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*igerlily189
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now, and so far, we have a really good relationship. I'm just under the drinking age, but all my friends and his friends drink. I have sips of alcohol here and there at his house with just him, but only enough for a taste. I grew up in a very dry house. I have never seen anyone in my family drink, but there are recovering alcoholics on both sides of the family so the whole thing is "hush, hush." I have certainly been offered beers, quite often, but I always turn them down.I've been feeling more like I want to drink though. I am responsible about my job and relationships and other things in my life, and nobody ever gets really plastered when they come over for beers so I would feel safe about it. Nobody asks me if I want to anymore, but they would enjoy it a lot if I wasn't always the DD and 100% sober all the time. I just feel a little timid about asking for a drink when I know it will be a huge thing. I don't even know what my boyfriend will say, but my worst fear is he'll ask me why and I won't know what to say. I just want to, thats all. So, how can I go about this in the most mature way? Like I said, no one else in my family drinks so I don't even know who to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): The costs of alcohol outweigh any benefits received from it. Plain and simple. Therefore, its prudent to stay away from it just to avoid any potential risk. I havent found any fault whatsoever in this logic since Ive gone away from booze and I was never ever one to get typically hammered. Thats just so goddamn childish.F*** the norms of american society. Think about whats best for yourself. If you dont drink, you dont drink and people should respect that. And if they dont, tell them to f*** off and let you be yourself. Be firm with them cause people will try anything to get you to drink. A guy I knew once walked up to me and offered me a beer and I said no thanks I dont drink. He laughed and he said come on man you can have one. I took the bottle from him and threw it across the bar (away from ppl of course) and it broke against the wall and I looked at him and said firmly without raising my voice and said to him "Never offer me a beer ever again". Sometimes you need to do something extreme in order for ppl to get your point which is very sad. A kind respectful no thank you just doesnt do it so I do whats necessary to prove my point. To this day, I have good relations with the guy and he does not forget that nite. Youre a smart girl and dont let people pressure you, even if its your BF as you need to always think about whats best for your own personal well being.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Even if you are underage I think the mature way to go about this is to have a drink or two at the party but don't get wasted and make a fool of yourself. Younger people drink all the time and I'm not saying its a good thing but I think its way better when then do it responsibly and just have a few drinks here and there. I doubt your bf will ask why and if he does just say you want to have a drink with the rest of them.
You may be underage but you are old enough to handle yourself so there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to enjoy yourself in which ever way you please.
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