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writes:I have joined a dating site about 2 months ago and have recently started emailing a guy on the site. I was the one that initiated contact and initially he responded very positively. We exchanged a couple of nice chatty emails and then he went completely quiet for 2 weeks. I accepted this, since we all have choices but eventually my curiosity got the better of me and I emailed him a very nice email just to ask what had happened because we had such a nice flow of communication and he just went quiet. To my surprised he responded very nicely, apologised and said that he had not actually logged on to the site at all during those days but he was very pleased to be back in touch with me and that so far I have been the only woman that he has actually emailed. Since then we have each sent about three emails and he responded in good time and mentioned again how pleased he is to be back in touch with me. He seems like a great guy and he lives just 3 miles from me. I would like to meet up, but am very scared of being rejected and feel like so far I have made most of the effort in getting in touch with him. How long should I wait until he asks me out or should I just take the lead and ask him out? Would it scare him away if I make the move again?Help appreciated :-) Reply to this Question
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I think you should just go for it! He wouldn't have joined the site if he wasn't interested in having contact with someone whether it be in person or just online. You have nothing to lose by asking. If he disagrees with meeting up then it will tell you it's not going to go any further than online chat. Is that what you're looking for?
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp! +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Hello :)
First of all always be very careful with dateing sites, you dont always know whos on the other end of the computer and do you know for sure he is the guy that you think he is ?
Before even considering meeting up with him i think that perhaps it would be better if you had a video call with him all you need is a webcam , just to be sure he is who you think he is.
And i think that you should send a few more emails before you move into anything serious perhaps add a little bit of light flirting into them and see how he reacts ;).
Make sure he doesnt just want you for one thing as there are alot a guys partically on the internet who are like that. Also find out as much as you can about him.
I think after a few more emails perhaps you should ask to meet up with him dont ask to be in a reltionship with you staright away make sure you meet him before anything like that happens.
And if he rejects you then relax there are pleanty more guys out there :)
Oh and i know i might sound like a teacher or something but make sure you meet in a public place as we dont want anything bad happening
Hope this helps :) x
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 He should make the first move and ask you out. If he doesn't do so very soon I would have to wonder what he is hiding from you.
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