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writes:For the last five years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thought of yet another new year's at home. I'm kicking around the idea of going to see a band, comedy show, or some other type of performance alone since I'm not into the club/party scene. I'd stick with an early show and likely be home well before the countdown.What do you think? I'm not hoping to meet anyone, but do want to just have a drink, relax, and enjoy a show in the company of others without looks of pity. But I worry that a single guy will stick out more than normal.Is this possible? Have any other guys done this or would you? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 December 2015):
 Have you considered looking into some meetup.com new years events? It might be fun to try that. There will be other singles there who just don't want to be alone (but may not be looking for a hook up either).
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2015): Having been single for 6 years I have felt the same as you. I have been to concerts, festivals, charity bike rides, meals, and cinema all by myself. Yes I would had never got to go, if I had waited for someone to go with, but personally for me, the fact I had plucked up the courage to attend on my own, it made me feel more alone, than the thought it self, as I felt that these things are enjoyed greatly with company. Id suggest joining a meet up group where single all come together to enjoy the event.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2015): Ah go out and do it! I think you'll enjoy yourself.
I've been out loads of times and bump in to people who are out by themselves and get talking to them. When people go out at new year they are so busy thinking about having a dance and having fun that they don't stand there scanning the room looking at what others are doing or if they are on their own.
Too many people are lonely and never have the guts to just get up and have a good time by themselves. I know that when I've gone out even when I'm standing in a queue for the toilet I get chatting to strangers I don't know.
I actually met my ex boyfriend when he was out by himself but he was such a bubbly and out going person we ended up having a whale of time together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2015): I had difficulty in getting girlfriends when I was around your age. It wasn't because of my looks but looking back I think I was a pretty boring young man and it was no wonder I didn't interest the girls. Of course then we didn't have the net and the social media, and the only way to meet the girls was at the dance halls or at school or work. Actually trying to find a new GF in a Xmas or NY dance are pretty dim because most of the girls at such time of the year are accompanied. I remember spending most Xmas eves and NY eves alone in my room with a few bottles of beer and LP records to drown my sorrows. And yes, I used to go to the cinema alone most of the time. My advice, yes go to a new year eve gathering, you never know, you might meet a girl who is also alone, but most important, make yourself interesting to the girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2015): I'd say definetly do it and good for you for having the balls to go by yourself. I've been to see bands alone and to the cinema (I'll admit I did look somewhat creepy at the cinema sitting in the back alone as its mostly couples but once the films starts who cares. I wanted to see it no one I knew did- I came I saw) At gigs no one notices I'm alone because its so packed and loud I usually mosh my way right to the front and end up jumping around with people I don't know. I have been on holiday by myself as well with only canine and equine friends. I've found you need to watch out for yourself of course but people will generally be friendly to you because you are alone. I'd rather go to something alone then miss out on the experience.
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