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writes:I been wondering, if it's possible to be in love with the person through years if everything comes easily when love is mutual. Won't it bore you both with time? Or if the routine will ruin it?I always been looking for something more than usual routine, love with no limits, love which makes you be free, which helps you to reach your goals and inspires you. Is it possible to love when u are in routine and when nothing separates you from your lover? When he is same loyal as u are? when he cherish you and understands you?I been in relationships with guys, for years. They were perfect matches for me, but i always wanted something more...They were handsome, so it made other girls jealous, they were caring..I guess..like every girl wants her guy to be.(It was always strange to hear how the other girls sufferning from misunderstanding of their guys, i never knew what it was like. I guess i always was more selfish than my partners)But it always bored me. Once i felt in love,when i had some obstacles. And i still remember it as a greatest thrill in my live. something that i can talk for hours about, something that i still cherish.Can you tell me guys, will I ever be happy in stable relationships. or am I dreamer, or maybe i don't know what love is? but isn't it different for everyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Yeah, love is different every time for 1 person and differs between people too. I know everyone says this, and i used to roll my eyes at it, but you honestly will recognise it when you feel it truly. I was always like you - bored in relationships. I even got bored eventually with the dramatic ones, if the drama was always about the same kinds of things. My brother - who knows me better than anyone in the world - always said he couldn't picture me ending up married. He could see that it wouldn't work for me. I'd even get bored of sex with the same guy after a year or 2. But eventually I realised I didn't really want the super handsome ones that seem to be perfect. They're really not that perfect for everyone and especially not for someone like you, who needs variety in life. The guy I'm with now is just... right. I can't explain it and it'll be a different kind of guy for you than for me, but just keep living your life and be aware of different guys to your usual and I promise you, it will happen!
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Dear dreaming fellow, everyone has yearnt a big true love which is stunning, unbreakable and just simple perfect. Everybody does. But it's not easy to get one. There're so many defitions of love have been given by many people. Mostly they experienced from their own stories. It could be smooth, it could be rough. There's no right and clue to say how it could be with ourselves.
Getting bored with the routine, me bets many lads and lassies ever wish for a temporary madness. A burning flame. The feeling of it is just unstoppable and out of control. But that's the struck not love. It could lead to love if they together walk on the same path, been through years and years with what they call: a commitment. Love is calm and eternal. I ever wrote: Love could be a temporary madness. But that love could only be true when that madness became an immortality. That's what me myself has been thought about love.
I ever wrote love stories so call me a silly, dreaming and unpractical. But when you've been in each relationship, each situation, you feel love in different way. And yes, it's different for everyone. To myself for now i don't know what love is anymore. My problem is just i'm afraid of being in love again, afraid of being hurt and things.
When you're bored in a stable routine relationship, you wish for a more drama one. Once you're in a complicated love with dramas, you wish it could be just much simpler. That's just how people are. They always look for something else just because they're never satisfied with what they have.
Have you ever stayed calm and looked back? One of your guys has done beautiful things for you and it brought you a proper smile on your face? Felt something which they called: Happy? Don't look around much coz maybe something great is right beside you.
Love could be understanding, could be crazy, could be selfish, could be jealous or even could be just a sudden blink. It could be anything all depends on how you look at it and enjoy it.
I hope my opinion isn't too much unpractical! Hope you enjoy your life and could find your love of life soon! :)
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