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writes:I'm a good looking, outgoing latina who is highly attracted to white men. My question is, why is it that they'll check me out - but not approach me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Now I am married...
But if I had met a white guy before I had been married I would have been intimidated.
The cultures wouldn't match.The food habits are different.Our dating habits are different.
I am sure the other guy would have felt the same way too.
A guy from London had come to our office.On a Team outing he tried to hug and take a picture.I freaked out...That's the extent of the cultural differences between a white and non-white person.We all had a good laugh about it later on.
After I read your question and the answers,I feel the white guy might feel intimidated by you too.
Next time when a white guy checks you out,smile.A smile speaks a million words than a mouth ever could.
When you smile make sure your smile starts from the eyes.
Good looking girls always get checked out.After you guys start talking,its your personality that's going to get him attracted to you.Not the Skin Color.
All the Best Dear.Keep us posted..
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (8 December 2008):
 I have the opposite problem, I'm North American, but I love latino men. I have loads of Mexican friends... I went to university in Mexico and it's the most wonderful culture, in my opinion.
A lot could depend on where you live. It's 2008 and there's nothing wrong with dating outside your "race" or ethnicity, but where I live... this has escaped the attention of most people. In a town like Austin, you see diversity... blacks and whites date, and it's not looked upon as a big deal... and it shouldn't be. In a town more accepting of diversity you will have better luck with guys.
I despise racism, but it's natural that I love latin guys because I feel an acceptance and belonging in latin culture that I didn't get in North American culture (which is cold).
Unfortunately a lot of people have this notion that you're "supposed to" be with "your own kind." However, there are exceptions... you just have to find that person who is open minded, and go places where you will meet people who have common interests. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): Great answers from everyone.. I have the same problem meself. I'm black, and it's very rare for a white guy to approach me, even if I know he's interested, cause he keeps looking at me. Of course it's all down to stereotypes about different people and their cultures. It's the 21st century so we all have to change. Break down the barriers that keep us apart, forget about staying in your corner and watching the guys you like walk past. If you like a guy, go and tell him hello. You can breakdown the distance between you and white guys, by being friendly and giving them an opportunity to get to know you. Don't wait, go out and grab life (or men) by the balls... lol
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reader, Sir_Skrall +, writes (29 November 2008):
well, i'm white. i dont know who you are so... i guess there is no harm. most white people get scared when they like a...*gulp* black person and they just dont know how there friends will react. so, i like it when women approach me so... approach him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): Maybe they just assume you aren't interested. It is okay for you to approach them! This is the 21st century. We no longer have to wait to be approached.
Have the confidence to make the first move!
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reader, daver +, writes (29 November 2008):
Intimidation. I am basically a white male your age. I am half hispanic, but people view me as caucasion my entire life. Plus I dont look hispanic. I am also french and english. I have dated white, black, and latino in my life and there definitely are some differences, but, speaking from experience, its the make up of the person that was consistent throughout and the cultural diversity was just an added benefit. Its stereotypes that keep people from approaching you. It is true that latino women are stignatized with being overreactive and overemotional. Personally, I look at it as passionate and confident. My best friend is Puerto Rican and his mother said that culturally, latinos are brought up with a distinct set of values and self respect. For anyone, those two things will always promote confidence and a promoted sense of what is right and wrong in life, overall, AND what personally pertains to you. What is right for you , and what isnt. I think those are awesome qualities and its unfortunately up to you to present those qualities to others and hope that the ones that matter will see you through these stereotypes. Please feel free to contact me if I can help in any way.
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reader, Kissmyazz +, writes (29 November 2008):
Just so you know I am not here to offend anyone I am just speaking the truth. I am a white female with a lot of Latina friends. I have heard that some men think that Latinaz have a certain attitude I guess. I don't think this way but I just wanted to put it out there for ya. Best of luck with the white boys! =0)
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (29 November 2008):
 There can be many reasons. I guess every man has a different reason NOT to approach a girl. I assume some of them had girlfriends, others were just passersby, et cetera. Then some must have found you attractive but were not attracted to you, et cetera. You get the point.
Being good looking doesn't mean you get someone to love you.
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