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36-40,
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writes:This guy, who I got on really well with and had a fairly good idea liked me, as in he was flirty, made an effort to talk to me etc, invited me to go out with him and a couple of other people this Fri. Don't know the other people well.At the time, I had plans and said I couldn't make it, but my plans changed so I mailed him back casually saying that I was free afterall and would be up for going for a drink with him and the others, and asked him to let me know if they were still meeting.Emailed him early-ish on Tuesday on his work email, I know he must have read it, purely because its work and he's on the computer all day at his office.... but he still hasn't replied.How can it take that long to reply?I don't like to be kept waiting, if we are going to go out on Friday then I want to know now, its Wednesday and if its not happening, I can make other plans instead so I'm not bored on Friday evening!I guess people will probably say, just make other plans anyway?But I don't wanna make other plans cos if he tells me tomorrow/Fri that its on, then I'd have to cancel on him....After all, him inviting me, me saying no, then saying yes, then him confirming and me then cancelling, would just be silly! And I'm pretty sure he wouldn't invite me out again cos he'd think I was messing him around?!SO. Why take ages to reply to an email. Is it game playing or what, its so annoying. Whats his problem?
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Have you ever thought that he's probably too busy to reply? Seriously, there are people who really have a life and better things to do, you know - first things first. When he finishes work, he'll eventually reply. That's the good view on this situation. On the other hand he's probably not interested in replying you, since you said no from the beginning, now you changed your mind, he could also be thinking you're just messing with him, so he just got over it.But my guess is that, after he's done working or finishes his important things, he will reply. And yes, don't wait for him to say "yes, we're still meeting and it would be a pleasure to see you too", maybe he never will. You have a life, you have friends so make plans with them, and when he replies, you make a decision: go out with him or go with your plans. It shouldn't be that hard, I think you stress yourself too much over this, since, I presume, you've recently met this guy, so it's a normal behavior from him. The ball is in his court, so he's either interested or uninterested in getting in touch with you again.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): You might have been alittle presumptuous to assume just because you couldn't go that he didn't invite someone else or that he didn't decide to go do something else. Just like you, other people like to know their weekend plans. It would have probably been more polite if you had apologized for the confusion and hoped it wasn't too late and if it was you understood. He may have gotten the impression you expect people to jump to accomodate you. He will probably respond but you'll just have to relax and understand that it was only your plans that fell through and only you are in a bind and that's why you are so impatient. Be annoyed at the person that cancelled on you for friday, not him!
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