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writes:I am confused as to why my girlfriend of 18 months seems to resent me achieving anything. No matter what I do, she knows someone who did it better. Whatever I paid she knows where I could have purchased it cheaper. Her friends boyfriends all seem to have better cars, better jobs etc (not seen proof of it myself). She has not got a job or a car or home ownership either. How do I get her to stop the rivalry?
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reader, BeBlessed  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 why dont you ask her why she always puts you down. its most probly another issue she has thats shes not talking to you about so she takes it out on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2012): "How do I get her to stop the rivalry?"
Stop being her boyfriend. Compulsive know-it-alls are usually compensating for lack of self-esteem reflected in lack of tangible achievement in their own lives.
Either learn to expect to be one-upped live with it, or consider it a running joke, or break up. She's not going to change, doesn't sound like she has much going for her, you neglected to mention any redeeming qualities to indicate why you've been together eighteen months (I know she has too many to list in one posting, just need three to balance out no job and no car and no home).
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): she`s insecure. i would normally advise reassurance, but in her case it may work better if you remind her that being a 2nd class motorist is more favorable than being a 1st class pedestrian.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): Seems like she is a pessimist...glass is half-empty kind of gal. Depressing.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (17 July 2012):
 It sounds like she may be a little jealous of you, maybe feels that you are better than her, so she tries to put you down a bit. You need to talk to her and tell her that you are not too good for her and you like her for who she is but also that she needs to stop this behaviour as it is not fair to you.
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