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writes:My boyfriend and I have been living in our new house for 6 months. However, he lives away Monday to Friday during the week. When he comes home he always drinks. the minimum is 3 cans if he comes home during the week, but at the weekend it's always more, and goes onto harder stuff such as whiskey. I have told him to cut down on drinking every night but he says there is no harm. I don't know how to go about this. His dad drinks half a ltr bottle of gin every night and always did when he was growing up. I'm concerned he has to drink to be happy. what makes things difficult is that I'm having tests on my ovaries at the minute, and I'm almost blaming me for being boring and distant. Someone please advise Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 May 2015):
 Your boyfriend is an alcoholic. His father is an alcoholic and there is a strong genetic link to this disease.
I strongly urge you to learn as much as you can about alcoholism and the progression of the disease. It is a progressive disease and his use of alcohol will continue to increase over time.
Telling him to cut down on the booze will do NOTHING but make you crazy and make him mad.
I urge you to check out Al-anon which is a lovely support group for family and friends of alcoholics. It's open to anyone who's life is AFFECTED by alcohol.
http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/
I also invite you to PM me to discuss this privately as I am currently married to an alcoholic who has been working on sobriety since January 5th. But it required an arrest and over 90 days in rehab before he was able to stop.
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