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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Would you take this as a compliment? I don't, but I hear it all of the time. It goes along the lines of: "I like you because you make things easy/You're so easy" (please don't infer a sexual overtone here). I think I've heard this from almost half of the people I've gotten to know. Even my ex says this to me. Although when we were together, he told me that being with me was too difficult because it was too easy...sigh.The second I hear someone say this "compliment" to me, I think: Well, there goes another one (one less person I consider a true friend), who isn't truly my friend or lover, but just someone who takes advantage of the fact that half the time I really don't give a f*ck and half the time I give so much of a f*ck that I bend over backwards to the point they can't see it anymore. In order to have true friends, I should ignore what I understand about life and make a big deal out of stuff that doesn't really matter, all the time? Is that the key to true friendship and love? Have you heard this pseudo-compliment constantly in your life? Or have you ever given this 'compliment' to someone? I'd love to hear both sides of the story, because I honestly don't understand how it can actually be a good thing to be 'liked' for making things 'easy', or why someone should actually say this to someone else. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): Are you saying that you're easy going, or that at just a slight jokey hint of you doing something, you'll just do it, and then they'll laugh because they didn't actually excpect you to do it and you did, because you're easy.
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