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*jmanny64
writes:My GF's mate is trying to control our relationship all the time and I'm not going to let her. Well thing is I like to spend money on my GF, so me and her went shopping the other day and I spent a bit on her, other thing is we spend nearly every day with each other.Well her mate got annoyed about me spending money on her, but to be honest thats my money and nothing to do with her at all, ill spend it on who I like, shes not my personal banker so why is she trying to step in? And also she got annoyed that she always spends time with me and not her, I've told my GF she can go out with your mates anytime that she wants, she doesnt have to spend every day with me at all. Why is she trying to control our relationship???It really annoys me so much!
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reader, djmanny64 +, writes (1 August 2008):
djmanny64 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice, I've told her about her and my GF aint taking a liking to her and aint really talking to her because shes annoyed her. And no she aint in same age group shes 21 and were 17
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Is your GF's friend in the same age group you're in? ...for that matter, I assume that your GF is too... assuming all that's true, this is a clear cut case of youthful jealousy! The friend is annoyed that you're monopolizing all her best friend's time, even if you've said you don't mind of she goes hangs out with other people. You're seen as "stealing her friend away." In short, you're a threat to that friendship. If she makes your road harder, then there's a chance that she might win back all of attention. Or if she can make you look bad, then your GF might spend more time with her and not with you. It's a bit competitive here.
What can you do about it? Actually, not much. You could share this piece of information with your GF and she might be able to tone down her friend, but if you approached her, that might backfire on you. You don't want to be perceived as the guy that drove a wedge between your GF and her friends.
Jealousy is a hard thing to deal with. It's the result of spite, insecurity issues, stuff like that. It's best to bring it to your GF's attention and try to let her deal with her friend than you stepping in between them. It's ultimately, not about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): She's jealous, she thinks your taking her mate away. The thing is that your not, it's your g/f problem. Like you said, she dosen't have to spend every day with you. You could tell the g/f mate this, put the blame on your g/f which it is.
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