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writes:I have been going out with this awesome guy for near two years and we adore each other. He constantly tells me he misses me if we don't see each other for a few days, he makes me meals, he takes me to places I've never been before and he's affectionate and constantly thankful for me being in his life. Problem is, he's never vocally called me his "girlfriend" to me or any one else, he claims his parents still think he's a virgin (at age 31!) so I have to leave his house before they get to his house if I spent the night. So lately I've been wrestling my feelings within myself that I love him but am afraid to share these feelings with him especially if he hasn't acknowledged me as his girlfriend. Lately I find myself in crying spells because I feel like a fool, then I mentally want to punch him when he looks into my eyes and tells me I'm the best thing thats happened to him in a long time. I swear to God (sorry for swearing) that if he doesn't acknowledge me as his girlfriend soon or tell me he loves me, I will leave him. I don't know what to do but I don't want to do something I'll regret. Any advice is muchly appreciated. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, teal22 +, writes (14 February 2009):
I agree with britt429, definitely tell him how you feel! You have been seeing each other for 2 years, it is way past time for him to make a commitment. And if you know you love him, you should tell him. There is no reason you should hide it or be ashamed of how you feel. Loving someone is a very powerful thing and not to be wasted. So if he feels the same way, you have something really special. And if he doesn't, leave him. You deserve someone who deserves you and who won't waste your time.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (22 December 2008):
 The answer to your question is that he is not willing to make a commitment to you. For whatever reason. If you know a good salesman you might ask him/her about "the commitment pattern" and think about how you can apply it to your relationship. At 31 it is time for him space and it appears you need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Tell him how you feel! Open those lines of communication! He sounds like a bit of a "mama's boy," if at 31 years old he is afraid to live his own life! Something doesn't sound right...I don't get it!
Maybe we need more details...but you need to let him know how you feel.
See what his reaction is and take it from there!
Meanwhile, enjoy all the great things he does do!
Good Luck
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