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female
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30-35,
*pendy
writes:*OP's own title*my friend always say shes gnnna come to my house..but then doesnt show.. and textts me late in the evening saying shes tired and making up excuses. shes done it 4times now.she invited me to a wedding yesterday.. i got ready waiting for her..she called me once i missed her call..she didn't call back..i saw the wedding pictures and i asked her what happened?? i was waiting she said i didn't answer so she i thoughtchanged my mind. i told her i was getting ready thats why i missed her call and i didn'tve credit to ring her back. she said it dont matter is done now!i think thats rude what she said. do you think am oveovereatingi mean she would have called till i answered if she really wanted me to come wont she??thnx...xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): You sound like a kind and caring person who values friendship, but maybe your friend does not place as much emphasis on the friendship as you do. It sounds like this might just be her personality and she is flaky, so if you make plans with her try to have other options in case she cancels. You can try talking to her about it, but unless she wants to change her ways there is not much to be done. Spend more time with other people and your friend will start to miss you and want to see you. Overall you deserve better and more dependable friends.
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reader, Steph. +, writes (21 March 2010):
There are a few ways to look at this.
1) Maybe your friend is just naturally laid back and didn't reliese how you found her behaviour as being rude. Prehaps if the roles were switched but still the same situation she wouldn't have minded and therefore thought you wouldn't either.
2) Maybe your friend was busy and therefore didn't have time to ring back, she might have forgotten to and felt bad after but finds it hard to apoligse so tired to make a joke out of it and tried to make you forget about it quickly.
3) Maybe she did want you to be there but did not desire your company as much as you wanted hers.
However, which ever it is weather its one of those three or not it does sound like you don't know your friend too well. Did you ask her why she didn't ring you back. If she is as easy going as that and you are the oppisite maybe you should hang out with another friend more, one who keeps in good contact and always sticks to their word.
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