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Why should I live my life virtually alone while my husband spends most of his spare time with his friend?

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Question - (31 October 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 November 2008)
A age 30-35, * writes:

I have been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years. We have a 6 yr old, a 2 yr old, and a 2 month old baby. I am an at home mom also trying to help out with the business my husband just started.

I have been having a problem lately with my husband always wanting to go hang out over at his friends house. This is not a mutual friend, I have only meet him 2 or 3 times and my husband has know him for 1 yr 1/2. I am never invited to go hang out at this friends house and the friend has only been to my house once. My husband doesn't see any problem with the fact that the friend doesn't want to have a BBQ or do anything with all of us. My husband will go over to this friends house either before he comes home from work or after he gets home from work, a couple or more times though out the week.

Now, because my husband works odd hours he sometimes doesn't get home until 7:30pm, turn around and leave around 8:30pm , and not get home until 12:30 or 1:00 am. He has been doing this for a while now. I try to tell him how I feel and the fact that we have a young family that it bothers me that he goes out so much. He tells me to stop talking about it and that I am over reacting. He says that he doesn't have to let me get to know his friends and to butt out.

Am I over reacting to the fact that my husband also values his friends feelings and opinion more than mine? Am I crazy for not liking the fact that my husband hangs out with this friend all of the time? Please help me! I am really getting tired of living my life this way and I would like to get some input from different people. Thank You.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008):

I had to change my user name but I wanted to say thank you for all of your answers. I am going to do some further investigation.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank You.

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A female reader, lopikult United States +, writes (31 October 2008):

I'm assuming he;s not doing anything sexual there and that he is really at a guys house,. Now find stuff to do on your own and if htat so happens to clash with his business so be it let him know that you need leadership from him and that a business requires a schedule so schedule in your work time with the kids, and then your time with the company and your free time and see that if you go out he gets at least some of the kids and all

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