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writes:I have been talking with my new love interest - a man who so far I like a lot.We have had at least 10 phone calls. I must say that I have initiated around 7 of these phones calls... I called him first. I made the last 3 calls... ending with him saying that he will get back to me. He answers and seems happy to talk with me. It's been 3 days and no phone call from him.Should I call him back? Our relationship is about a month old with sex one time. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): In psychology, what you're experiencing is called "limerence". You can Google this term and it would appear in Wikipedia. You should be able to work out what to do after reading the article.
good luck =)
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reader, onlinecounsellor_Dale  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 Relationships by their very nature need to be based on reciprocity and mutual interest. Right now it sounds like your relationship is not very reciprocal at all and, as a result, you are [understandably] unsure as to whether there is mutual interest.You explained that your love interest has said he'd get back to you. Let him. The ball is clearly in his court.In the meantime, get on with other aspects of your life. Do things and spend time with people that make you feel good about yourself.I hope you hear from him but, if you don't, take heart! It is better that you learn of his disinterest/indifference now (rather than after having invested further time and energy into the relationship), and move on. I hope this helps!Kind regardsDale
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reader, xdarkendhopex +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Don't call him. Wait for him to call you. Be the man. Haha, pretend it doesn't bother you, him not calling all the time.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (2 February 2008):
 I think you should not contact him and see if he initiates any kind of contact. If he does not then he wasn't really all in this relationship anyway. I know these are hard words to hear but they were said to me long ago and I didn't listen. Instead I continued to drag this guy into a relationship that he was ok with but not over the moon for. So, in the end, I am the one who got hurt and now I am going to lay low and he can see what he's missed. This must be the new guy thing to let the woman drive in the relationship but really we can not let them be so lazy. They need to put a stake in the relationship too. I have to tell you I was most likely totally in love with my guy so if you tell me you really care for him, I know what you are feeling. But really, you need to test him by letting him contact you. Keep him guessing about how in demand you are. You'll be more of a catch for him.
You take care. I wish you luck with your relationship.
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