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writes:My boyfriend of 2 years and I usually have a normal sex life, but for the last 3 weeks we haven't had sex once. I know I could initiate it, but I feel like if he REALLY wanted to have sex I wouldn't have to. He usually has a higher libido than I do. I asked him if anything's wrong, and he honestly seemed baffled as to why I'd even ask that. When I mentioned the lack of sex, he didn't seem to understand why I was so worried about it.I'm not worried about him breaking up with me, but what reasons could there be for this? I didn't think men had lapses in sex drive like we women can.Anyway, I'm going kind of crazy here for lack of sex. I tend to get kind of irritable without it and now that's starting to cause problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the rational and reassuring responses! I suppose I am overreacting a bit. Anyway, both answers were very helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): My boyfriend and I were just talking about his last night. He told me that some guys sex drives just fluctuate depending on whats going on in their lives. He said that it usually has nothing to do with the girl, or his feelings for the girl, it's just a natural occurance. Although it sucks for us girls when this happens all we can do is stick it out or buy a good toy. I suggest talking to him about your feelings and needs. Maybe he could open up to you then about whats going on with him thats causing him not to be in the mood.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (22 February 2009):
 sometimes relationships go through patches of less sex rather than more - when you both know you can have it, you tend not to want it perhaps...well..clearly you do want it, and you are worried about him not wanting it, but perhaps he thinks the same as you - if she wanted it, she'd initiate it?? There is nothing wrong with you initiating it, if you're in the mood, perhaps that will turn him on all the more and you may further contribute to him initiating it more because of it. Try spicing it up a little, let him know you're in the mood, make the first step - don't make the mistake of letting it become a big issue, because then it'll kill the moment in the future.
Good luck!
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