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writes:Also, he has a female friend which I have no problem with. But, he has never introduced me to her. He talks to her frequently and says that she is her friend. But, has not found the need to introduce her to me. He said that his ex wife was jeleous of her and could not stand her but that they never had any reason for that because they were always good friends and co-workers. I tell him that he should invite her for dinner or even to the wedding. Why doesn't he want me to meet her?
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reader, Garm +, writes (23 November 2009):
He knows you'll be able to tell that there's something going on. They may not be intimate, but one of the two has feelings, and the other enjoys the flattery/control. Maybe both have feelings, but if they did they would probably be together. Either way it's an unhealthy situation. If you were to see them interact you would be able to tell--His ex wife could obviously tell. Who do you think knows him better: you or his ex? Let me tell you a story: I had a similar situation with my ex girlfriend. We were together for 4 and a half years. She got a new job and started talking about thus guy friend she worked with all the time. I told her I didn't want her hanging out with him unless I was invited. She said I couldn't meet him because we just wouldnt get along but that there wasn't anything to worry about because he was ugly and not relationship material (both are true). A few months later I found out she was sleeping at his apartment regularly, broke up with her, and were the next day she started seeing him. they didn't work our, but she still insists they're "best friends" even though it's obvious that he is pathetically trying to get her back (always) and she revels in the attention of it, even humors him sometimes, it seems. It's sick, but they both get something out of it.I think you're situation is the same.
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