but we both wanted it continue afterwards. he lives about 2 hours away. we have been going out for a month now. we really dont get to see eachother ...
A. 9 September 2008: Well the first thing you can start to do is call eachother.
Then there is Skype (free phone pver the internet) web cam, email, and don't forget letters!
Getting a letter is brilliant.
To be honest if you are getting bored after a month then... (read in full...)
I won't let my boyfriend go down on me because I think it's disgusting down there!
Q. my boyfriend wants to go down on me but im uncomfortable with it cuz i mean isnt it disgusting down there like the pee comes out from there and its slimy and smelly and hairy so why would anyone want to do that?...
A. 8 September 2008: Pee comes out of your boyfriend's penis but I bet you don't mind going there.
Keep yourself trimmed and neat so it's not a jungle and just try to accept that men like weird stuff.
If you do it straight after a shower then you won't feel so ne... (read in full...)
How can I aproach my wife so that we make love at lease once a week?
Q. Hi... I'm 32 and she's 37.We've been together for 5 years.Every year we have less sex(1-2 times/ month) but the quality of our sex is phenomenal. My desire for her is very intense but she refuses to have sex more than 1-3 times/ month and it's ...
A. 8 September 2008: Well when you approach her do you come across as wanting HER or wanting sex?
When was the last time you just went up and gave her a huge soft kiss that lasted over a minute - but not because you wanted sex.
If you increase the amount of affect... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not affectionate to me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for going on 4 years. I love him very much and i care for him deeply. I know that he knows my feelings for him. However, he rarely tells me that he loves me. The only time i hear it is when i say it first. And even then ...
A. 8 September 2008: Well if you only go back because you feel guilty then it's no wonder that he hasn't reacted when you told him it's over. He knows he can carry on like he is and you'll be back in a week.
I think you need to get some sef respect and ask yourself... (read in full...)
She says she loves me and I'm the perfect guy for her but... she doesn't want to be my girlfriend!
Q. ok then the girl ive been seeing for months says were just friends,yet we reguarly have sex an talk about a serious relationship together.but she says she doesnt love me and wants nothing with me,yet she says im the perfect guy and if she was to get ...
A. 8 September 2008: Yep I think you need to move on. Tell her that you want a girlfriend and that you are not going to get that while she is with you.
She obviously likes you as a really good friend, but just want's a sex friend at the moment.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
Faded attraction for my BF, I want to explore more sexually wise, our biggest problem is we cannot afford separate appartments.
Q. Here's my dilemma- My BF of 2 years does not turn me on AT ALL anymore. He hasn't for the past 6 months, and at first I thought I was just having a slump and didn't want sex with anyone, but now I am just so attracted to other guys. I fantasiz...
A. 8 September 2008: I think you need to break up with him and suggest you both move out. You don't have to live alone, you can find a place with other people.
It's clear that you have gone back to being friends and you can't stay trapped like this as it's not fair... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he is in a serious relationship?
Q. if a man is using adultfinder a site in which the people on it are looking for sexual encounters does it sound like he is in a serious relationship or is a man probably single? ps he is not my boyfreind....
A. 8 September 2008: Well since he's looking for no strings sex, he's going to say he's single even if he's not.
There is no way to tell who these people are so he could be a married father of 5, he could be a single nice guy, or he could be an axe murderer and rapi... (read in full...)
He's looking for group sex - am I fair to be feeling this way?
Q. i have found out that when we split up my ex partner went on a large site looking for group sex and couple sex and he never put his sexual orientation as being straight. I thought that i had a child with a decent heterasexual man but it seems that ...
A. 8 September 2008: So you split up and then decided to explore his sexuality....
I really don't see how that makes him a pervert. He's a single guy and wanting to experiment. You might not like it but it's his choice not yours.
You have no right to stop him seei... (read in full...)
I've never had sex. Could I still be pregnant?
Q. Hello. I'm a 17-year old female with a slightly odd problem (at least, i think it is..) Basically, I haven't menstruated since around July-ish (maybe... i can scarcely remember; but I did have two periods this summer). I'm about 110 lb, and I'm...
A. 8 September 2008: I think you need to see a doctor - your periods should be regular by now and if they are not then something may have gone wrong... it could be a cist or something that is messing with your hormone balence.
From what you say, pregnancy probably... (read in full...)
Why are we not conceiving?
Q. Hi I hope someone can help me on this.... Ive been with my boyfriend for some time and have been off the pill for around a year and a half. I have never managed to concieve.... i have been to the doctors and have been for a scan and bloodtests. ...
A. 8 September 2008: I think you need to go back to the doctor.
If you have had all the usual tests and it's all fine then there must be something else wrong with one of you.
You could try using one of those little kits at Boots that tell you when you are at your ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that we have sex all the time?
Q. Me and my fiance have sex all the time. We love eachother and would die for one another, what we have is something special. We werent always like this. I was afraid to kiss her for the first 3 months we dated and after that i was terrified of sexual ...
A. 7 September 2008: As long as you are happy with it and your relationship isn't just about sex then no problem.
Continue to use protection. If she is not on the pill you should think about that too as using that AND condoms will pretty much keep you complete... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not affectionate to me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for going on 4 years. I love him very much and i care for him deeply. I know that he knows my feelings for him. However, he rarely tells me that he loves me. The only time i hear it is when i say it first. And even then ...
A. 5 September 2008: Well in my opinion this guy is with you because he's always been with you. You've got so used to being together through your teens that not you can't imagine actually surviving without each other, even if you aren't happy together.
I really d... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 1 September 2008: Marry him. Get a civil partnership and the army will pay for you to move out there and give you a house.
Either that of you need to go out on holiday and start job hunting. The army is banned from one or two resorts due to bars getting smashed ... (read in full...)
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