He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 16 December 2008: I'm sorry sweetie but I think I've given you all the help I can.
If it gets to the point where you can't cope any more then you may need to end the relationship as it's not very good for your mental health.
He'll be home for Christmas surely... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 27 September 2008: Sweetie, with everything you've said I really think you are just going to have to accept that yours is going to a long distance relationship for a while. If this relationship is for real and you really are planning to be in love with him for the... (read in full...)
I call and call and my calls aren't returned until days later. Maybe he's not in love with me as he says? How can I talk about this without seeming needy?
Q. Help. I'm not sure what this means. I've been with this guy for a while. Actually we have a very interesting history, we've known each other and have been great friends for many years. We've dated in the past. I love him very much and he has ...
A. 26 September 2008: Well, I have asked a man and he says that if he's ignoring you for a week at a time then he must feel he has more important things to do than phoning you.
It could be that he does want the whole future thing with you but not right now. As you say,... (read in full...)
I have his number and am planning to call him but I'm shy, what should I say to him? Any ideas?
Q. I'm a sophomore in high school and the guy I like is a junior. He's also my neighbor (I recently moved in, so we're new neighbors). I think he's cute--hot--but we've never actually been able to have a real conversation. However, I asked him for his ...
A. 26 September 2008: "Hi, it's me. How are you? What have you been up to? That's cool. So have you seen that new film yet? It looks really good. Yeah I'd love to see it with you!"
Job Done.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is injustice allowed?
Q. is this justice or what????sorry my question has got nothing to do with relationships..but, i just want to get this out of my chest! last year 2 of my cousins were driving around when they had an accident.the guy who hit them said that it was ...
A. 26 September 2008: Well it sounds like you live in a very corrupt country.
You can either go into politics yourself and campaign for change, or you can move to another country where there is justice for all.
There are lots of places in the world where this does ... (read in full...)
We met on line, I feel I love him one minute and the next I just want to be friends. What do I do?
Q. Hi, I met his guy online and i immediatly liked him. The problem is he lives in calagary and i live in vancouver. He is 18 and im 16. He is thinking about coming and living with me or get a apartment near hear. I like him now but he wont be able...
A. 26 September 2008: It is highly unlikely that at 16 you are mature enough to keep a long distance relationship going to the point where you will be ready to move in together in 12 months time.
It is highly unlikely that at 18 he will be wanting to go a year with a p... (read in full...)
Everyone says he's a waste of space, but I can't take my mind off him!
Q. please help me! i had this boyfriend 5 years ago and we split up, but still said 'hi' if we saw each other! we both had other relationships in the last 5 years, but now im single and so is he. we keep meeting up but hes only after 1 thing from me a...
A. 26 September 2008: If he's just after one thing and won't even be your boyfriend then you are not going to make him fall in love with you.
He knows how you feel about him and yet he is still happy to use that to get sex.
If all your friends and family are sayin... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 26 September 2008: If you join up then you will definitely be separated, for years at a time. The army chooses where you go to. You don't get a choice in the matter. Plus you'll be miserable if you aren't joining the army for yourself.
Imagine 6 months in Afghanis... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is violent and refuses to compromise. What do I do?
Q. My girlfriend regularly and violently freaks out over ordinary problems. This morning she was angry because I stayed up late on the internet in our room after she went to sleep (having put in earplugs, as we live above a main road, and simply said ...
A. 24 September 2008: You should never retaliate to violence, that will only make things worse. You are not an animal. If she gets violent or smashes something then walk out and don't return till she has calmed down.
It takes 2 people to argue to that point where sh... (read in full...)
How do I leave? When is the right time? I need serious responses...
Q. Strongly considering leaving him. topics arent being budgeted, or even discussed so nor are they changed. bills are still piling, ive no nest egg just existing sex life: his weight is hurting my legs hips and joints I work out to strengthen my...
A. 24 September 2008: You can live on surprisingly little.
I think you need to look around to get some prices of places to live. Then figure out how much you can make by working and see what you can afford.
Your daughters must see how the marriage is affecting you... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have an STD. What does an STD test involve?
Q. I am wondering if I could have an STD. When me and my ex bf were together I gave him oral with no condom. But I trusted him enough to believe him when he said he had no STD's. The thing is though we have no broken up as I realisd he wasnt trustwor...
