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writes:Ok, this is going to be kind of a long one...Sorry.Basically I go to college and i was at our student bar one night where i noticed this guy. We started chatting and walked home the same way a few times and really got on and i really liked him. This all went on for a few weeks and he got to know my friends and i got to know his and it was all going really well.Then one night at the bar he tells me he has a girlfriend which is complete news to me. I make it clear to him that i'm not going to be that kind of girl to break them up and just want to remain friends despite how crippling it is to hear he's seeing someone.Everything seemed cool but then i find out that he's broken up with her. We went out in a group of friends a few weeks after and we ended up making out and having a really great night together. Things then got a lil dodgy and he seemed difficult to contact and everything.Then we had our summer ball, so i decided it was a good time to sort things out once and for all. He didn't want to speak to me that night and walked away when i went to talk to him. I next see him talking to his ex and they are both looking my way. I was completely mortified and left. We're now all on summer and i haven't spoken to him since the ball. He then pops up on IM and apologises for being an idiot saying that it was a difficult situation and he's sorry for what he did and then just started talking to me about my summer. It was completely out of the blue after no contact for ages.Why is he choosing to apologise now? Does he just want to be friends because we're going back to college or does he want something more? It's all really confusing because now i don't know how to act when i see him next. I dont think she's in the picture at all and my feelings for him are still as strong...what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Seems like he gave it a shot withhis ex. They broke up and he feels lonely so he's running back to you hopping he has a shot. It's not as complicated as he tries to make it seems. Plain and simple dude liked her more than u, she dumped him and now wants back on anyone as a rebound and since he's already put on a bit of time and work on you, he sees u as an easy target. What you want to do will be your decision, this is just what I think is going on. Go on by what you feel, but if u want to test him don't let him get any wink wink or much of a kiss and see if he sticks around or goes for a new girl.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 He was probably thinking the situation over in his head. Maybe it took him this long to figure out how it affected you. The fact of the matter is, he did apologize and that means he cares. It MIGHT mean he wants something more, assuming he'd been thinking about how that affected you.
I hope that helps.
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