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Worried I'm going to shoot my load in seconds!

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Question - (3 October 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 October 2006)
A male United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

I've started seeing a girl who I really fancy. I mean really, really fancy. Right up my street. My problem is this. We are going to screw very shortly, we've already been intimate. My worry is that I am going to shoot my load in a matter of seconds and or have a heart attack. After a period of foreplay I feel like I could hit a 10 p coin from across the street with my ejaculate.

How do I calm things down? Should I tell her that she's so hot she's gonna make me trigger happy? Any tips?


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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):

If you are that keen then even if you do shoot your load straight away you will probably have little trouble in going for it again a few minutes or a short while later - and will last longer that time.

A good idea might be to shoot your load off before you see her.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):


Anyway there are condoms with desensitizing gel in them. That should help you enough keep you from hitting the 10p coin right off the bat.

A cock ring or viagra would be other ways to address the issue.

After the first 5-10 times you two are together your brain will calm down enough that this problem will start going away.

good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):

You may surprise yourself here - intercourse with a partner isn't often as quick and easy as, say, masturbation. But if you really are that excitable, just pay attention while you're having sex. If you're getting too close to orgasm, tell your girlfriend to back off for a few seconds. Try and picture something really unattractive for a few seconds. Take a break and start again. One trick some men use is to actually pinch the exposed head of their own penis. It hurts for only a second, but it often helps to 'cool off' because it's so distracting.

Settle down, it'll be alright.

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