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writes:So me and my husband have been together for three and a half years and married for two! I lost my virginity to him after we had been dating 5 months, but before me he dated a girl off and on for 2 years and they lost their virginities to eachother but their relationship was over by our sophmore year and we started dating our junior year! He is acting like hes not even interested in me anymore! He never wants to have sex and when i finally talk him into it he always wants me to be on top and he doesnt even get into it! He doesnt hold my hand or hug or kiss me anymore, i cant even remember the last time he did! I dont know what to do, im getting so frustrated! Is there any way to save this marriage? Why would he be acting like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNothing really i just put that in here to let you know he was my first and i wasnt his, incase that had to do with something! Ya im going home for a month in 3 days! Thank you for your help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): I dont see what his previous relationship has to do with this. Sounds to me like he's gotten too used to having you around and is taking you for granted. Take a vacation away from him and see if he starts missing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYa i have asked him a couple times and he denies it and tries to change the subject! Ill try again! Well he worries about his dad alot...hes more like a dad to him than a son! He has got a really good traveling job and ive been with him but im going home for 3 weeks and at first he acted like he was glad and now i leave in 3 days and hes acting like he doesnt want me to go!? Thank you so much for your help!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Have you talked to him about this and what's going on? Something is clearly happening in his head, and it's worth talking about to make your marriage work. The best way to find out why he's acting like this is to ask. Don't be confrontational, and try not to burst into tears and ask him when you're miserable. If you want honesty and openness, you have to approach this in a solid mindset.
You did get married young, and perhaps he's having a mini-crisis, having an internal flip out because he's worried he didn't sow his wild oats as a young'n. He may have a lot on his mind, or perhaps he's distracted by other areas of life. Is anything else major happening in your lives?
He's disconnecting from you, and it's for a reason. So have an honest talk and find out what's going on.
Good luck, sweetness!
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