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writes:How do I cope with the sudden distance in our relationship without putting pressure on my boyfriend. My guy recently lost his mother and is coping with an ill father who is in and out of hospital, needing several visits per week. He has a full time job aswell as a time consuming band/music projects. We live an hour apart and over the last year of our 3 yr realtionship we have go much closer. We used to speak atound 3-4 times a day and got to the point where we were seeing much more of each other.I started a new job too which coincided with the loss of his mother. I cant really chat when im at work anymore and we now just speak twice a and it just feels different- more distant. Weekends are also coming under pressure and i think there will be a few when we dont see each other, which is hard when we dont see each other in the week and I had got used to he closeness between us which has taken a long time to get to.It was over a year and a break up later before he told me he loved me.I know i am insecure and he needs my support, but how can I prevent us drifting apart?
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Patience...understanding...support! That's all you can do during this difficult time in his life. Show him that you are there for him, no matter what!
Don't put added pressure on him...it will push him further away.
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