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*hilclinton
writes:hey guys i'm a 27 yr old man with an 42 yr old woman she seems to wanna fight with me over every thing.i'm always being accused of cheating (never have though it's been 5 months)i love her,sex is good but i can't really stand all the fighting especially since it's over nothing.why does she argue so much and can we make it? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 July 2009):
 You've answered your own question. She is afraid of losing you to another woman, most likely younger than she. Being 15 years older than your partner can be rather daunting to most women I would think. If you've done all you can do to shore up her self-esteem then it is up to her to change her attitude. Constant bickering and fighting is mentally and physically exhausting. Time to have a long chat and see if you guys can sort this out, if not then it's time to take a walk.
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reader, philclinton +, writes (9 July 2009):
philclinton is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's not i'm right your wrong!it's just saying little things like you probably had some bitch in here while i was at work!or these bitches in your photo album which one are you still fucking?
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reader, philclinton +, writes (9 July 2009):
philclinton is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have met the family they are normal for the most part and yes she was done wrong in the past but,i try to show her instead of tell her of my faithfulness.although we are together most of the time as soon as we are apart and come back together soon after come the alligations.then theres an ex that i think shes not over.i'm sure he's not over her!other than that i just think she waiting on me too leave her for a younger woman!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Have you met this woman's family? More than likely this is a learned behavior that she has been doing through her entire life and she knows no other way.
I would try to get to know her family. If they act this way towards one another, there is your answer. This behavior could be so ingrained that she will never learn another way of being.
It is best you find out soon, because a life with her could be a miserable existence.
The only other thing I could think of is that perhaps her hormones are unbalanced as she is nearing menopause. If that were the case, she could see the doctor and get hormone replacement therapy.
You do not deserve to be treated this way and whatever the cause (she may have been cheated on in the past), it is not your responsibility to be the bearer of her rudeness. Tell her nicely that her behavior is driving you away.
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reader, BusDriver +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Arguing - I think this is probably more of a control issue - especially if it is more of a 'I'm RIGHT' type of discussionsAccusing you of cheating - I was informed several years ago that when a mate accuses you of cheating, it is really them! I don't know if I would jump to the conclusion that she is cheating tho... probably some undealt with issues on her part from previous relationships.
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