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writes:I briefly dated this guy after finishing school. We fell really hard for each other and he told me he loved me very quickly. It was only a summer romance, as he had to move out of the state after a few weeks but told me he still wanted the relationship because he loved me so much. At first, the long distance thing worked and he even said that he was planning on coming to see me soon. Then all of a sudden, that day same day, he completely ignored me and deleted me from everything. He didnt even answer his phone so I wrote him an angry message. He said that he really couldnt handle the distance and wasn't in love with me like he thought. Now, about six months later, he writes me out of the blue and says that he is sorry about what happened and he still feels really bad about it. What am I supposed to do with this? Does he miss me or something?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 I guess he has finally realised that the way he behaved was completely out of order and he now feels bad. I always say when someone tells you they love you very early on then you should always be cautious because it means that they throw the word around without truly knowing how they feel, and off course he proved this to be true when he decided he was unsure about how he felt about you.
Long distance is very hard to deal with, some couples who have been together for years don't make it through long distance never mind flings so yes it is hard. You need two people to work really hard for it, and I guess his feelings where just not strong enough to put in the effort.
Whatever you do, don't read in to him contacting you now to much. Don't get your hopes up that he has changed his mind. It sounds like he does not know how he feels, therefore he is probably one of these guys who blows hot and cold all the time. But it sounds to me like he just wants to see how you are getting on and wants to tell you that he is sorry for the way he treated you, I guess it is up to you now if you want to reply back to him or not.
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