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writes:My question is simple, Why Does it hurt so much when my ex says she is sorry for what she has done to me? I thought I would feel better but it just hurts and brings back all these emotions. Like to keep things quick and short, we broke up over a year and a half ago, it was a crappy break up on my end, because I was left with no emotional support, my life changed so quickly, as people say bad news comes in three's. So basically what has happened to me, has now come full circle to my ex, only difference she has a boy friend and well they for the most part are together, I know nothing about there relationship, she just tells me what they are doing, nothing more, we are friends, she just keeps me up to date with her life and her problems. I told her I understood her problems, and I know how it feels, just before I could say what I wanted to say, she said "I know ... I got up and left you all by your self and gave you very little support ... I am sorry for doing that", this is the second time she has done this. I kinda want to forget all that has happened, remember the good memories, and forgive the bad and not really speak of them again. I care the world for this girl, I am over her, for the most part. My heart is still there for her, my brain is not. What is the best course of action? Why does it hurt me still? Is it natural to feel this way?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 December 2010):
 I think it's more than natural to feel this way. It's very hard to get over a relationship especially when you have very strong feelings for the person.
Of course you are going to care for her and you probably always will care for her. It sounds like your brain knows you need to move on, but your heart doesn't want to or at least not right now. Move on. Find someone new and if you don't want to right now or your heart isn't into that, then concentrate on you and getting your life together. Maybe do some things that you haven't had a chance to do yet.
I find it harder to move on from someone if you are still friends with that person, but in some cases it's better to be in their life as a friend then not at all.
Good luck and I hope this helps you.
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