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anonymous
writes:Hello there!I've got a bit of boy trouble, I'm 16 by the way..to make a long story short basically I was seeing this lad we weren't officaly going out but we practically were because we were only seeing each other we just hadn't committed to the "relationship status". I was seeing him since the end of November until now (the middle of January) and we got on really well and I even brought him 2 the school winter ball, he was such a gentleman and was different than other lads I've been with, he treated me really really well and was just different. Now we didn't see each other alot but we were constantly texting. But then all of a sudden after the x-mas break and when we were all back to school he just changed and gave me the cold shoulder like he wouldn't text me and it just went really awkward between us which confused me because it wasn't like him and it made me wanna talk to him more then.We finally met up to talk about things and he just said to me that he "couldn't see us happening" and he "didn't think it would work out between us" and he didn't wanna "be in a serious relationship" and I asked "why didnt he think it would work" and i said that "i didnt wanna serious relationship either i was just wantin' a bit of fun as well" and all he could say back to me was "I dont know why, something just snapped with me in my head and i just can't see us happening" and he said "i just go like that at tiem abd i dont know why", this upset me 'cos he didnt even give me a proper excuse why..ya know? he said he still wanted to be good friends and all that as we do have alot of friends that we would both be mates with... but what do u think i should do? because i do want him back but this time i wanna take things slow should i just get good friends with him first and play hard to get or what? and also do you think his answer to why he didnt wanna see me anymore was valid or was he just letting me down easy? Do you think he did it cos he has his eye on another girl? (even thought he didn't seem lyk he did when he was talking to me) he just seemed like he didnt know what he wanted it was like he hadn't been in a relationship before so he thought it all had to be serious and committed. All this happened on friday and then saturday night I went to the cinema and he was there with his friends but he came over and talked to us and all but it was kinda awkard and he was playin with his drink alot and shuffling his feet and turned towards me when we were all talking as well and when he went back to his friends he kept looking over and trying not to make it obvious but I just kept my back turned to him and laughed and chatted away... what do you think that could mean? Does he still like me?I really could go on for ages asking questions but I'll stop now and I'd really appreciate any advice I get back. thanks for reading and thanks for your advice.=] .Xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks 4 the advice!=] But i really like this lad and he isn't like others he treated me well i think he's just scared of a relationship ya know?yea my friends said that ta me as well he does like me but he's scared of serious stuff..i unno how to show him it doesnt have to be all hot and heavy though..:-/
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): u sound like a lovely girlhe prob does like you but doesnt wanna commit to you. its nothing to do with you as a person.. im going through the same thing. go find another guy, u deserve much more =) x
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