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writes:I need advice. I'm 18 and I've know this guy, who's 20 since he was 16 and I was 14. We knew of each other but never really spoke when I was younger the age difference was daunting. I found him Facebook a few months ago, we chatted and exchanged numbers for a month we were head over heels for one another, to begin he was more into me than I was him but I fell for him quickly. I was the first girl he'd spoken to since he split with his ex (on and off since they were 13) but when we started speaking they'd been apart for 6 months he told me he was over her. She made him insecure, never paid him attention and whenever things got hard she bailed so they split twice. He assured me he wouldn't go back to be hurt again. As soon as she learnt about us she said she wanted him back. She said she'd felt like this since they split but why wait so long to tell him? Bit of a coincidence if you ask me. He told me he liked me wanted to be friends and we still talk but he wanted to give it another shot! I reasoned with him explaining that all the problems before and her insecurities arent going to disappear and this will cause a lack if trust and paranoia between them. and he said he knew that and completely understood where i was coming from so i dont know why he went back. He admitted to me though that until she said she still has feeling he was over her! I miss him soo much, do u reckon things will genuinely work Or do u think it's a matter of time before they split?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): He didn't talk about her though? The answer given doesn't make sense in relation to the situation he persued me. Asking for my number etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): The first sign he wasn't over her was that he talked so much about her!! Another sign was how quickly he sped up your relationship (rebound)! You got in the middle of two people who weren't over one another and still in love. I wouldn't analyze it but I would let go and find a guy who really wants you...he will be the one to come after you and not the other way around. It's a good rule not to chase guys and let them make things happen. When you try to hard it's like a switch that gets turned off and they lose interest quickly.
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