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writes:i dumped my gf cuz i didnt love her ...but deeply cared for her ...it took us 2 months to ease the addiction and we struggled a lot staying away from each other and broke all contacts for 2 months...so after 2 months of going back and forth when we both learnt to live without each other, i started to feel lonely and missed her compainionship a lot ...i avoided her too the core cuz she used to string even after the breakup cuz she feared of losing me ...so whenever we talked i became too emotional and told her that i miss her and was eager to meet her ...now she got a chance to come close to me by taking advantage of my lonliness and she has started texting me often like it was before...i broke her heart once, time healed her and now i am being too good to her once again(no intention of getting back guys, juz friendship )...now i again feel like running away from her and i analyse what will she feel and that will she ever trust me again...i fear about losing her and also i fear when i am close to her ...is it ok to show care to ur ex ?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 it is ok to care for your ex but you do have to be so careful with her because if you get too close for comfort she may interprit this for meaning you want to get back with and obviously again cause her heartache.
with her and the way you are caring for her you need her to know that you and her won't become another thing again without hurting her feelings, just politely tell her that you do care for her but just as friends. you don't want her to play on something she feels may turn into something a bit more than it's going to be.
Hope this helps hun :) x x x x good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): You are right, she will be devastated to know that you came back just to be friends with her and she wants more than that. But are you sure about this? You said you cared but not willing to go back. Ask yourself again, still caring for your ex most of the time means you still have feelings for her and it means you can still give yourself one more chance to be with her.
If indeed you just want friendship and she wants more..i think it would be best to be honest with her. If she doesn't accept that, then you have to let her go as you are not interested of what she wants. Just don't give her empty promises if you don't want her to get hurt again.
Hope this helps.
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