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writes:My man dont treat me right, when we first met he used to bring me roses all the time not just on valentine's day or my birthdays, now he acts as if I dont exist, I am geting really fustrated with him, I been with him for seven years now and dont want to lose him, but I do not know what to do, me and him been engaged for four years now and he wont marry me I want to get married to him when I ask him when will he marry me he just say soon or why are you not wearing the ring, what should I do if he keep this up?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone I am greatful for all the wonderful responses... THANKS A BUNCH.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your advices or opinions its all great.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Tell him it's time to shit or get off the pot. After four years unless you've had some kind of major issue there should be a wedding scheduled and money saved up. Now he is settled and taking you for granted. Time to wake him up!
I am usually not in favor of ultimatums, but I think after all this time he needs one. Give him six months to move forward on marriage by setting a firm date or the relationship is up for negotiation, and then (this is the important part) STICK TO IT. If he is still sitting on his butt after six months you move on and get your life together without him.
In the meantime, start dating each other again. Get dressed up for nights out and both of you plan things to do. Go on a little vacation together. Bring back the excitement that was there in the beginning and renew your relationship. If he doesn't want to get up and go out, go by yourself. Show him why he was chasing after you in the first place.
Good luck.
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reader, superali752  +, writes (26 July 2009):
you need to show him more love, some men expect the women to treat him the same way as they treat her... think of your past years, what did he used to do? what did he used to do to make u happy and show u love? what were the things he did for u that were really really special? u need to think all these stuff and find a way to give him as much love as possible and do something special to make him happy. try different things try to give him as much attention and time as possible, try to get his attention. some men show a lot of love in first few years e.g like u said he used to bring roses all the time now he doesn't... he might be fed up of doing all this and if u want his attention again then u have to work on it as i told u. try to show him so much love that u haven't showed before or haven't showed in a long time.
if nothing works maybe he is busy with something? maybe he doesn't have time?
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