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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I had some rough patches and we broke up for about 2 months because he was "confused" and would rather party and drink with his friends then have a girlfriend. He was not just a casual drinker, he was an alcoholic and it bothered me. It was mainly what we fought about. The whole problem was that he was living in a house with 3 other guys who were drinking every night and having young girls over (who slept with the other 3 on a regular basis). He never cheated but it still bothered me since I was barely ever there. So 2 months later he finds out that I am the "one" and he cant live without me. He told me that he didnt do anything over the break and he was relieved to know that neither did I. He moved out of the house with the guys, completely stopped drinking everything to make me happy. I was about to take him back then he got a call from some chick saying that he got her pregnant. only then did he start crying and tell me that he kissed a few girls and slept with her once. He really regretted it and he just didnt want to loose me again. Ive been trying to forgive him but It just drives me nuts. the girl was only mad that he wasnt going to be with her so she lied about being prego. He was my first and up untill that point I was his only too. I want to still date him but I feel like I should have done something while I was single...or I compare myself to who he slept with. He stopped talking to all the girls i hate and deleted them from everythign in his life. He is doing everything possible to get me back and I do love him..and I dont want to break up but will I ever get over this? Will I ever shake the feeling that I need to go out and sleep with someone too? its been almost 2 months since we got back together.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (24 March 2010):
You need to get over this, or break up with him now. If you can't create a loving, warm and honest environment for your relationship to grow, kill it. Also, if he stopped drinking "for you" you have a serious future problem coming, as alcoholics must stop for themselves. Drunks who are untreated are still alcoholic and the disease progresses even w/o alcohol poured on it. Once alcohol is added the monster comes out like he never stopped. Nothing you can do about it, except take care of yourself and know that he's not a bad person and that he has a chronic and potentially life threatening illness that comes to light when he drinks.
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