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writes:I"m gonna make this as short as possible: I like this guy at my college who is also a close friend. I have only told 2 people about this because 1. I don't want the whole school to know and 2. because no one actually thinks I'm being serious!! People say I'm too hot for him. I'm just one of those girls who (might look hot and go to clubs a lot) but on the inside I'm not like what everyone thinks I am. He is very outgoing and confident but he doesn't go to clubs at all and is also very conservative. I know that it wouldn't even cross his mind that I might like him but I want to let him know! What should I do? I want him so bad!! Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Yes, there is no reason why you shouldn't make the first move. Invite him with you on a cup of coffee or to see a movie, or ask if he wants to hang out one time and get his phone number and start texting him.
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reader, Odds +, writes (2 June 2011):
 There's no reason not to ask him out. No one would look down on you, and he may very well respond positively to it. At the very least, it demonstrates your own confidence, to yourself and others.
That said, I know most girls really, really prefer to be asked out and pursued, rather than do it themselves. But you can take active steps to make him ask you. If he doesn't take the hint, you can always ask him out later.
Go talk to him and flirt. Talk about the things you like about him, or how you've enjoyed talking to him the times you have and think it'd be nice to get to know him better. Pat him on the chest when he makes you laugh once or twice. Play with your hair a little. Maintain eye contact the whole time. He'll most likely get the message eventually and ask you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): It's 2011, not 1950.
If you like the guy, ask him out. The worst he can do is say no and then all you are is back where you started.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): Ask him out. There is no reason you shouldn't.
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