A. 24 September 2008: If you caught anything then you should be seeing symptoms down there.
There are "silent" STD's though with Chlamydia and the HPV virus being the most common. They can be tested for with a swab test.
The big one is HIV and Aids. That has to be t... (read in full...)
I need tips on having a BBQ so I don't burn the house down!
Q. This may seem like a lame question but thought may get some good tips here! I am throwing a surprise party at my house and am having to organise everything on my own. The only thing I am a bit confused about is the BBQ as I have never done it be...
A. 24 September 2008: BBQ's are far more simple than you think.
Burn stuff and use the heat to cook meat.
Set the fire and get it going, don't cook on the flames as they will just make everything black. Wait till the charcoal is really grey and glowing before y... (read in full...)
I will sacrifice just to be with her forever!
Q. ., I am inlove with my friend,i want to fight for it, but how? i cant,..because she is also a girl, i knoe that she also love me, we kissed already,! im not a lesbean, and shes not also a lesbesn, pls help us!!!...
A. 24 September 2008: You are so young! It is impossible to know what is going on with hormones at your age.
You may have a crush on girls or boys, it is perfectly normal.
Enjoy your time with your friend and don't worry about it. What will be will be!
Good Luck... (read in full...)
Should I back off? I'm not sure what to do with him, as I am so out of the loop on this dating lark!
Q. Hello, I am a 33 year old woman who has been dating a 40 year old man for 4 months now. We spend every weekend together and, two weeks ago, we went away for a holiday for a week. During the holiday, I told him that I was falling in love with him...
A. 24 September 2008: Well there is never anything wrong with playing a little hard to get.
Leave him alone and let him make the first move for a while.
The worst thing that can happen is that you find out that you need to move on and find a guy who is a bit more op... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband the baby isn't his?
Q. I am married to the love of my life, John, and just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. However, the baby isn't his. About a year and a half ago, there was this guy named Mike, who was friends with me and my husband. One day, we all got really ...
A. 24 September 2008: What is there to gain by telling your husband?
He knows you slept with his friend as he was there at the time!
All telling him would do is cause hurt and possibly deprive your baby of a great dad.
The real father is dead. He's gone and it's... (read in full...)
I have been on birth control for a month and had sex. Could I be pregnant?
Q. so i had been on yasmin birth control for almost a month i was on my white pills and the last day of my period and my boyfriend and i were having sex and he cumed inside of me,is there any chance that i could be pregnant cause i had to take a blood ...
A. 24 September 2008: If you have been taking the pill properly then there is a 98% percent chance that you are not pregnant.
I am not sure what the doctor will check for when he is doing your blood tests, so he may spot pregnancy if there is one, he may not.
... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex and now...my period is late!
Q. im seriously confused. ive been havin unprotected sex with my boyfriend and my period is over a week late. im not always regular but im fairly close to the same date most of the time. my mothers keeps on pressuring me because she thinks i might be ...
A. 24 September 2008: You've been having un-protected sex.
So it is highly likely that you are pregnant.
These pains could still happen while you are pregnant.
Go and get a test.
If you are not pregnant then USE CONDOMS from now on and get on the pill. Don'... (read in full...)
We're Christians, my wife doesn't dislike sex, but she doesn't like it, we have sex very seldom, how can I fix this, what am I supposed to do?
Q. ok I dont understand this and I know it probably sounds like every other question that guys ask about sex, but....My Wife doesn't like sex, and doesn't seem like she is ever going to. She doesn't dislike it, but she doesnt like it. During the first ...
A. 24 September 2008: If she was a virgin when she married then it's no wonder that she hasn't got it figured out yet.
First of all you have to get her to admit there is a problem. She may have been brought up to think that sex is for making babies and all these wo... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to email a teacher out of school?
Q. Is it illegal to email a teacher outside of school in the uk? i am currently being taught by him, i am female, he is male, i am 17 and he is in his 30s, it is his personal email address and the emails are informal and of a personal nature,...
A. 24 September 2008: Well as long as he is just helping you through some problems then there is nothing wrong with it and falls under his duty of care.
