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writes:Here's the deal. Almost four years ago, I fell head over heels for my guy-friend. We didn't become romantically involved until about a year and half ago. We were admittedly madly in love with each other but the relationship lasted a mere five months. We broke up amicably on the surface but I was badly broken. We promised to remain friends but I was hurt enough that we didn't have any contact until about four months ago. He asked me if I was willing to give our relationship another chance. He still holds my heart, so I agreed. Within the week, we had broken up again, again a joint decision, because he had little to no time to spend with me. Last week, he came up with a lot of free time (he actually quit one of his two jobs) so we agreed to hang out and rekindle our friendship. A few apologies about our "second chance" led to joking and tickling (not an uncommon occurance between us), which in turn led to a pretty fierce makeout session. I still love him with all my heart, he says he still has feelings for me, and the next day we agreed to talk about "us" again. Here's where it gets complicated. I leave for school the middle of next month. I'll only be 45 minutes from our hometown so it wouldn't be an impossible relationship. But in six months, he leaves for boot camp two states south, about a 20 hour drive. We decided it would be best for us not to enter into another relationship, and I wholly agree. But I still love him. I just want to know what all the aunts out there would do.Would you tell him how you feel before he leaves or just let him go the way it is?
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reader, 13AF +, writes (21 July 2008):
13AF is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Sealmire. Your encouragement made me look at things in a different light.
Since you shared your story, I figure I'll elaborate. He's joined the air force, a dream of his for years, and will leave in either December or January.
Good luck with the Marines and godspeed.
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reader, sealmire +, writes (20 July 2008):
 BY GOD YOU BETTER TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL! depending on what branch hes going through hes going to go through more hell then hes ever been. hes going to need words like those to keep up his drive through boot. whatever you tell him im sure will ring and echo through his head morning and night during his training. i myself have joined the marine corps and i leave for boot this december. i dont have a nice girl to tell me those things but hey, hes not too different then i depending on you. hes as lonely as i would be if you dont tell him exactly how you feel. those kinds of words would just pull a person out from the pits of hell and into the twighlights of heaven. plz for his sake tell him......
Sealmire
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