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writes:heres the scenario..We are both 16, in highschool, met when we were 14, have been dating for almost two years. I switched to a different highschool and we've been fine. I believe we are in love, we never have the stupid problems all of our friends have, and we always talk things out. We do have sex, and its always great. it does not affect our relationship negatively. We've never felt the need to breakup and we've never even had a fight where we have said that we don't love eachother. he assures me that he hasn't lost any feelings for me,and i feel the same way. Here's the deal..next year is senior year and he's going away to hockey prep school half way across the country..and we have decided we can stay together.Its not like it will be a completely new thing, we've gone two months without seeing each other. Do you think we will be able to last? I mean i've had all those stupid boyfriends and never felt like i was in love with them but he's way different ..and i believe it..i just don't want to be naive. please help!! especually if you knoww about LDR's!:( Reply to this Question
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reader, Louise-uk  +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Firstly, you do not seem naive. You seem very mature to be even thinking about these types of things.
I'm in a LDR and have been for a year now. My boyfriend lives on an island which is an hour flight away, and we can't see each other as much as we want.
Like the lady wrote before, we can't be sure that something will work or not. What we can do is put effort into giving it the best chance. For me, I have to try hard to fit in times when I can speak to my boyfriend. Sometimes I have to drop what I'm doing to speak to him as he's only free at certain times of the day. It can be a little annoying when you're busy, but relationships are never easy. You need to be prepared to put in some extra effort, but there is no reason why this cannot work.
Good luck! I hope this helps.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 November 2009):
Regardless if anyone knows about or has experience LDR's, they aren't all the same. There are some that last and some that don't. In your case, we can't fortell the future. However, based on your ages, it would be most likely that even if he wasn't going away long distance you two wouldn't last anyway. There are some relationships that last starting at a very young age, but that's rare.
So just let things take it's course. You two care about each other now and if you can make it last then that's good. If it doesn't then it sucks, but it's probably inevitable. So try not to worry about it too much for now, the more you worry, the more likely bad things will happen.
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