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writes:Ok, I'll get right to the point. I've been with my girlfriend over 8 months now, and in the beginning we had sex almost every night. Sometimes I'd initiate it, sometimes she would. Sometimes she'd want it so bad she'd stop me from falling asleep. She'd even whisper that she wanted me while we were out getting a drink. Around the 5-6 month range, that dropped off almost completely. I asked what was wrong, and she said that she hated her job so much she was turned off by anything to do with the job (we both worked for an adult store). Ok, so I went with that and was really supportive. She got a new job last month that she really likes. Not too stressful. She said she was "back" again and we'd probably go back to the way it was. But we haven't. Part of me thinks it's because I'm still at the store. But most of me thinks I just don't do it for her anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, Robyn1701  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 well... If you hate sex stores because of your job, then you're unlikely to like any toys in the bedroom. If you're using them then I suggest that you stop for a while.
Maybe it's a romantic thing. Girls need a lot of romance and they need to know that you're not just using her for sex. You have to show her you love her.
Sometimes I feel the same and I don't want to do anything with my boyfriend because I feel like he's just using me. Waht I would love just once is to come in from college and have a nice romantic dinner and roses and chocolates... Like valentines day but out of the blue.
You don't have to do this for her all the time, but just once in a while hug her and tell her that she means the world to you. Don't push her into doing anything, but ask her what she likes and try to turn her on as much as possible. She'll probably give in!!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 Hmmm, you both worked in an adult store. I find that interesting because 99% of the population would never even consider working there. I think it says something about your attitudes toward sex. That in turn confuses me about what is actually bothering her, if anything. I'd wager that most people who work in stores like that are usually liberal minded. You need to talk to her, something seems off.
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