You are just the email equivalent of that kid that hangs around outside the staff room.
Keep it clean and don't ... (read in full...)
Can you catch an STD if you use someone else's vibrator?
Q. hi. i swear this is not about me, just wondering... if you use the same vibrator as another women, can u get an STD from it? this is not about me, and i know about sex and all that, just my family dont talk about stuff like that and i dou...
A. 23 September 2008: Yes you can.
If you have some lesbian friends who are into this kind of thing then tell them to start using condoms on it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What does this body language mean?... I am constantly bemused and curious by the way he moves his legs...
Q. Hi, There is this boy I like at school, we talk alot and I THINK he might like me. the thing i dont understand is, he does this weird thing sometimes - if we are talking and are getting abit flirty or jokey with one another, and he is sitting do...
A. 21 September 2008: Maybe you talk too much and he needs the loo but is too polite to say so?
If you like him and think he likes you then just ask him out!
Don't sit around trying to analyse him, it just wastes time.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I have lost my best friend by listening to lies other people told me, I am sad all the time over this, what can I do to feel better, and also not feel so insecure?
Q. it hurts me that an ex bestfriend didn't say happy birthday to me. We were best friends, almost like sisters for 5 years and every time on our birthdays we went out both our families together at this reasturant. This year nothing happened and I ...
A. 21 September 2008: Well if you are meeting new people then that is pretty good.
Not everyone is a sheep who will think what this girl tells them to think.
Make you new friends and ignore the sheep and be lovely and happy to everyone.
They'll realise that ... (read in full...)
It was just a few strokes unprotected, but I am worried.
Q. Hello, I am hoping someone can answer this question. Well it might seem like a stupid one but it is one I need an answer to. Can you get pregnant through just inserting the penis in a few times? It was just a few strokes unprotected, but I am worr...
A. 19 September 2008: I think you would have to be very very unlucky to get pregnant like that but there is a small possibility.
Don't worry too much about it. But be more careful next time.
If you are really worried then you can ask her to take the morning after pi... (read in full...)
With no hesitation, she just said no, does this mean she has ANY feeling for me?
Q. i asked a girl out on the bus, and she didnt even have to think about it, she just said no, and that she just wants to be friends. does this mean she has any feelings for me or she doesnt want to ruin being friends or something else? also it took...
A. 19 September 2008: If she just said no straight off then it meant that she doesn't like you.
If she had been worried about losing your friendship then I think she would have thought about it. But since you describe her as "a girl on the bus" rather than your fri... (read in full...)
Does a person's forehead change over time?
Q. A girl the other week said to me and i quote "my god you have a horribly massive forehead" lol. this took me by surprise and ever since i have been paranoid about it. subsequent comments have also been made so i looked at pictures of when i was 18 ...
A. 19 September 2008: Your hair may be receeding very slowly, but she was just being a bitch.
Next time some one says something like that to them just say "Well you are horrifically ugly and have no personality, but I can grow a fringe."
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
His older friend tells lies to get us to break up! Am I in a losing situation?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 6 months now. He has a best friend that is an older lady who he has known for over 10 years. He says she is like a mom to him. Every time she comes around she or he creates drama and he ends up asking me to leave. Of ...
A. 19 September 2008: You just have to stop taking him back. Tell him you are sick of her ruining things and him always taking her side.
Yes they are friends, but that does not mean she gets to decide who he gets to date. Her jealousy is just ridiculous.
Tell hi... (read in full...)
Why won't my ex talk to me even though there isn't anything awkward about it?
Q. Before we went out, he was always chasing me and talking to me all the time. We only went out for a month and didnt even spend that much time together.I told him that we either needed to hang out more or we could just be friends. He said that we ...
A. 19 September 2008: I think you just have to ask him what has changed.
It could be that he said that he wanted to be friends but really did not, and was just trying to act cool or play a mind game.
Ask him why he's not speaking to you and don't take any crap. B... (read in full...)
I am puzzled here due to his not planning time with me in advance. Should I be concerned?
Q. Hello, thanks in advance for read my letter and I appollogize because the english is not my first language. First of all I am in a relationship with this wonderfull guy for like 7 months. In many ways we are alike, but in other ways we are ...
