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writes:I have been dating this guy for 2 months. It's not normal dating....we are together 4 to 5 nights a week. He has met my family, I have met his, he has come to work functions with me, he is talking vacations in 5 months....yet he will not label me his girlfriend...he says we are working up to it. Am I wrong for being upset? Reply to this Question
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reader, gina02 +, writes (6 May 2010):
gina02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for answering....I needed some other opinions and appreciate it. We did talk and I told him if its not broken why fix it...he admitted he was hurt and wanted to get to know the real me before he jumped in. I get that...so I am enjoying just being us....without a title.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 May 2010):
 I agree with Caring guy. Its new and he wants to make sure a 100% before he goes to that next level with you.
Just because you're pace is faster doesn't mean he should speed up his to catch up with you.
I say enjoy your time together. If he doesn't claim you by 8-12 months, then it's time to look elsewhere. End the relationshp and move on because by that time he should know. And if he's not claiming you as his girl, that means he's just not that into you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 May 2010):
At 2 months, even with all your dating it's still quite early to be saying something like that. I suspect you might find that he's been hurt before and is being very careful at the moment not to ruin it. Give him more time. You're dating, you're spending time together and you're having a great time. Don't be worried about something that is, at this moment, not so important. If at 5-6 months he's still not saying it, then you need to be a bit more aware.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Some people are slower to put labels on things. You can take solice in the fact that to his an your friends, you're dating, and therefore BF and GF. Give him time. Some people don't like labels.
Something you can try is introducing him to someone as your BF and see how he reacts. Good luck and I wouldn't sweat this. Just enjoy the newness of your relationship.
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