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writes:My girlfriend and I have been going through a tough time for the past month, we do not live together but been a couple for 14 months now. She works 2 jobs and we do not get to see each other very often, and it is now starting some friction, when we first started dating this was not an issue, she would take any opportunity she had to see me, as would I to her, we smiled, laughed, had fun, said sweet things, but now it seems to be going away on her end, there are times she does not want to come over or have me come over, but says she misses me, there are times we are together and its just not the happy joyful times we had early on, we love each other, and know we do. I have tried to talk to her about this and it just starts a fight or we just let it go. At times I feel she has lost interest in me, even though she says she has not, but at times she gets excited about celebrities or firemen, which makes me feel im not making her happy. I love this girl, I want it to work because there are many great things about her, and we have already shared some wonderful memories. I just want that fun back Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (6 December 2008):
 You sound a bit jealous and paranoid about 'celebrities and firemen'. They are the unreachable people so nothing to worry about, thats how the celebraties make their money by the millions showing an interest in what they are up to and the fantastic life they lead. Put that out of your mind and work on the reality of the relationship. If she's doing two jobs she is probably glad of the time to go home and relax with no responsibilities. If you want to see more of her then it may be a good idea to share homes. Relationships always dwindle a bit after a while anyway. I'ts up to you both to keep a bit of the sparkle going, but it does take two. Are you comfortable just doing normal things together like hanging out, or do y ou have to be having full blown active 'dates'. If you are comfortable why dont you suggest just having her tea ready one night when she gets in from her second job, and let her put her feet up. You may be demanding too much but not realizing it. hope this helps.
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