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writes:I have a guy friend and we joke around but I like him as a friend. He teases and makes jokes about me. The other night I think he'd been drinking. He came up to me and was trying to get my attention. I asked him what he wanted and he said he wanted to know how I was doing. He told me hi, that he wanted to talk to me, and that he wanted us to be friends, and that he was in love with me. When I told him he was being weird and a bit ridiculous he said he was kidding. Sometimes he can be sweet especially when it's just us. I feel as if he is flirting or testing me but I don't understand why he is like this when he has a Girlfriend! What do you think is going on? I really enjoy his company but only as a friend! I don't want drama, bad karma, ror am I the type to mess up a relationship
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Sometimes the boundaries can get a little blurred especially with guys, as most of us tend to "look" and some take it further with cheating and sleeping around.
I think there's always a tendency with guys to flirt around with girls they know because its easier and a relationship has already been built. Sometimes that gets worse if the guy's own relationship is not going so well or there's been arguments or tension.
They let off their frustration and try to "get their own back" on their girlfriend by flirting around with other women just to feel wanted and get a thrill.
I suggest you remind him clearly where those boundaries are especially if it's likely to mess up relationships.
Talk to him and find out what's really going on.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 His relationship is already messed up. That is nothing to do with you.
It is very simple. The guy has a girlfriend, but has fallen in love with you. He is trying to see whether you like him, as well.
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Sounds he like used the excuse of him being drunk to get the truth out of you. If he was in fact testing you, then all he got out of it was "you're being weird and a bit ridiculous."
Remain his friend and keep it as simple as that. Don't give him the impression at any point that you are flirting back if he continues to flirt. It's wrong that he's doing that if he has a girlfriend.
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