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writes:Why is this?After my husband cheated on my and after almost a year of ending it. He started talking to her again with the excuse to see is they could be only friends. Then he stoped contact for a while and I found out what he did. He did not tell me. Anyways why when I found out he wanned to have sex with me? is weird he screwed up by contacting her and then 3 hours later he wanned sex. Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Hello again.
He was trying to have sex with you, just to see if he still had control of you, and try to bypass the situation he was in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): No, it's not weird that he wanted you sex with you then; he is in a highly sexually charged situation, after all. When my husband was having an affair, we had great sex!
You have to decide for yourself whether his infidelity has hurt your relationship too much for you to feel comfortable with him. If he is loving and respectful to you in other ways, it may not have to be the end of the line, but only you can decide that. By the way, the word 'cheat' is a very highly charged word; some people cheat, some people fail to live up to an ideal - only you know where your husband is on that one.
By the way, I have to disagree with the other two posts about delivering an ultimatum that he should never have contact with the other person. How would you police it, for one thing? And if he really is a cheat, would you actually believe that he isn't contacting her, even if he isn't?
Good luck - and follow your own heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy question really is why does he wants sex in the middle of the whole situation and when I confront him? I greatly appreciate your answers.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (1 November 2007):
Hello.
it seems that it is to late to nip this in the bug, you really need to set ground rule with this guy,you need to discuss this issue and tell him that this has to stop, it is hurting you and your marriage, your his wife and he should not be with this woman in any shape or form, the time as come for him to cut all ties with her, and you must not let this carry on any longer,do not take no for answer, make him see what type of cheat he really is, if he listens to you then things may work out,but if they dont then you really have to get tough with him, maybe fear of divorce may put him back into shape, you should not have to put up with this behavior.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 You guys have issues to resolve. He just wanted to see if they could be friends? I hope you're not buying such a stupid excuse.
One thing that is highly recommend when someone cheated is they no longer, ever and ever have contact with the person they cheated with.
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