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writes:I am a 20-year-old girl. I don't know why, but I have no interest in dating or being "in love." I used to get crushes and feel a desire to be close to certain people, mentally and emotionally at least, but that never happens any more, and hasn't for nearly a year. (Last time something like this happened I got rejected by a friend, ouch, still kicking myself that I said anything about it at all, so maybe it's better that it never happens anymore, but...) I also feel very little to no sexual attraction towards anyone. Always assumed I was a late bloomer but after 20 years I don't know if it's ever going to change.I'm in college, "surrounded by potential boyfriends" as one of my friends recently told me, and I've even been pursued by guys I find objectively attractive and intelligent, but I have no interest in starting anything with any of them. The whole dating thing seems pointless and like far more trouble than it's worth to me. I know a guy who's had three girlfriends in as many months, and a girl who's looking for a boyfriend just so she won't be single, and it makes me lose my faith in people a little bit. Seriously... why? I don't understand.I'm not repressing my feelings, or choosing to ignore feelings in favor of focusing on other things right now. It's like both my ability and my desire to have feelings for people have completely disappeared. I'm starting to feel like a freak about it. :( What's going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): I guarantee one day out of the blue you will meet someone and bam out of the blue you will be like wow.I felt the exact same way as you up till I met my boyfriend.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 February 2013):
Maybe you're asexual. If it doesn't bother you then you'll probably be fine. You'll be like the guy in the 40 year old virgin with all the hobbies.
Not wanting a relationship is normal, sometimes they can be a hassle. But not being attracted to people is the strange thing.
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