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writes:Is it normal for a guy which has been devoiced for 2 years now to still have his ex wife's number on his cellphone, just not under any contact name but 'sweetheart', she left the county to marry another guy. we have been dating for 7 months now, i know a lot about his ex wife to be honest i even look like her, could i maybe just be a replacewell she is not here, or could he really like me? Love would be a really strong word to use. Im crazy about him and maybe i just fear she will return and i become history, is this normal behaviour?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell okay i spoke to him, well not exactly, i wrote him a nice long email explaining how i feel and why i feel that way about things of his ex wife. He told me a lot about her and why things happened to them the way it did. I actually feel very sorry for her now and at the same time dislike her even more. The good news is, he has lost all his feelings for his exwife he no longer loves her after everything she done, she is only a dim light that he no longer can remember. Although the bad news, he said he cant really ever take another responsibility like that again, but what our future holds is untold, i have been a really special princess to him and i have given him a lot of hope and feeling of life again. He also said, he would like to treat and respect me like he should, although im afraid, he wont let me touch him or kiss him even.. Should i just ask him or should i just try ask him out of the blue if i may kiss him? He really does mean the world to me and i dont want to lose him. Should i just take a few steps back and see what happens?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I still have my x-husbands # in my phone. But it's under his name. My current husband does'nt have a problem with it, nor never has.I've been remarried for 10 years and I still have it, our children are grown and we care about their welfare very much. There is nor has ever been anything going on since we split. Just ask him! You can tell a lot from his reaction!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all very much for answers, it really does mean a lot to me. I guess the only thing i can do is ask him about it, the worse he can say is thats its none of my business, if he feels the same about me maybe its time for her to leave, all of her! Thanx :)
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reader, Deema  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Hmmmmmm. Even look like her? I know thats not unusual, but can be a bit disconcerting if you know that. I don't think its unusual to have her number still, especially if there are kids involved, or if they parted on good terms, but tell him you feel unsettled by the fact that she's still there under sweetheart. See what he has to say about that. Could be he's too lazy to change it, could be its not important, or could be she will always be his sweetheart. Only way to find out is to ask. Good luck.
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reader, briebrie123  +, writes (30 December 2008):
It is normal to have his ex-wife's number if they have kids. If they dont then confront him about it and tell him i makes you unconfortable that he still has his ex-wife's number. If he really does feel the same way about you he would get rid of it. If he says he did get rid of the number and you check and he didnt he might still have feelings sbout his ex-wife. If you trust him you wont peek into his phone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I think under the circumstances, it is normal! She left him for the one she's married to now? If so, then she broke his heart! He probably does still have feeling for her. Its got to be so very hard for him to let her go completely! I don't think you should let it be a major deal. After all he is with you! I don't think she'll leave her new husband to go back.I don't think he'd take her back!
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