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writes:Hi! Okay, my boyfriend felt disappointed and decided to leave for good because I said that I was moving away. I stayed a while before I decided to move away because I thought he would come back and talk to me. I came to find out that he had a new girlfriend, and he left me without saying a word. Did I do something wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (31 January 2009):
 It sounds like he left because he thought that you were going and he didn't know how to hold onto you. Moving away was your idea and you wanted the move but he wasn't able to contend with a long distance relationship. It appears that you were a bit confused about the move being that you stayed longer. He made the choice to walk away thus leaving you without him.
Since he was no longer your boyfriend, he moved on. You stayed near him longer to keep the attachment you had with him . Obviously you didn't make your intentions plain. Now he has a new girlfriend and you feel cheated in some way. It hurts and you feel lonely and longing for your boyfriend. The bad thing is you didn't move and now you have lost him. Even worse, the chances at present to regain his compaionship is not good as he has another girlfriend now.
Perhaps he thought you were playing him and in some way trying to control his actions toward you. Whatever has happened you MUST figure out what it is that you REALLY want. To stay or go is your choice but if you stay, he may still be forever lost to you. If you love him and he loved you it may be worth your effort to stick it out. After all hon people DO make mistakes. NO ONE IS PERFECT! Pray about your situaion and ASK GOD to help you in making your decisions on how to handle this.
Don't forget that you shouldn't come between him and his new girl. It is'nt fair to him or her! You made the choice to leave and put him on a path to neverland. Decide on what you want and reflect on the past relationship. Realize your mistakes and in time hopefully you will be able to set things straight. At that point it will be UP TO HIM to either choose to go or to stay!@ Only time will truely tell. Be patient and forgiving with yourself and your ex.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Doesn't u moving away suggest u and him are over? If u wanted to keep him u should have said something. He isn't gonna stick around with someone who is moving away.
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