A. 19 September 2008: If he is bad at planning then there is nothing wrong with you doing it. He is happy to let you be in charge. But there is nothing wrong with him taking charge on other things.
If you lived together and he was a terrible chef then you would no... (read in full...)
I don't want to step on any toes but how can I get his dad to leave? I can't stand it any longer!
Q. I am 21 year old and have been living on my own for years. I currently live in a amall apartment with boyfriend, our roomate, and my boyfriends father. The problem is I want his dad to leave! He's been staying here off and on for a month! He stin...
A. 19 September 2008: I think this has gone beyond the point of stepping on toes.
You need to tell this man that you want him out of your house and if he refuses to go then call the police.
He's not paying rent, he's treating the place like a hotel and making your ... (read in full...)
Did I have to tell her like this, or could I have waited?
Q. This girl I'm seeing has heard all kinds of bad things about me from my other friends, all things from my past, things that don't even pertain to her. Two of them being about my mother's true sexual orientation and the truth about how an ...
A. 19 September 2008: You don't have to do anything you don't want to.
If you are that messed up that you are in therapy then she should be a bit more understanding.
Just tell her that you don't want to talk about it. If she doesn't accept that then at the moment wh... (read in full...)
I can't seem to find any girls who share my view on sex. Should I just give in?
Q. It seems like every girl I meet is one of two categories: 1. Girls who are religious and want to save sex for marriage. 2. Girls who want to have sex right now. I'm in a conundrum because I don't want to have sex until I'm in a serious re...
A. 19 September 2008: Girls have to play it cool so some will say they are waiting for marriage because that takes the pressure off them, when really they will give it to someone special.
Or they will want sex straight away because that is what boys want! (Or so they ... (read in full...)
Is this girl only interested in me because I'm different to what she's used to?
Q. Question: Does this girl actually fancy me, or is it just because i'm different to what she's used to the only reason she seems interested? I started dating this girl at university back in June, before the summer holidays, and we've been ...
A. 19 September 2008: There is no way to tell the future and see if you two will last forever and have a farm and a dozen kids... or whether you will split up next week.
Since you can't tell the future the best plan with relationships is to not worry about it too much... (read in full...)
How does one maintain their identity in a relationship?
Q. Ok guys today in class i had a major break through in my opinion. In the back of my mind in always thinking about what happened and why, and all the good stuff. I came to the conclusion so far that ive been depressed and that is what really did the ...
A. 19 September 2008: Spending time apart is absolutely key.
Having the space to go out with your own mates and just having a night in by yourself.
It keeps the romance and you don't get in the habit of just sitting together looking scruffy and never making the... (read in full...)
Am I a terrible boyfriend, or is she just being manipulative?
Q. My partner and I have a huge fight. It is the third time we fight this way. It happened because of a simple misunderstanding. She dropped me offline messages in instant messenger. That day, I login to see if she left me any message then I l...
A. 19 September 2008: I don't think you are terrible, I think she has problems.
If she is willing to dump you over something so incredibly small then she did not want to be in the relationship.
Move on and find a more emotionally stable person.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my ex "The One" or my current boyfriend?
Q. I'm in love with my ex boyfriend, and I always knew that the feelings I have towards him were different than everyone else. We went out for a year, but then we broke up because he moved. He lives hours away now, and we didn't talk for over a year. ...
A. 19 September 2008: You cannot stay with someone just because they threaten to hurt themselves.
Tell him you just love him as a friend... if he makes a fuss or threats to do something stupid then stay with him but make it clear you are only there so he won't harm him... (read in full...)
How do you get close to someone you have feelings for?
Q. how do you get close to someone? i'm talking about someone you have feelings for. me and my ex were really close. it took a while and we went through a lot and then we finally ended up being so close that we just went out. but that's over with. i'm ...
A. 19 September 2008: Just talk to him! Get to know him, ask him questions and find out how he thinks.
If it goes quiet then just ask him a question about something - anything?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can a 13 year old find the right guy?
Q. Hi. Im 13 and fell in love for the first time. the guy i love broke my heart and we went out five times. each time i fell for his tricks. and im trying not to again. i dont understand why i dont feel the agonizeing pain like i did before. and i can ...
A. 19 September 2008: I advise you to age several years.
Boys of your age are idiots. They are little imature children and they will hurt you.
If you chose to date at 13 then accept they are going to treat you like crap because they don't know any better.
Goo... (read in full...)
Am I Needy or is he Neglectful?
Q. We've been together for 3 years and do not live together. We see each other for a few hours Friday and Saturday night. During the week we talk on the phone and he may pop over for dinner on occasion. We live in the same town. I want to see him ...
A. 19 September 2008: It sounds like you just want different things from relationships.
Some couples want to be with each other 24/7, and some are happy to just meet on the weekends and have lots of their own space.
The fact he's not willing to compromise and d... (read in full...)
How can I slim down my thighs?
Q. Hi. I'm really conscious of my thighs and need some tipso n how to loose a bit of weight from them. I'm a size 8, fairly active woman - I do horse riding and walking, I don't carry a lot of weight and am happy with my body everywhere else apart ...
A. 19 September 2008: If you do horse riding and walking then you might just have a lot of muscle down there which makes the thin layer of fat look worse.
Also if you are bumping up and down on a horse then your legs may just have developed some padding there.
... (read in full...)
What does it mean when her profile says she is in a 'open' relationship?
Q. As I mentioned, I am starting uni soon. I added a few people on facebook doing the same course or are in the same hall as me. Anyway, I was talking to a girl I added a few weeks ago today on the facebook IM service. She doesn't know anyone goin...
A. 19 September 2008: Being in an open relationship means you have a boyfriend, and you are committed to them long term, but you go out and date other people for fun.
So be aware that although she may date you and everything, she may not ever see you as a serious ... (read in full...)
How can I make her understand that I need her to stop calling all the time and need space...???
Q. Hi, I have this girlfriend, we were going on pretty fine for quiet sometime ever since she started being a bitch. She believe's that being in a relationship is calling each other 10 times a day.. , She doesnt give me my space.. I now feel like ...
A. 19 September 2008: I think if she's got so bad it is affecting your family it is time to tell her that it is over.
Tell her you have tried to talk to her about it but she won't listen.
Be aware that if you have been smoking dope then your short term memory will... (read in full...)
He said sorry if he crossed any lines...what should I say??
Q. There is a guy who likes me a lot and wants to marry me...we haven't met each other for lst few years and recently we met for the first time in my house,we had casual talks and then for the second time again at my home but just 2 of us were there. ...
A. 19 September 2008: Well as long as he stopped when you told him to then I don't think you have to worry.
If he is in love with you then he may try and kiss you.
As long as he respects your rules and boundaries then just tell him you accept his apology and can'... (read in full...)
My imagination is running riot...any advice??
Q. I was friends with him for the whole of last year and we are getting closer all the time, with our friendship turning into the beginnings of something else. He was married for a long time and has been single for two years now. I am slightly ...
A. 19 September 2008: Just ask him straight.
"where is this going?" tell him you are looking for a boyfriend and you really like him but you don't want to keep holding on forever if all he wants is friendship.
Once you know what he wants then you can say "ok we c... (read in full...)
I have lost my best friend by listening to lies other people told me, I am sad all the time over this, what can I do to feel better, and also not feel so insecure?
Q. it hurts me that an ex bestfriend didn't say happy birthday to me. We were best friends, almost like sisters for 5 years and every time on our birthdays we went out both our families together at this reasturant. This year nothing happened and I ...
A. 13 September 2008: Have you appologised for the things you did and explained what happened with the lies?
Send her an email explaining it all and tell her you don't want to throw away your friendship over this row.
That's all you can do really.
Try and make so... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: That's good point. If you don't want to get married straight away then you could find someone to rent a room from.
I'm sure there are other private soldiers who are married and could have a spare room. It might be a bit awkward if you were liv... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: I think you need parental permission to get married under 18, but that shouldn't be a problem.
When he gets deployed you can always come home and move back in with your parents so you are not alone.
I would just say to be very very careful bef... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 1 September 2008: Marry him. Get a civil partnership and the army will pay for you to move out there and give you a house.
Either that of you need to go out on holiday and start job hunting. The army is banned from one or two resorts due to bars getting smashed ... (read in full...)
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